A.B. asks from Simpsonville, SC on January 24, 2012
Night Time Potty Training - Boiling Springs,SC
Not sure which way to go with this. My daughter is 4 1/2 and has been wearing pull ups at night until about 1 month ago (she has been day time potty trained since age 2.) We started trying to go all night with big girl underwear. We started this because she would wake most mornings with a dry pull up. That is not the case anymore and wets the bed several times a week and sometimes multiple times at night. I understand that you cannot "train" a child at night and am not interested in waking her several times a night to go pee. I have been limiting fluids after dinner as well. Anyways, my question is when do you know that your child is ready (because I am seeing now that she is not) and when should she go most nights without wetting the bed? 5, 6, 7, longer???
K.P. answers from Atlanta on January 25, 2012
You might not be a fan of what I'm about to suggest but this worked for all five of my boys. They were about 2.5 - 3 yrs of age each when we potty trained. When we decided to get rid of diapers, that included pull-ups or anything like that. At night, I layered their beds with plastic sheets and regular sheets so it would be easy to take off (and you'd have a new layer underneath.) When they would wet the bed, I had them get up right away, take the sheets off themselves (with my help), we would go down-stairs together to bring the soiled sheets/clothes to the laundry room and then back to bed. The idea is to wake them up enough so they 'feel uncomfortable' thus becoming more aware of what is happening. None of them liked this and most cried the entire time but this lasted no more than a week and we were Done. They did not like getting out of the warmth or being woken up and then having to deal with their own soiled sheets which is why this works. It was a small price to pay than having it drag out for months (sometimes years). A couple of my boys would sleep right through if they wet the bed, so I would make sure I was monitoring for that and would get them up a.s.a.p. to get them on their way...but the key is to take them out of their 'comfort'. If you are being quiet, barely waking them up for fear they will not go to bed again, taking care of their soiled items or just making this a more comfortable situation, this will drag on. Responsibility and awareness can start at their tender young age. I have several friends who used this with the same success (boys and girls.) It's not so much whether you child is ready so much as if 'you' are ready. When you are ready, you can end this pretty quickly.
J.V. answers from Lansing on January 24, 2012
See answers from similar previous question the day after this post. Good Luck!
B.B. answers from Missoula on January 24, 2012
There isn't a magic age after which she "should" be dry at night. She will be ready when her body is capable of it.
I have a 4 year-old son and he still needs Pull-ups at night. I think we will try underwear at night when he has a week straight of dry nights, but as you know, with kids, sometimes you have to be prepared for a bit of regression. Sounds like your daughter needs her Pull-ups back. Try again when she has a string of dry nights.
G.B. answers from Oklahoma City on January 24, 2012
Limiting fluids does not help wetting at night. They don't fill up and feel the urge to go. It just sort of leaks all night instead.
Put some pull ups on her and let her wait for a while. If she doesn't want to wear them be the adult and tell her she needs to do it and be done with it.
She will get there, this is a huge hurdle that will eventually happen.
S.H. answers from Spartanburg on January 25, 2012
We are going through the same thing lately. I have twin girls. The one I took her pull-up off at 4 yrs., she had accidents for a week, then that was it. The other is a different story. This is the THIRD time we've given it a go, it was one of my New Year's resolutions. Been to the urologist, he says there's nothing wrong except she doesn't void all the way. She was wetting every night, once even 3x's in one night! I would wake up at 2:30 AM and take her potty, still to no avail. Then I made my husband take her potty right before bed--11:00-11:30. This made all the difference. She has wet only once in the past 4 days. She is now almost 5! You just have to try what works for you. I like what Kathy said about getting them out of their comfort zone, but this may only work for some kids. (I'm not getting out of bed at 2:30 AM forever). Also remember it can be genetic--I was a late bed wetter, and so were my parents.
M.M. answers from Chicago on January 24, 2012
I personally know kids that are 6-7 that aren't dry all night, both boys and girls. Some kids just do this faster than others.
I'd stopped stressing about it on our end. My little guy is only 3.5, but we're nowhere near even TRYING at night time. :(
B.B. answers from New York on January 24, 2012
It depends on the child and I think it's "normal" to have some accidents until 6 or even 7. My friend's daughter is almost 4 and still needs pullups while my son and her son have not needed night pullups since before they turned 3. It depends on how the child matures physically. I noticed my son had an accident when he was sleeping on his stomach. Maybe you can remind your daughter to try to sleep on her side or back?
C.G. answers from Atlanta on January 25, 2012
You could check with your pediatrician, just for peace of mind that nothing is physically wrong. Some kids have accidents when they have urinary tract infections.
I noticed with both my kids that they would be fine for a while, then start wetting the bed again. I think it happened with growth spurts.
My daughter was fine at 4.
My son is 5 and we take him to the bathroom before we go to bed to prevent accidents.
You could also try this: