Ohh I can relate to this post!!! This sounds exactly like our daughter. And there was nothing wrong with her (and I was SURE she had colic, or gas or something!!!)...she was just a needy baby. She used me to soothe (and wouldn't take a pacifier!!).She didn't like the car, the bouncy chair or her swing. A high chair? Forget it!
When I was frantic about getting things done, like cooking dinner, my Pedi reminded me that if all of her needs have been met - changed, burped and fed...then sometimes it's okay to let her cry. So there were a few times, she just had to tough it out a little. It broke my heart, but I also have a three year old to look after. My pediatrician also reminded me that it is impossible to spoil a newborn, so if I was happy holding her 24/7 I shouldn't feel like I was "ruining" her or starting bad habits.
I had a baby bjorn, but I also added a sling to the mix. She liked the sling better because it was more comfortable, but times where I would be bending over a lot (like the grocery store) I put her in the bjorn. These were helpful. She would often fall asleep in the sling and I could get a lot done. I am amazed at how much I can now accomplish in a mere 15 minutes. Then when my daughter was two months old, my neighbor suggested I give the papasan chair a shot and let me borrow hers before I bought one...it worked immediately. I got on craigslist that afternoon and picked one up later that evening. It was a life saver!
Around three months of age I was close to my wits end, because except for naps and the papasan chair (for 10 -15 minutes), she wanted mama. I thought the neediness would never end. But my pediatrician suggested I put her on a baby circuit...put her in the papasan chair since she lasted the longest there, and when she got fussy hold her a bit and move on to the bouncy chair. Keep her there for as long as she's happy (in the beginning it was less than 5 minutes). When she gets fussy hold her a bit and then move her to the swing...etc, etc. I obviously didn't do this all day, but just a while after her afternoon nap, so I could cook dinner. And eventually, it worked.
Now she is six months old and most days are pretty good.
Good luck! Hang in there mama!