B.W. asks from Houston, TX on July 27, 2007
Newborn and Toddler Sharing a Room? Is That Possible?
My husband and I are planning to try for a second child soon. Depending on when we get pregnant, we are looking at a 2 year child spacing. I know its hard to plan, as kids change so much, but I was wondering if anyone has ever successfully had a newborn and a toddler share a room?
My daughter is 15 months currently, and sleeps very soundly. The few times we have gotten her up early (for travel, etc.) she's stayed asleep and gone limp in our arms, or snuggled into our bed and tried to sleep while we change her clothes, etc. I think at this point, she qualifies as a heavy sleeper.
Is it totally absurd to think that we could have her in a toddler bed with a newborn in a crib in the same room? (We have a three bedroom house, but would prefer to keep the guest bedroom if possible). The concern would be that the baby crying would disrupt her sleep and I'd have two awake on my hands. The flip side, is that at most, the baby would be one room away. If we respond quickly, I'm not sure there would be much difference. Also I've heard rumors that if they start in the same room, the baby doesn't jolt them awake and they get used to it....but I sort of have a hard time believing that.
Most people i know are co-sleepers and share a family bed, so its hard for me to find advice on this subject.
B.F. answers from College Station on September 15, 2007
I don't see a problem with a newborn and toddler sharing the same room. The toddler will soon feel like a big person caring for the newborn and knowing that someone is in the same room and not alone.
L.R. answers from Portland on July 30, 2007
You probably have enough answers at this point, but if it's any comfort, I slept in the same room as my baby brother and I don't think there were any problems.
However, it it does start to be a problem, you might want to consider cosleeping for a little while. For example, I coslept with my baby until she was about 3 months old, and then moved her to the crib, and she transitioned fine. I probably would have coslept longer except that she started going to bed over an hour before I did, and I was afraid she would learn to roll over in bed and fall out while I wasn't there. Also, around that time, she started sleeping through the night.
Here's an idea you might try to see what happens. See if you can record a baby crying (maybe 2 minutes) on a CD and play it while your toddler is sleeping at different times during the night (just once, not day after day!) to see what happens. Then plan where to put the baby based on that.
Hope it all works out.
S. answers from Houston on July 28, 2007
My first two children were 22 months apart. I wanted them to share a room. The sleeping part worked out great but we had to separate them within a few weeks because it turned out to be very unsafe for the baby. My oldest would climb over the bars of the crib and then jump in with the baby. I was scared to death that he'd accidentally land on her. I also caught him one night throwing a very thick blanket directly over her head because he was afraid she was getting cold. It scares me to think about what would have happened if I hadn't caught that so quickly. Small babies can suffocate within a couple of minutes. I ended up putting them in separate rooms with a lock on the outside of the baby's door while she slept because my older child continued to throw blankets over the baby and toys in the crib for her to play with. Good luck! It's so much fun to have two little ones around! (It's extremely busy too!)
S.G. answers from Sherman on July 30, 2007
It is very possible. I have two little girls that are 26 months apart. A couple of months before I had my second, I put her in a twin size bed and she has done well with it. We told her that it was her Big Girl bed and that the crib was for her baby sister. When we first brought home our second we had her in a bassenet in our room until she slept all night(she was around 6 weeks old)then they shared a room together. I didn't ever let my babys sleep in my bed. It was something that I just didn't want to start. I have never had any problems with them in the same room. When they started sleeping in the same room together, I found that my 2 year old accually slept better at night. If you are worried about the baby waking up your other child maybe you could try a bassenet.I hope that I have been some help to you. Good luck and congratulations.
L.D. answers from Tyler on July 29, 2007
I do have experience with this. At this present time I have a 4 year old and an 8 month old sharing a room. It works out pretty good in my opinion. We kept the baby in a basenet (sp?) until she slept through the night and then after that she moved into the room. My oldest daughter sleeps through most of the crying most of the time. I usually wait until my youngest is asleep before my ooldest has to go to bed. My main piece of advide is keep a monitor on and with you so if the baby does wake up you can get in there quick just in case. Hope this helps.
S.L. answers from Houston on July 28, 2007
My 3 youngest are 7,5,3! (each was born 21-23 months apart) And I gave birth to all while living in our first, small 3 bedroom home! And yes, we did have them share. I did keep a portable crib in my room for the first 6 weeks, but the nursery was where they slept most of the time. It will take time for the "older" child to adjust no matter where the new baby sleeps.
If your older baby is such a sound sleeper, she will do just fine! I would keep a very close eye, as the older baby LOVES to help, and may try to "help" get the younger baby out of the crib for you, or climb in for that matter. But that can happen if they have their own rooms, or share. Best wishes!
C.S. answers from Sherman on July 28, 2007
I had a 2 1/2 year old and a new born in the same room. It worked out fine. For the first few weeks the baby slept in a basinet in my room, which is right next to his sisters. I kept the doors open. That way she could get used to the sound. During nap time I moved his bassinet in her room so they could nap together. When he was a month old I moved him in his crib in their shared room. It worked out just fine. Now my daughter is 19, she married a man with a 2 year old and they recently had a child of their own. They waited until the baby slept thru they night before moving her in with her sister and that worked out fine too. I think it is what you are comfortable with trying.
S. answers from Houston on July 28, 2007
I have to boys who are about three yrs apart when my baby was born my oldest was 3 of course I keep the baby in a co sleeper in my room until he was alittle bigger and was sleeping a few more hours through the night. The baby is now 9 mths and my oldest turned 4 in april and the share a room together and it works fine for me my oldest sleeps through the crys at night (were teething) so it dos'nt seem to bother him and in the early morning when the baby decides he dosnt want to sleep any longer he is entertained by his older brother for an extra hour or so of course we talk with the oldest about safty and what can and can not be done with the baby and he is very protective of him and realy caring for a 4yrold so I say try it just what you are comftable with.
D.S. answers from Houston on July 28, 2007
I have a friend with seven children in a four bedroom house. The youngest five are girls. Two older girls share a room and the younger three share a room. The oldest two are boys and they share a room. I think this leaves one extra room for the parents. LOL. So, yes I'm sure it's possible for your children to sleep in the same room.