Potty Training - Stacy, MN

you can NOT put a diaper on her thats the same thing my son would do,exept he would pee, but was scared to death of sitting on the potty and pooping, he would beg me to put a diaper on him as soon as i did, he'd poop, so i finally said nope-theres the potty you know what to do, and he did! once he got over that inital fear the first time it was smooth sailing

My daughter would do the same thing and just hold it until I put a diaper on her. So instead of wasting my morning waiting for her to go in the potty I let her run around without a diaper. She had one accident and now uses the potty and wears underpants except at nap and bedtime. However she is still terrified about going poop in the potty. This she can a nd will hold until I put a pull-up on her. Anyhow, I've gotten halfway there.

T.

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My son was a little like that. We would not put a diaper on him. We stayed home as much as possible and let him be naked. He peed once oon the floor. We made him clean it up. We brought him to the potty evry hour or so. He did it, we praised him. HE did it again, more praise. Kids have an inherent knowledge that if w/out a diaper, theu shouldnt pee on floor. He is 31 months and potty trained now. #2 was a little scary for him, he qould refuse, get off toilet, we put him back on. After an hour of this, he went. Now, he just fine. If she is at daycare, have them bring her more than they normally do. Put her in those pullups that make the child feel wet and cold...Ive heard they help too. S. J

Hello,

What we did for my DD 3 days after she turned 3 was, underware cold turkey, the first time she went on the potty I gave her a prize, then each time after that she got a sticker for a chart, for every 3 times she went potty and put a sticker on the chart, she would then get to pick a wrapped prize from a basket, she loved it. After a day or 2 she would start to forget about the presents and just go and then run back to play, so about after a week or so we totally emliminated the prize basket. Not sure if it would work for any other kids, but give it a try. You might also want to start on a potty chair, maybe a bit less scary

Good Luck, it only took us 2 days, thanks to the prizes!

my son was like that for while also. i just let him pick the pace on potty training. and got him stickers and little awards for going. in the beginning was more harder for him as his pee hole was to small. theres a term for it but not sure what it is. but after he had his surgery he did alot better. and now we are working on nap and nite training. which seems harder then day training. get her somefin she enjoys weither it be stickers or toys or candy. somefin so she knows yeah i go potty i get this as a award. good luck.

I agree with lots of the advice already shared. Using the potty (or not using the potty) is one of the only areas your child has complete control over you (eating is the other). As hard as it is, I have heard you have to act like you could care less if she uses it or doesn't. A friend of mine told her son that he would be able to play at the neighbor's house as soon as he was a 'big kid' (potty trained). She used other motivating things as well - he'd be able to use a big boy cup, get a booster seat, etc. too. It worked for her. Good luck - don't get stressed!!

Relax. Kids will potty train when they are ready. If you start too early all you will do is end up tired and frustrated. My son will be 4 next month and he JUST started wearing underwear and using the toilet a month ago. We are still working on the pooping part and he has to wear a pull up to bed (I have a feeling he will be one of those kids who wets the bed until he's 8). He just decided one day to start wearing the underwear and up to that point I knew he was just being lazy. He knew how to pee in the potty and everything he just refused to give up the diapers. The more you push your child the more resistent she will become and then it is just a battle of wills. YOU WILL NOT WIN!!! :-)

At this point all you can do is just ask her things like, "Do you want to wear your big girl underwear today?" I can go on and on with all kinds of advice, but the bottom line is take your time with it and don't let other people try to tell you when to potty train your child. I was getting some grief from aunts (not really directly--through my mom) that my son should be potty trained by now. Even my pediatrician's son wasn't trained until almost 4 1/2, so take heart and don't worry so much about it.

