Post-baby Body Questions

N B - I am in the EXACT same boat, I have a 10 month old and a 2 1/2 year old - 20 months apart - I too have just lost 20 lbs and it feels great, but I still don't have the pep back in the bedroom. My husband is wonderful as well and it is funny, I never want to do it, but when we do I am always happy I did - does that make sense. I think it is a mindset to start. I would say try a few toys that will help you out - I know that sounds weird, but if you have some fun too, it will help!! If you find the miracle, let me know :) Best of luck to you and your hubby!

I agree with the moms who say TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF, FIRST. I have learned that I'm a better Wife AND mother when I do my best to get enough exercise, sleep, and quiet time. I work out regularly and more than make up for it in productivity without a doubt.

Also, make sure you're getting enough nutrition. Getting enough food and getting enough nutrition are NOT the same things. You might be surprised to learn that most obese people are MALNOURISHED in spite of their high intake.

It's practically impossible to get from our food what we need anymore, so I always advocate for a high quality, well-balanced powdered nutritional supplement in addition to a good diet and exercise. Powdered because it's better absorbed and readily available for your body to use. It makes a HUGE difference! What ever you decide nutritionally, don't expect overnight results. It can take weeks or months to notice the results because unlike drugs, it doesn't force your body to do things, it ALLOWS your body to function normally, and your body has it's own timetable for healing/improvement.

In the mean time, find other ways to be intimate with your husband to meet his and your needs where you are both at right now. And like some of the other women said, sometimes just getting going helps you get going!

~A.~

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My advice to get back in the groove is to take a weekend away with your husband so you can remeber why you fell in love with him. you just need time to reconnect and destress. It works wonders for me hope it helps :) T.

My pastor just did a message on " The Elephant in the Room" in the bedroom. You and your husband should watch it together. It is a lot just about differences in men and women. It will really help start your conversation about it. Go to www.eaglebrookchurch.com God Bless!

Hello,

You don't need to feel that you are alone in the world with those feelings. I have two boys that are 5 and 7 and I am not just getting back in the grove. I think working full time and having two boys consumes my time and energy. I am not feeling overwhelmed as when they were little and I think I can now relax with my husband. I wish I had words of wisdom to pass on but I just wanted you to know that you are not alone in your feelings.

MB

I would ask your doctor for a complete physical, including blood tests to check your testosterone levels. I recently had my testosterone levels checked, and they were low. It was a relief to know there was a reason! My doctor gave me a gel that I apply to my upper arms three times a week. It's been about a month, and it seems to be working!