Potty Training Rewards

I would talk about how she's a big girl now, since she goes to school. Then a little while later (a day or two) I would mention that she doesn't need the jelly beans anymore and I will stop them in one week. Make it a countdown. Six days, five. . .Talk to her about what other kind of big girl treats she would like for a whole week of doing well (like a Happy Meal or a video rental).

Whatever the subject is, I've always found it best to give my kids advance warning and a countdown. And stay with the stickers, so you and the school are on the same page. I did stickers with my kids, too. It worked!

Keep the jelly bean thing going for now. Eventually you can use some type of phrase along the lines of she no longer needs silly jelly beans every time she goes, as really big girls don't get them....going to the bathroom when she needs to go is just something you learn when you become a really big girl. Perhaps also you can use a chart with stickers, and when the sticker is full for the week, you can get something bigger (go to McD's and let her get a happy meal, go to the $1 store and let her buy something, etc).

Wait til she's reliably doing it, and talk over and over again about how good it feels to wear big girl pants and keep them dry. When she's reliably potty trained, tell her that she is a big girl now and that big girls don't always get candy when they go, and wean her off of it. Give it to her 3 out of 4 times for awhile, then 2 out of 3, then half, then rarely. Sooner or later you'll be out of it.

I used mini m&m's in the beginning with my daughter. But didn't realize how many a day she'd be getting a day when i started. So after awhile i started to act like i just forgot. She was also 3. But I just had my second one so she knew I had to give a lot of attention to the little one. So I'd tell her I'll have to get it later. So after a bunch of times of going I's say "oh yeah, I forgot ur emie, let's get it". So I didn't lie to her just wiened her off. And then after w week or so she didn't get any. I felt she deserved some because pottying was a big deal (and with a new addition!) Just the other day my dad was playing with her and had a pack of m&m's and told her "here's one for u and the rest for papaw" she was like... OK... Dad just looked at me. I told him I don't really give her any candy so one for her IS a treat. Of course he gave her another. But it nice that she not one to beg for sweets. Well most of the time, Cookies can be a different storie sometimes :>D... I hope I helped some... Good Luck!

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J., I would continue the 'treat' at least for
1 more month,
then tell her she will get a sticker, a
nd if she gets so many stickers for the day, a few jelly beans as a reward if she enjoys those, or whatever you chose.

Then after a week or so, then space it to a week worth of stickers for every DAY she stays dry...
then a small reward..
and then it will already be a habit by then and then you can just do it for 2 wks and then a month and slowly it won't be a big thing anymore.. the other thing is maybe she gets to chose her big girl panties, and you can go shopping for a new 3 pack or something, this gets her off the TREAT reward.

Of course do what is best for you and your family. :)

You might give a treat (literally like one gold fish cracker) at the end of the day for staying DRY (instead of for using the potty). Or put a marble in the jar every day until it's full then go to McDonald's or something.

We used the potty bell. She got to ring it when she went and that was really cool.
I also went and purchased stars. She got a star for every dry day and night. She could then trade them in for a prize at the end of the week.
She is now 10 and saves her allowance for what she wants so I guess it taught a lesson.
I did the same with my 4 almost 5 yr old.

A friend of mine tried a sticker chart that ended in a bigger reward... like a barbie doll house or something else that she would really work toward. Just explain that now that she knows how to use the bathroom when she gets the urge...she doesn't need the jelly beans anymore. When I potty trained my son, we did ice cream Friday's. If he went poop in the potty x amount of times (working up to every time), we would go get ice cream at cold stone or where ever on Friday with all of us. We let him pick out the ice cream and whatever he wanted to make sure it was a big deal. It worked great! Good luck!

finish up the bag of jelly beans should be a few more weeks?? if not get another bag then finish that... one week isnt very long.... but once you feel shes really got it down just tell her after these there wont be any more treats and maybe go to stickers and then if she stays dry all week give her a tootsie roll.... good luck

Hi. My dd is almost 4 and has urinary reflux so the potty training took some time. She still has her moments and at night wears a pullup then if she can sneak one during day she will wear a pullup then too and not use potty. With her I started out with the treat of an m&m but then as longer time went on I started rewarding her with a peepee dance............elizabeth went to the potty elizabeth went to the potty yeah yeah yeah or just a high five when out at store or reading a book inplace of the treat. Think right now she still needs the positive reinforcement.
Good luck on your potty training adventure

If she's quite verbal, ask HER (or if she doesn't talk much, YOU decide) what she'd like for a bigger 'prize' (reward) for a longer period of success, and then make it a goal.

