PMS & Throwing Things???

I threw a radio at the wall once. You can imagine my shock when it went right through the wall! I was so embarrassed and I knew I had to do something.

I went to my doctor and got on zoloft. My PMS went away and I no longer became moody or "yelled" the week before my period. My house was instantly peaceful all 28 days of the month! Well......I was calm anyway.

A few years later I ended up having a hysterectomy for other reasons. I was so nervous my PMS would magically return it took me over a year to have the guts to go off the zoloft......but I did and without PMS as a factor I remained calm and all was fine without meds. I'm the calm lady I was before the years PMS altered our lives.

This is how you help your husband to understand......be brave enough to get some help.
He can't ever REALLY understand .........but us Mamma's do.
Hang in There!

I'd recommend you check in with your OBGyn as soon as you can. If your symptoms are getting worse, then you need to get control before they control you and possibly, bring more chaos to your marriage.

I'm sure the OBGyn would introduce medication to control this, but you can also successfully seek an alternative and natural course, too. (I do not believe in putting chemicals into the body as I have suffered from it personally.). Reflexology is an amazing choice as I have controlled my PMS and cycle this way~ it DRASTICALLY reduced my migraines, pain and all that when with PMS in addition to what other issues I needed to work on. (R.A. and migraines in general.).

There are herbs and homeopathy you can research as well. If you do not have faith in your researching abilities... then find a holistic nutritionist or naturopath to assist you. I have had many clients have more luck going the natural route vs. using chemicals to control their hormones fluctuating.

I would definitely talk to your OB/Gyn. There are so many potential causes for this. I went through it and was pretty much psychotic for about 3 days a month. I had a friend come stay with me whenever my husband could not be home with me until I was able to get into the doctor. My OB checked a lot of different blood levels. In my case, I had elevated insulin levels that was causing the issue, but I know there are many other possibilities.

No, I've never thrown things, but I can get snippy sometimes. My doctor recommended I try taking evening primrose oil for a while. It does seem to help. Otherwise, check with your doctor for other suggestions. Exercise is great too. But, you are responsible for your actions, not the PMS. Nobody deserves to have anything thrown at them. Let your hubby know what you will do in the future to try to prevent this from occuring again. Good luck!

I also suffer with really badly during this time , moody/aggressive/angry , starts 2 weeks into my cycle and then as soon as I get my period everything is wonderful!....anyway I saw an advert on TV for a contraceptive pill called Yaz and it said it helps with symptoms of PMDD , I had no idea what this was so looked it up and I was basically reading about myself. I am not saying this is what you have but it might be worth talking to your doctor about the possibility. I decided to try Yaz and so far I have to say I do notice an improvement , I still am a little snappy but not nowhere near as bad as it was.

take responsibility for your actions and quit blaming the pms, then he might be more forgiving.

First of all, hubby probably deserved it! My dh even says so! Men are insensitive jerks, getting that upset about a piece of toast is just ridiculous!

All the women telling you to go get meds to fix you have issues. Our society is too drug crazy.

If you want relief from your symptoms, you could try chiropractic care for starters. Some calcium lactate could also help with the physical symptoms. Don't let these women convince you that there is something wrong with you, they have all medicated their emotions away.

Well, at least it was toast and not a glass plate or anything!

I threw something at my husband once, but he was being a jerk and knew it so he wasn't too terribly upset, though it does come up sometimes.

One thing though you have to think about, did he deserve your anger? Were you just ultra sensitive and upset over nothing which resulting in the toast flinging, or was he truly being a jerk and you lost control for a moment? Sometimes, when we act out, we over apologize for our reactions, forgetting that the guy was acting like an sob in the first place and then all the blame is on us.

So, just try to keep your composure, practice deep breathing, drink lots of water, eat healthy snacks throughout the day and do some exercise, maybe a little bit of walking or even yoga to start out. Exercise is supposed to help calm us and reduce pain and increase energy while pms'ing.

If these methods don't help as much as you need, and you feel more of the anxiety, hot flashes and such, then your obgyn can prescribe some things to help. You never know if there is an underlying medical issue at work.

I tell my husband when he says I'm being snippy and extra hormonal during that time of the month, "No, I'm always this pissed about things, I just keep it under wraps. Now is when I just plain don't care what people think and speak my mind" ;)

Jennifer,
You're NOT imagining things. Not sure what your age is, but I assure you it gets worse as we move toward menopause! Once you mention it to other women, most likely you will get an earful. I breezed through most of my life with scarcely a cramp, bloat or blip on the radar before getting my period. NOW--it's another story. Not physical symptoms, but anxiety like crazy and feeling like I could jump out of my own skin. Talk to your OB/GYN, there are things they can prescribe for PMS. You don't need to suffer any longer (or hit your hubby with anything else!). Good luck.

Well, Love, I'd say that even if everyone does it, doesn't make it right. :) Growing up, my mom used pms as an excuse for every bad behavior and it hurt all of us that she never took responsibility for her actions and never changed. Your husband deserves an apology and, if the hard truth be told, you need to address what might be a brewing anger problem. If you'd written to tell us that your husband threw something at YOU, we'd all be up in arms over how totally unacceptable that is, no matter what kind of mood he was in or why. So the same applies to you.

That's not to say I'm not sympathetic to bad moods or mood swings, but it's definitely something to address on your part, not to "make your husband understand." So, I'd address the chemical part of it with your GYN, yes... (did you know that hormonal contraceptives contribute to mood swings?) ... but I'd consider addressing the "heart" part of it by checking out the 40 day Love Dare Challenge: http://klove.com/BLOG/post/2010/01/05/The-40-day-journey-...

I started it thinking it'd be nice and romantic (which it is, too), and found it actually quite challenging and convicting about the things I needed to work on in my half of the marriage. Only takes a few minutes each day, but I definitely believe it is life- and marriage-changing. God bless!

Hi, I've been taking YAZ for about 2 months now and definitively my PMS symptoms have improved. Talk to your OB/Gyn, it is a painful situation for you and your family. Your family will support you, but you have to do something about it, change...

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