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Nursing Vs. Formula

Ok, so here's my dilemma. I would love to be able to breastfeed my son (who will be here in about 6wks) for more than just a few weeks. But unfortunately, I have to go back to work as soon as possible and my work doesn't have anywhere I can comfortably pump, nor is my boss going to appreciate me taking 15-30min every few hours to pump in the employee bathroom. My mom will be helping take care of my son when I go back to work, and she is concerned that she will have a hard time getting him to eat since he won't be comfortable with the bottle or her if I exclusively breastfeed while I am at home. She is also saying that I need to give my milk time to dry up before I go back to work so that I will be more comfortable at work and not engorged. I have read all the benefits of breastfeeding, and I know that formulas now-a-days are alot closer to breastmilk than they used to be. I also know that a happy mom equals a happy baby. I was formula fed and came out perfectly fine. I will be a single mom, so I have to consider all my options, especially since I can't afford to stay out of work more than the usual 6wks.

I guess my question goes to moms that have had this dilemma... would it be better to breastfeed for a couple weeks (include the cost of a manual pump, bags, pads, nipple butter) or just go straight to formula (i would get it covered under WIC and already have the bottles, so the only cost would be the drop in liners)?

I need to let my WIC office and my doctors know before I deliver, and I'm already having Braxton Hicks and I've dropped, so we are all thinking he may come early, so I'm trying to make these decisions and get everything set as soon as possible.

Thank ya'll in advance!

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I had same dilemna. I did a combination of both for about a month and then formula fed. That way he got some of the "Gentler to digest" milk along with the harder to digest formula.. and got used to both.. and bottle... and then I weaned him off.

As for WIC-tell them you will formula feed. They will give you vouchers for formula, and even if you do end up breastfeeding longer then planned, you can stock up on some formula for when the baby needs more then WIC covers.

Best of luck!

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Just go for the formula. Don't let it bother you. It is what it is. I went through the same thing until I actually read the data that was available for the people who bf/didn't bf. Honestly, my children (non-bf) are at the top of their peers for everything. Not to brag. But I know at least two girlfriends who ebf whose children are autistic. NOT THAT THERE IS A LINK. Just to say. It doesn't matter. As long as they are getting the things they need.

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The Obama administration recently passed a law that REQUIRES employers to provide you with a sanitary and comfortable nursing room, that is not a bathroom, as well as adequate breaks for pumping. The labor department released this information:
http://www.flemploymentlawblog.com/uploads/file/FLSA%20Br...

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Oh, nurse, nurse, nurse. Any bit will help. It will help greatly to protect your babies immune system. It is also a wonderful bonding experience. Now that I have kids I have a lot of mom friends, and I really do see the difference in infants health between formula and nursing. It seems like the formula fed babies get sick a lot more frequently. I nursed my daughter for 13 months, and my son is now almost 1 and still going strong..and they both were never sick during the time they nursed. You can definitely use formula AND nurse. Your body will adjust...so don't listen to your mom about engorgement ( no disrespect). Engorgement happens, no matter what. It is part of having a baby! If you plan to use formula while at work, after a few weeks of solo nursing, introduce your baby to the bottle during those times. Start with one bottle, then go to two, etc. That way you will give your body time to adjust. You can definitely still nurse before work, after work, and before bed. Formula is VERY expensive. That is great if you get it covered with WIC. Breast milk is free...and convenient. Also, I think it is illegal to not allow an employee to pump. You need to research your rights now, before the baby comes. Breastfeeding your baby is something special that we don't get to experience but for a short time in our lives. Don't sell yourself short b/c of pressure. Make the decision on your own. You might LOVE breastfeeding. You might hate it..but at least try it. And know it is tough at first, but if you can just get used to it, it becomes second nature. I am fortunate to stay home with my kids, but my sister in law lives in Brooklyn, works in NYC. She commutes via subway every day, and everyday brought her pump and cooler case to work. She pumped successfully for 8 months! Then she started to give her daughter formula just during the work feedings. It can be done. If she could schelp that on the subway, you can too!

I also want to add a few things that can help financially. When you get nursing pads, buy some cotton washable ones for at night. They are kind of lumpy for the daytime, but you will save $ by re-washing them rather than using only disposables. Also...and I am not crazy...I use cloth diapers. I am not sure if WIC covers all your diapers, but I have saved literally thousands of dollars not using disposables on my kids. I do use a disp. at night...and while we are out, but when we are home, cloth is easy, and CHEAP! If you ever want more info, just let me know!

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Wow, I'm so happy to see you got so much support for breastfeeding. I can tell you that if you breastfeed, it won't be an easy road in the beginning, but SO WORTH IT! It's the law, your boss HAS to give you time to pump. Or if he/she is a real jerk about it, just split up your lunch break, you can snack and eat while you're pumping. When I returned to work I pumped, I actually pumped in my car! You might have to get a little creative on your private space at work, maybe a storage closet or something, if there is no fridge bring a little cooler to keep your milk cold. Whatever the obstacle, find a solution. If you decide to make the commitment, because that's what BF is, a commitment (a BIG one), then everything will fall into place and become the best experience you will have as a mother, while doing the best thing you can for your baby. Good Luck, and congratulations!