Hi, my daughter started showing an interest at a very young age, (about 14 months) I let her sit when she wanted, but I never pushed the issue. Then at about 18-20 months she started crying and carrying on every time she messed her pull-up. So at 25 months I borrowed a book from the library called "Toilet training in less than a day" by Nathan Azrin and Richard Foxx. I thought it would be a bunch of nonsense, but I read it anyway. I liked it so much and believed it would work, maybe not in a day, but it did make sense, so I bought it. The next day we tried it, it's like a potty training boot camp. My daughter is so incredibly strong willed I was hesitiant about whether or not she would actually cooperate. With so many treats and rewards-just for that day though-she did really well. She went on the potty 4 times and had 4 accidents that day. The next day we went a little backwards. I was ready to give up, but we kept her in panties anyway. The following day she only had a couple accidents. We started on a Monday, and by that Thursday night she began a dry streak that lasted until Sunday afternoon. It's been four full months now and since that first week I can count the number of accidents on two hands. She was wet most nights before we trained, and now this is her first full week in panties over night. Her pull-up stayed dry most nights since we started, but there were still a few wet mornings. The main idea of this book is to teach them to teach a doll that wets how to use the potty. After they've taught the doll, it's time to start with them. They are allowed and encouraged as much to eat and drink as possible on the day of the boot camp, so make there more chances to have to use the potty. After they go on the potty chair it is there "responsibility" to dump the contents into the toilet, flush and resplace the bowl, wash their hands, and pull up and down their pants. When they have an accident it is also their "responsibility" to clean up the accident and to practice going from wherever they had the accident to the potty chair, pull down their pants sit down, stand up and pull their pants back up. It gives them a chance to really get used to getting to the potty in a hurry. I know this sounds harsh, but my daughter thought it was more of a game than anything. And after the results I've had, I would (and have) recommendit to anyone. I do home day care and I offered the book to one of my moms. Her daughter was in a diaper on a friday, and when she came on the following monday, she was in panties, and to this day has had one accident at my house. Anyway, sorry this is so lengthy good luck with the "Adventures in potty training."

It'll be messy for the first day or so but just don't put a diaper on her. Let her run around naked and then put her on the potty right before (or during). Go overboard on the praise when she goes on the potty. Stickers, candy, whatever. Dr. Phil's website has a GREAT program.

The more I wanted my daughter to be potty trained the less she wanted to. I finally told her she couldn't go to preschool which was the truth until she was potty trained. That worked like a charm. I was working at inhome daycare at the time and we had 2 other boys the same age potty training and somehow it turned into a competition. They would run to the bathroom and fight over who got to go first. It was actually kinda nice. She started going on the potty voluntarily at 15mos. old but wasn't potty trained til a few months before her 3rd birthday.

I feel for you, both my children were not potty trained till age 3. They will do it when they are ready, intill then parents are fustrated. I am a daycare provider that has also helped in the potty training process. First, you have to be consistant. I asked the child on the hour every hour if they had to go potty. Some children want you in there with them, some want privacy. Always remain calm and incouraging. I tried potty charts and rewarded them with a sticker for the first couple weeks. We even do a Potty dance, whenever they do go. Everyone is excited and happy!! Hang in there, it will happen someday!

I have the same problem, but actually 35mo and has no interest in potty training. Only once in awhile will she just sit. She actually told me that she did not need to potty in the big potty because she did that "last year" ugh!!! I have noticed, however that the 2 little girls she plays with quite a bit at day care are also in pull ups. I wonder if she will do something when she sees them.

i am a mother of two wonderful kids, a little girl 8 who basically potty trained herself at 18 months, she just wanted to go... i am not one to push, it is their accomplishment not mine....my son was 3 years 8 months when he got potty trained. he had NO DESIRE to go, he just wanted to play. it's been 3 months and he still wears pull ups at night....i figure as long as they are happy, that is more important..she will do it. take care

I was getting frustrated with my daughter...after doing a lot of research, I dedcided to let her decided when she would use the potty. I would always encourage her by asking her if she needed to sit on the potty. If she declined I did not force the issue. Sitting on the potty for an hour or more is too long. She will know when the time is right.

V., R.N., B.S.N

My sister in law had a battle potty training her son. He totally resisted potty training, even though he would tell her when he had to poop, when he had pooped and if he was wet he refused to wear underware and threw a fit when she tried to take away his diapers.

Her solution was to stop talking about it, put a potty in the bathroom, and every time she went in to use the bathroom, ask him if he wanted to use his potty too. Because there was suddenly no pressure and also no attention placed on the whole potty training thing, he was trained within a few weeks. He was also over 3 years when this happened.

For him, it was totally a battle of wills, and once the battle ground was removed, he potty trained very easily.

Just an idea.

J.

Try using her favorite cartoon, my daughter is 2 and we use Dora the Explorer underwear and training pants and I always tell her she can't "tinkle" on Dora and so far with the exception of late night she does pretty well. She hates public restrooms so that is a challenge, but try the favorite cartoon character. I also make a big deal by singing and clapping when she does go to the potty. It makes her feel really important and special.