PLEASE - Ideas Needed - Potty Training Setback!!

My daughter is 3.5 and still wears a pull up at night. She has woken up a couple of times in the middle of the night and called for me, but she is so out of it she can't really talk. When this happens I take her to the potty, and in the morning she is still dry.

In the morning when she was alert, I told her if she woke up in the middle of the night, she was allowed to go potty on her own if she needed to. Her eyes got huge! She didn't know she could do this on her own - wow! It was a very big deal for her, because that meant she was really a big girl.

Sometimes she will go potty at night, and sometimes she will sleep thru it and have a soggy pull up in the morning. But she is learning. I know some kids "get it" right away, but others have to ease into things.

I would bring the night time pull ups out again, and tell him he is a big boy who can go to the potty on his own or he can ask you to go with him. Make the choice his.

If he has an accident during the day, just tell him to go change, and he has to help clean up (he made the mess, he has to help clean it) but other than that, don't show any reaction at all. Once it does not bother you, I bet he'll come around.

Good luck!

I would let him wear his wet undies for a little bit before having him change them. When it's time for clean, dry undies, make him take care of it himself. He will eventually grow tired of having to change his clothes over and over again. My middle son (almost 4) is the same way. Peeing his pants didn't seem to bother him and at first, changing his clothes afterwards didn't bother him either. But after so many accidents and me reminding him to get clean clothes and throw the icky ones in the basket, he got sick of it.

I think you are doing all you can do but do not use those diapers or pull ups unless its absolutely necessary eventually he'll get it.If he's telling you he has to poop then I believe he'll start telling you or jus go on his own when he has to pee.

my son will be 5 in 2 months. he has been trained for almost half that. he too regressed, not stopping what ever it was he was doing. it drove me crazy. once the brides and charts didn't work i treatened him. i know that sounds bad but here's how it went... you are my big boy right? and big boys wear undies right? well you keep peeing in your pants and i'm gonna have to put baby diapers on you if you keep peeing your pants....

i did try making him change himself and his bed things but he didn't seem to mind doing it or sleeping on the floor until him bed dried out. half the time he would just sleep in his dirty things on the floor. the diapers threat seemed to work the best and once we got on the right track again then came the treats and things. good luck.

When I had that same trouble with a child I was a nanny to, I called the doctor to make sure he didn't have a urinary track infection. After ruling that out, I was told that many children who are very "bright" in other areas get so busy playing that they aren't in tune with their bodies and just pee. He didn't care if he was wet. I did make him change his own clothes and put them in the washer. I had to go back to stopping him from what he was doing and making him sit on the potty. He almost always peed (and peed and peed) and then he was allowed back to whatever he had been doing. Rewards didn't work. Only keeping him on a strict potty schedule did. He was sent to the bathroom before we went anywhere, before every meal, before nap/bed and drinks were limited in the evening. I never allowed more than 2 hours to go by without taking him to the bathroom, and I was there to make sure he actually went and he didn't just say he did. Also you can't give most children a big drink before bed and expect them to hold it until morning, especially if they are a sound sleeper. I also would say things like "you need to stop playing so you can stay dry. It's time to go potty". If he didn't pee, I'd wait 20 more minutes and try again. I also told him he wouldn't be able to play at a friends house or have someone over if he wet his pants because he was too old to pack a change of clothes and noone wants to play with someone who smells like pee-pee. I didn't holler about it. I spoke it as a fact and ONLY did it this way because I knew he could go on the potty. He was just refusing to stop playing to go. Eventually the time between potty visits lengthened but I still remind him before we go anywhere and he's 9. (I've been his nanny for 7+ years)It takes a lot of dedication on your part and the part of anyone else who he is with (dad, grandma, care giver etc.) but I found that consistency is what worked. I had been a pre-school teacher for about 13 yrs. and a nanny these past 7. ALL of my children have been potty trained using this "method" by the time they were 2.

It took so long to potty train her I was afraid my daughter wouldnt be able to attend preschool. My hubby came up with the idea that whenever she successfully used the potty the whole day we would give her a parade. He hummed a marching song & carried her on his shoulders while her brothers & I marched behind them all through the house. After a few parades she was fine.