J.T. asks from Chino Hills, CA on November 21, 2008
Night Time Potty Training for 4 Year Old.
Can moms give me some advice about night time potty training for my 4 y.o. boy? He's fully potty trained during the day, but night time is a way different story. My DH and I try to wake him multiple times during the night to go potty, but our son is so sound asleep, either that or he's already wetted his bed. We do not give him liquids past a certain hour, but that doesn't stop him. We currently have him in night time pull ups. I want to try to get him potty trained at night before he begins Kindergarten (July 2009). Any suggestions I can try between now and July?
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T.S. answers from Los Angeles on November 22, 2008
Being a "laid-back" mommy to 5 kids I never "night" trained my children. They had pull-ups on until they stayed dry all night. I also didn't wake them up at night, they need their sleep so much at this age. They went potty before bedtime and slept in their pull-ups.
You have quite a while before he starts kindergarten and he will probably be finished with pull-ups by then.
C.D. answers from Los Angeles on November 21, 2008
My son is the same way! He has been potty trained since almost three. My first son was the same way, but grew out of it by 4 1/2. The doc said they just sleep too heavy., and it's not something to worry about unless the do it past te age of 6 or 7. I know puul ups are expensive, but I don't want to stress him out at night. We tried and he doesn't sleep that well!
M.S. answers from Los Angeles on November 21, 2008
This comes up so often here it kind of makes me sad. Please understand that a child is pottied trained if they stay dry and use the toilet during the day. Night time is different. Some kids do stay dry at night from the get-go but most kids do not. Not until the age of 5-7. This is totally normal. During this time if your child wets at night it is recommended to let them wear pullups or training underwear. They should not be woken up to use the bathroom. Your son needs his sleep. Why does he need to be night trained by kindergarten? Is it an overnight program? Obviously not, and you aren't the first person to want this. I've seen this question/concern come up so often. My daughter is in kindergarten, she is 6, she wears pull ups at night. She soaks it. Doesn't matter if she stops drinking before bed or not. She is a very deep sleeper. I've talked to many Mom's in her class whose kids wear pull ups still at night. It isn't confusing for them, they aren't peeing in the pull ups just because. You cannot force them to stay dry at night, they'll stay dry when they are ready.
I don't recommend the alarm if anyone mentions it here. My Mom did this to me and I feared going to bed, I dreaded being woken up by that loud alarm, it was very scary to me.
Let it go, let him wear pull ups so he can get the rest that he needs. This will not affect him in kindergarten what-so-ever. If he is still wetting at 7, then I'd see a Dr. to rule out any health issues. Do you happen to know if anyone in your family or husbands family wet the bed? This can be passed down as well. But for now, 4 is not too old to be wetting the bed at night.
added after reading a response:
Althought I haven't read all the responses yet, I have to comment on Julie L's. She is wrong. If you don't believe me, talk to your Dr., reasearch it online, whatever you need to do. I'm sure she means well, but her response is very old-school and taken from the days when we didn't have all this great and new information available at our fingertips. Plus you do not discipline a child for this!!! Your son does not know better. He is not doing this on purpose. His body just isn't ready. Seriously - what kid wants to pee themselves while they are sleeping getting their PJ's and bedding all wet. Yea, that's real comfortable.
Sorry, I guess I'm a tad passionate about this topic (-:
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S.W. answers from San Diego on November 21, 2008
I have to say that I absolutely agree with Michele S. I have a 3 year old that I am trying to potty train and have no intention of night training till he is dry on his own. I wet the bed fairly often until I was about 10 years old and it was a very humiliating experience for me and completely out of my control. I simply did not wake up when I had to go. If I was punished for my accidents on top of the shame that felt, I would have been so crushed. I think its cruel to punish a child that age for not being able to do something for which they are not physically ready. Its like punishing a child for not being tall enough.
I would also never consider waking him from a deep sleep at that age. It took me so long to get him to sleep through the night, his rest is waaay more important that whether he wears a pull up at 4 years old, particularly if kindergarten is coming up. An overtired child not only does not learn well, but they are also more likely to have accidents during the day.
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J.M. answers from Los Angeles on November 22, 2008
My son was a bed wetter. He was alergic to dust (all his stuffed animals which we had to get rid of), and any milk product.
Whenever he had dairy, he would wet the bed. When he stayed overnight at a friends with dust in the room, he wet the bed.
Just a thought for you to check out.
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J.L. answers from Los Angeles on November 22, 2008
Thanks for posting this, J.! I loved reading the responses. I have the same issue, only my son just turned 5. I really wasn't all that concerned about it, just figured when he was ready he would be dry at night. I never wake him up to go, sometimes he wakes up on his own and goes, sometimes he doesn't. Sometimes he is dry all night thru even when he didn't go at night and sometimes the pull up is full in the morning. One day I know this phase will pass! Anyway, it was nice to read all of these responses. I guess we just need to be patient and wait for their little bodies to be ready! BTW the WalMart brand "pullups" (I think they are called white cloud brand - but it is walmart brand) work just as well as name brand, that's all I've ever used and they are cheaper!)
K.B. answers from Los Angeles on November 23, 2008
L.L. answers from Los Angeles on November 23, 2008
I think you should know that the part of the brain that controls the bladder while sleeping is different than the one that controls it during the day. Your little one has no control over it. I wish my parents had known, because I had a problem with bed wetting until I was much older.
The best thing to do is to use Good Nites, or a sheet protector.
L.C. answers from Los Angeles on November 23, 2008
Thank you for posting this question. I also have a 4-year son who will be going to kindergarten in August 2009 and he is still in pull-ups at night. He's been potty trained for a year and a half now but still wakes up wet. There are some mornings when he's dry, some when he's wet, some super wet and some when the bed is wet. I worried about it too but was also told by his doctor and many mothers who have gone through this that he will just grow out of it. I am looking forward to when I don't have to buy pull ups (we also have a 2 year old in pull-ups) but for now we don't make a big deal about it. He is always dry during the day and that seems most important to us, especially since he's in preschool. He's a very deep sleeper and I just don't feel right waking him (and myself) in the middle of the night to have him go to the bathroom. You need to do what you think is best but I suggest just giving it time and most likely he'll have more and more drier mornings and eventually this will be a distant memory. Best wishes, L.
C.B. answers from Reno on November 22, 2008
I have lots of freinds with 5 and 6 year olds who are not dry at night. My pediatrician says that there is actually a physical switch that turns on that tells the brain the bladder is full and sends a wake up message. Until this switch kicks in, nothing you do will work. My suggestion is to stay with the pull ups and not worry until his pull ups start to be dry and night for a couple of weeks and then try again. This should help you all to be more relaxed and after all no one ever asks ' at what age were you dry at night?'. It is out of his and your control so don't worry about it.
I hope this helps,