My daughter is 3 and uses a chart-- if she gets 5 "x" for being clean and dry all day-- then she gets a treat on Fridays.

I used treats with my dd also. I started waiting for her to ask instead of just giving them to her and gradually (just a couple of weeks), she was not asking anymore. Although I do have to admit occasionaly after being potty trained for well over 6 months she look at me and go "do I get my sucker now?". LOL! I just say no, you're a big girl now and leave it at that.

I would suggest that you keep up the jelly beans. We gave our kids one M&M for pee pee and 3 for poopie. We did it until we ran out of M&M's.

I remember it being easy, it just kind of took care of itself. She will eventually go on her own when she has to go and not come and tell you and those times she should not expect the treats. Once she is full blown trained, I would not worry about the treats. Maybe just once a week. Or once a day you can say, "well, here is your treat for the day of going on the potty" and eventually that will be gone too.

Hi J.,

I have a 3 year old daughter as well who we recently potty trained. We did not give her any treats/stickers for using the potty just praise and hugs. However, we she was ready for underpants we took her to the store and bought Dora underpants together (My daughter love Dora). It was a big deal and everytime she puts them on she smils. Maybe you could try something like this?

J.

I have four boys and we made the mistake of training with mini m & m's. With the last one we changed and everytime he went we would praise and let him flush his pee pee down the toilet. Then he would get a penny for going. We would put the penny in his penny big bank which is small so he can carry it around with him. This has worked well and not caused any setbacks.

I never did the treat for the potty thing, so this idea is from friends who did. Make a prize jar and put marbles, or pennies, or jellybeans, or whatever she likes, and when a certain number is accumulated she gets a big treat. For example, a tea party with mom or a date with dad or a morning at a certain play area or she can pick out a package of panties. So, if you want to move away from the candy, but still reward her, that is one way. If you want to get away from the entire reward system, ease into that by saying that she gets a treat at the end of a no accident day. Then lengthen the duration as she becomes a more accomplished potty girl. Good luck!

when we did this with our grandaughter we said we would give her 5 for the whole day if she went all day with out a mistake, then it was a trip to mcdonalds or something for a week of no mistake about 2 weeks of that and it was just forgotten a week is a long time to remember, we had no problems, our latest grandaughter was not interested till she was 3 also and just boom she was trained, no problems,i wonder why people are in such a hurry to train a 1 or 2 year old i have found when they are ready it is so easy when they are not .... good luck and God bless it sounds like you are a wonderful mom and doing a great job have fun cindi

maybe start by substituting the jelly beans with raisins or apples or something more healthy because you may be teaching her to pee in the potty but you are also promoting tooth decay and beginning her on junk food which in my opinion I'd rather her pee in her pants than eat jelly beans loaded with artificial flavors and sweetners... and sugar causes tantrums and eratic behavior. Just don't get caught rewarding kids with foods you'd rather they didn't have.
That's just me!

I would keep giving them to her for a little while. We did the M and M thing. I am not sure how we stopped. I guess we just forgot one time... got her interested in something else to take her mind off of it and then one day she just didn't ask. Not sure how it worked out but some how it just does.
Good luck.

When my own daughter was young, she was "late" in potty training successfully. What seemed to work the best was lots of praise, and when she went three straight days without an "accident", I took her shopping and let her pick out her new big girl underwear, including 2 pairs of panties with lace and ruffles, in pastel colors. She picked out Sesame Street panties, and was extremely focused on NOT messing them up!!
We did the same for several kids in the family who were having a hard time training. When they're ready, it happens!! As far as treats, I never gave her one every time, but once in awhile at first. I kept raisins, grapes, and home made frozen pudding pops on hand.

Congrats on the potty training... I know what a relief it is when they finally start telling you! If your daughter adjusts really well to change then you could probably wean her off them in a week or less; if not, it'll probably take longer to make sure she keeps it up. I had a jar of 6 or 7 suckers for my son and he only got one when he pooed in the potty. When the jar was empty, that was it. I didn't mention it, and if he did I'd say "all gone" and quickly distract him with something else, like the excitement of washing his hands or clapping and saying "yay!"