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Hi there,

I need some advice! I met a woman who has a son the same age as mine (3). The boys do not go to the same preschool, but they will be going to the same elementary school. Even though my son has 2 more years left at preschool, it is still nice to meet other people. Anyways, I have made plans with this girl 3 times and had to cancel 3 times. Once because I messed up my schedule, 2 date because my son was sick, and 3rd date because my son had a complete melt down in the walgreens parking lot (which, in turn, gave me a melt down). I feel awful that I have had to cancel, and now I am afraid she won't want to make plans with me again. I know it's no big deal, but I feel badly about it. I know it's 2 years away, but I worry that she thinks I am a complete ditz and can't keep a date. I know I shouldn't care about it, but unfortunatly, my crazy mind ruminates about this stuff. It's also hard because she has a little one that naps and I have a big one at school. Our schedules are different, too. Help..What do you think?

Thanks. JD

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Just be completely honest and apologize, and she should be cool with it. If not, then maybe you don't want her anyway.

Good luck!

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She has kids. I'm sure she understands how confusing and hectic it can get. Try again.

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I think if you tell her just what you said above should be good enough. You're both moms, so she should understand where you are coming from. I can completely relate and I'm sure she will too. Good luck!

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Just be completely honest and apologize, and she should be cool with it. If not, then maybe you don't want her anyway.

Good luck!

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Send a funny ecard telling her about your mommy meltdown and all the other stuff, swear your NOT a ditz and ask for forgivness. She will think you have a great sense of humor and plan another date. All moms understand.

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Just be honest...it's not only the right thing to do, but it's courteous. If you explain as you did in your post, I'm sure she'll understand. She may even have a comparable story, and it will put your mind at ease. You say that you know you shouldn't care about her thinking your a "ditz" or "can't keep a date", but it's nice that you do. Don't worry - things will work out fine.

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I agree with all previous posts. If she seems irked about it... then perhaps it's not worth it. :)

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All moms know that you can't predicct your schedule from one minute to the next...she should completely understand!

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Things come up all the time. Most Moms can relate. After all, you can plan all you want, but the truth is...your life is in the balance of your kids schedule/mood. If the friendship is worth it, it will work out. Don't stress about it.

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