Potty Training - Stockton,CA

I had the exact same problem with my 3 yr old son. I put pull-up on and he didnt seem to know the difference, i put underware on and I had to throw them away because that didnt work either finally I just left him naked all day and yes it was messy but it seemed to kinda work and finally on his own he started going I kept pushing him to use the potty and it didnt work and when I left him alone he did it. She will to it when shes ready and not being pushed to do it. As a parent its hard not to push them to go to the bathroom but we have to let them do it at their own time. Dont feel bad my nephew was 4 yrs old when he decited to use the potty and his doctor said that it was o.k.

My daughter started potty training at about 2. I say starting because she went back and forth and there were so many accidnets! Finally I just put her back in pull-up or diapers full time. A day or 2 after her 3rd birhtday she she she had to go potty, went by herslef and now she is fully potty trained. Some accidents still at night, but she's stopping that now too. Honestly, from what I have read from other mom's on here I think 3 is the age when it happens. Don't push. You'll just make her scared. Keep the big girl underwear as an incentive, make sure they're ones SHE picked out. We give our kids stickers if they use the toilet. A tiny reward does wonders. Right now we're working on my son the same way we did our daughter. POint is, let the child decide when she's ready. Good luck.

My son and my neice were the same way. I wasted a whole lot of time and energy trying to train my son when a month after he turned 3 I just gave up and put him back in diapers. Eventualy he would throw a fit when I tryed to put a diaper on him and wanted pullups. And then he would go in his pants at nap times or any other time he wanted attention. So we put a potty in his room and told him that he had to make peepee or poo in the morning before he could come out of his room. And from that day on he has gone in the toilet every time. Of course we have minor accidents with pee every now and then but not often. I think he felt like he was in control by going potty he got to leave his room, and that was why he was going in his pants anyway so we would have to come change him. With my second son I have decided that I am not going to even try until he starts initiating it himself. Oh we got my son to go durring the day by letting him run around naked, but after a while he turned it into a power thing. My suggestion is don't worry about it to much. I know it's hard because everyone is constantly asking about her potty training, but never fear she will not be walking down the isle with a diaper under her wedding dress. ;) ~V.

Hi I.. I am sorry but I disagree with keeping them in diapers until they are ready. I have 2 and 4 year old daughters and they were both potty trained before 2. I simply tossed the diapers and told them they were big girls now. I put them in panties one Friday and stayed at home all weekend and put them on the pot every 20 minutes. They both were well praised when they went and I didn't speak of any accidents that occurred. I know that potty training is 90% mental and emotional so it can be detremental to scold an accident.
I also potty trained my stepson when he was 2. His dad would scold his accidents in frustration and it only made the process take that much longer.
In my experience with friends going through potty training, most seem to be frustrated or simply don't want to take the time necessary to get it done. And they would rather put the diaper on than clean the mess. Now I ask you how would you feel if you were told you were a big boy for going on the potty and then put back into baby diapers if you had an accident. I would feel defeated. It takes time and a whole lot of love and patience.

I potty trained my two year old boy by just taking away diapers completely. We had a little diaper bye bye party, and put them all in a bag and pretended to throw them away. Then I put him in underwear. He would start to pee himself, and as he started, I picked him up and ran him to the toilet to finish. This went on for 24 hours, and before I knew it, he started saying "potty" before he started to pee. We had a couple accidents, but he was done in 3 days.

This way is very messy, but it worked for me!

My son LOVES the DVD "Elmo's Potty time"
He sings along the songs and everything.

He's still shy of his training potty (he's only 2 and 4 months) but after watching that DVD 20 bazillion times, when I'm not looking he'll sit on it (fully clothed) and make potty noises or put his Elmo doll on the potty and tell him to go, etc.

I am also going thru the same experience with my 3yr old son. He had been showing signs of willingness @ 18mos - 34mos but unfortunately we moved and took alot of vacations during that time and I didn't push it and it was just easier to use disposables(I'm paying the price for that now!). Now that he's 3 his independence is working against us. I tried EXPENSIVE european training pants, pull-ups and just underwear. It's all the same to him, if it can hold pee & poo he'll go in it rather than the toilet or potty chair. A friend recommended the DVD Potty Power and it seems to have brainwashed him in a good way. After watching it all day - he started using the toilet again. I've also noticed he's been using the toilet regularly on his own if I leave him naked from the waist down. So I think it's progressing, but it's gonna take some time. I think the trick when they're older is to let them think it's their idea and that Potty Power DVD reinforces that fact. I bought mine at the toys-r-us just off the 78 in oceanside. Best of luck to you.