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Breastfeeding is not only what is 'best', but it is also what is normal and optimal for your child AND yourself. The first few weeks of breastfeeding (after the 3 day delay - which is just colostrom, very good for them to eat!) you will have an oversupply and can easily pump one side after nursing from the other side. There are freezer bags especially made for expressed milk. WIC proveds free or cheap electric breast pumps too. Your baby will adapt to bottles of expressed milk with Grandma, and exclusively breastfeeding with Mommy - BUT - you must first have a successful nursing relationship first before introducing a bottle.

Both the law and ethics are on your side if you request pumping breaks. People take cigarette breaks or cell phone breaks, so no reason you cannot expect to have two 10 minute pumping breaks over the course of a 8-10 hours shift.

WIC is a SUPPLEMENTAL organization, they do not cover all the formula costs your child will need as they mature - you will eventually be buying a lot more formula to support that habit. Breastmilk is FREE, storing it is very easy - as is defrosting it.

I was and continue to be a single Mother. I breastfed exclusively 6 weeks because my cesarean had serious complications and I could not return to work even tho missing work was going to put me way below catching up on financial issues. When she went to daycare at 6 weeks, she had pumped breastmilk and formula to supplement as a last resort. I would occassionally drive to the daycare on my lunch breaks to nurse her, and would enforce management to give me at least ONE pump break. She would nurse exclusively when she was in my care.

It can be done, and it will decrease your ovarian, uterine and breast cancer risks, aid in uterine contraction (going back down to original size and placement) and help you lose the baby weight faster. For the newborn, it instills amazing immune boosters and protection (which formula can never simulate), help coat the immature gastrointestinal tract to aid in protection of the gut and with digestion... the list just goes on and on.

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Any breast milk is better than none!! If you are worried about him not taking a bottle, start pumping when you milk comes in and either you or your mom can feed him breast milk from a bottle. While formula fed babies do turn out fine, breast milk has so many added benefits to both your child for you. Besides all benefits for the baby that most people already know (less ear infections, reduces risk of obesity, easily digested so no stinky poop, possible increased intelligence, etc), it also reduces your chance of breast cancer AND what new mother doesn't want to burn an extra 800 calories a day by doing nothing (aka what your body burns just making milk)!!

Even if you can't pump at work, you could pump or nurse in the morning before work once or twice and two or three times when you are home and during night feedings. Your son could drink formula during the day when you aren't home. Your body will adjust to not needing to make as much milk during the day. You will probably be engorged while this process takes place, but after a couple days it will be better. Any breast milk is good, so even if he only gets it a few times a day, it's better than nothing! Plus, another good side for you is while you are making milk, your breasts will stay perky. Even when my daughter only nursed twice a day, they still stayed pretty firm.

Good luck with your decision and delivery and congrats!

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Your situation is tough... my son was born prematurely and was aspirating(milk was going into his lungs), so I had to add thickener to whatever he drank. For me, I pumped because of the nutritional value of the breast milk. My son doesn't get respiratory infections or ear infections. Rarely sick... he is 4 years old. I think it is from having the breast milk. I think if you can breast feed even abit, it is worth it. The first bit is the most important they say. I was only able to pump for 7 months which was not enjoyable to pump and then feed him. Lots of work, but glad I did it for his health. I hope this helps.
Good luck!
R.

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Pump, pump, pump! It is likely that your employer is required to allow you to do so under a new health care reform law. You can read the summary here http://www.dol.gov/whd/regs/compliance/whdfs73.htm

I was reluctant to ask my employer to allow me to pump too, but once I asked they were totally fine with it, and I was able to pump for over a year. Just be sure to get a good electric pump that is close to hospital grade. You should also read the book Nursing Mother Working Mother. It has lots of good tips.

Good luck!!

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Definitely breast feed! I am a single mom of 5 and can relate where you are coming from. I had to go back to work after 6 weeks as well. I breastfed solely for the first 6 weeks and then nursed only at night for the next 6 months. Surprisingly my milk supply maintained even though I only nursed at night. (It does not always do that) Even if you only nurse first 6 weeks its better than not at all. Its also soooo much easier nursing at night then bottle feeding because you do not have to fully wake up and can both nurse half asleep and then go back to bed without much interruption compared to getting up, making a bottle, warming the bottle, etc. My son still wakes up every 3 hours (7 months old and eating food) and I wish I was still breastfeeding. :)

Also, WIC does give you some formula, if you tell them you are doing both in the beginning. Then you can stock up on formula for later when they dont give you enough. They will also supply you with a breast pump for free if you tell them you want to breastfeed and need to pump at work (if you decide to do that). The supplies for breastfeeding is really not that much and you can get non-disposable breast pads that are washable to cut costs also. One tube of nipple cream should last you the whole time you breastfeed and I used bottles instead of bags and then just swapped them out for empties. So its all doable, just depends on your dedication to it. If you have any difficulty breastfeeding in the beginning contact la leche league and they will be able to help you with positioning the baby and making sure he is latched on (sucking) properly. Usually momma error - after 4 babies I still needed help with my 5th because he was not sucking the right way and they were able to give me tips (new position to try) and get us going the right way. So dont be afraid to ask!

Best of luck to you! May you and your baby have a wonderful safe birthing experience!

A.

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