When my daughter was 3 I had the same problem. She really wanted to take dance lessons but I told her that she had to use the potty before she could take dance lessons. After about 2 months of struggle she gave in and used the potty and as soon as she did she asked if we could go to dance class. Maybe you could find something that your daughter really wants and use it to bargain.

I would continue letting her wear diapers; she will decide when she is ready. If she does go in the toilet, then applaud her, but don't pressure her that she is fully ready for panties or pull ups. Pull ups didn't help me at all, my dtr. used them as a diaper.

Hi I.,
There's a great potty training DVD out there called, "Potty Power" and my son took to potty training very fast. The DVD is so cute and fun, I'm sure she'll grow to like going to the potty soon enough! You can try to search for it at your local library or buy it online.
Just remember patience is key, because she's going to have accidents and stuff. It can take a few weeks or months. And I heard girls are so much easier to potty train than boys. So hope all goes well and happy potty training!

Z.

We used a "potty candle". I know it's silly and people think I'm crazy, but it really does work. What we would do is whenever she went potty (and she HAD TO GO POTTY, not just "try") She would get to blow out a candle. She LOVED it. What's great about that, is that when we were out to dinner, a lot of places have candles on the tables and so if she went potty she would blow it out. Otherwise, we (my husband or I, even my Aunt & my dad) would carry a lighter and/or a birthday candle or some other type of candle and we would just pull it out. Everything went so smoothly. In fact, a stranger overheard me talking about this and I told her about it. Three days later, we ran into each other again, and she was yelling, "It worked!!! It worked!!! The candle really worked!" I totally forgot about our conversation we had a few days earlier, but she was so ecstatic. I've used this "technique" on neighbors and it worked like a charm! But, I've tried it on my son and my nephews, and it seems that boys could care less. Oh well, Good Luck and let us know how it turns out!!!!

Hi I.! :)

I HIGHLY recommend using the "doll method".
I trained my son using a "Potty Scotty" (Potty Patty for girls)doll. Not sure if you've heard of it--but basically--you toilet train your child in 1 day by having them teach the doll to use the toilet. In teaching the doll, they teach themselves. It worked like a charm for my son, who was 2 year, 2 months, but he did have problems with the pooping thing (some kids just do I guess) until one time he went in his pants and i backed him up to the toilet and "flipped" the poop in his undies into his toilet. He was shocked and said, "No!! Make messy!!" I thought--ah ha! So i took him around and showed him how dishes go in the cupboard, clothes in the closet, toys in the toy box and then explained that poopoo belongs in the toilet. You could see the little lightbulb go on in his head as he understood. I've had no problems with him since. :) He caught on REALLY fast and we both had a really pleasant experience with the method.
Anyway, Everyone I know who've used it had great results (my mom even trained ME on it hehe) and it's a lot of fun too! I recommend doing a search for Potty Patty on google to see a list of stores or using Ebay. (I'm a fan of ebay lol)
Best of luck to you and your daughter on this fun milestone!

~M.

I let my daughter go around the house without any underwear or pull-ups on. Yeah, it was a mess, but that was only a couple times. Then I put her training toilet in my bathroom and she would go in there everytime I went. She will get used to all that and just go in there by herself. Hope this helps.

I know there is no full proof advice for potty training. My son did not decide to go on his own unti he was 3 1/2. Verbaly my son was not ready for it, he didnt have the words to say he had to go): But beyond disscussing going to the potty, what really got him going was watching and knowing that other "Big Boys " his peers were using the potty. The potty trainning chair never worked for my son, he needed the real thing so we got him a step stool and the balance on the potty act was born. As for pull ups I resorted to the cheep brand so that my son wouldn't enjoy the pictures on them as much as the cool pictures on his spidy boxers, But he still wore them for almost a year(: Good luck to you, and your "Big Girl" who will learn to use the Potty (:

Hi I.,

My son will be three in March too and we are working on the potty training. He's doing really good to pee in the toilet but, having a hard time for #2. He wants the diaper...

Anyways, keep on trying.. leave the underwear it will help..
be patient..

Hi I.,
Just thought it was neat. That I am also 27, have five kids which include a set of twins. :) my oldenst is a boy nine, a 4 year old girl, 3 year old twin girls and 4 week old girl.