Nervous About Getting Married!

I was so nervous before my wedding that I nearly got sick and fainted! I heard a saying one day that said being nervous about a situation is a symptom of being a perfectionist. I agree with the comment and just try to stay calm since usually it's wasted energy and things work out for the best. Congratulations and enjoy the weekend!

I'm not the one to give you advice on marriage, but if you have doubts about anything, don't do it, talk to him and explain it to him and if he loves you he will wait until you are 100% sure. If you don't feel you can talk to him, then maybe you shouldn't be getting married after all. Because holding your feelings back will never work.
And taking a pill isn't going to make your problem go away.

You didn't mention that you loved him? You need to list Why you are marrying him. Just to yourself. Security and a father for your little girl? Friendship? To not be a single mom? Only you can ask yourself the tough questions of life. Good Luck

J. F...I think you're really nervous beacuse this man is precious to you and in the back of your mind you're worried that htis marriage too will end up like the last...You are soooo normal for feeling this way!!! It's understandable that you would feel a little anxious...I'll bet a couple weeks from noe or even sooner,you won't be needing the Xanax anymore.Everyone is nervous before getting married...I know I was..I've been married for 14 years..So see,nervousness is PERFECTLY NORMAL..It's a GOOD kinda' nervous...Congrats to you and your Hubby to be!!!!!!!! Best of Luck!!!!!

I am sorry to tell you theis but something is not right.If it is possible for you to send your cild to grand ma and grand pas and take a day of two for your self and take and invitory how you feel and why you feel that way. It sounds like you have a lot to think about. Think especilly about if you have seen any RED FLAGS. if so you need to cancel your plans for marrige. You need to find your source of fear. It might help if you do some major praying for the right answers for you. You should not be on seditives because of marrige. That was a red flag for me. Good luck to you and God bless you. I hope you find the happiness that you well deserve

Your scared that it won't work again, and thats why you nervous.

All I can say is that when my sister married her husband she was a total nervous wreck for 3 days prior to the wedding! Not just about the wedding but about him and being married - everything! She almost fainted twice before the ceremony! Our family doctor had prescribed her a mild "nerve pill" just to get her through the day. I, on the other hand, did not have one second of nervousness or hesitation when I got married. I was happy and eager to be his wife! Now, my sister and her husband have been happily married for 20 years (they just renewed their vows!). And I have been happily "unmarried" for over 5 years. Maybe I should have been a little more nervous!

I broke off three engagements because I wasn't at peace with the guys. They were fun to date but NOT marraige material. My sister called off her wedding two weeks before the day because she was so uncertain about whether she could do it. The man she was engaged to is a jewel and helped her move back in with my parents. They tried it again a while later, did get reengaged and have now been married 12 years. Incidentally, I married my brother-in-law's brother and we've been happily married for almost 16 years. So, if you aren't sure if this is the right man for you...don't do it.

I understand your being nervous. Do you have a trusted family member or friend that you can talk to? One who really knows you and what you've been through? One who IS happily married? Do you adore him? Do you love as much as love you? If so, it is likely just nerves. If not,then reconsider. My cousin called off the wedding to Fiance #1. Later, Fiance #2 adored her and was a great guy. She didn't talk to anyone about her reservations with getting married just went ahead and got married and then came to me 2 weeks later feeling so very trapped. She did not love him and did not find him attractive, even though she knew what a wonderful person he was. The marriage ended a few months later. She is now happily married to Fiance #3, she was nervous about the wedding/marriage yes, but this time she knew she loved him and was marrying him for all the right reasons. Best Wishes!

I really feel for you!!! I was so nervous and was practically a total wreck before getting married, and even during the ceremony! Well, at least that's how I felt.

However, there are so many different types of people that I think perhaps it's hard to say whether your being nervous absolutely indicates that it is the right or wrong thing to do. In general, I think that having a sense of peace about making a major decision is a sign that it's the right thing to do for you. But on the other hand, some people have a tendency to be perfectionistic or have difficulty making big decisions in general. And then there are other people who normally don't have this difficulty, but for one reason or another, the particular decision of marriage itself just plain makes them nervous, no matter who the guy is. Perhaps it might help you to determine why you're nervous? Is it that you have serious doubts about the guy himself, or is it just that you'd be nervous no matter what, perhaps due to past experiences?

Whatever decision you make, once it's made (particularly if you get married), then I think it's helpful to rest in the fact that you have promised your lives to each other. This fact comes before any temporary "feelings" you may have after marriage, such as, "Oh, no, this is horrible!" or "This is the best thing in the world!" as of course feelings change from moment to moment. At least, this was very helpful for me, and as I said, I was totally worried about it even during the wedding, and even afterwords for quite some time, believe it or not! Yet now we're doing well and I really love being married to my husband.

I can remember so vividly how it was for me, so I really hope this weekend goes well for you! In any case, remember that God is watching out for you and will take care of you and your daughter no matter what you do!

one question are you worry about you and this man marrage or the big to do. I was extremely nervous when I get married but it was because I was worry about something going wrong at the church and the dinner afterwards , not for one minute did I worry about Lannie. Only you can answer this question , but do not get married until you can answer it. Then you will know what to do. By the way a few small things did go wrong but now 32 years later they enrich the picture of that night in my mind.

It's normal to be jittery as your date for the wedding draws nearer. I too, remember being absolutely terrified when I got married a second time. But I don't regret my decision. We will celebrate our 13th anniversary this year. And, I had kids and he had kids. Take about jumping into the fire!!! If you love the man you are going to marry, if he is good to you, if you have no fear the safety or well-being of you and your daughter, then put away your fears and get married.

I think most brides are nervous especially the closer it gets to the "big" day. That's normal. The only thing I wanted to add was that if you are sure that he is the one for you and your daughter, then go ahead and be happy. But if you are not sure, then please don't do it. Wait until you are ready. Good luck!

Some nervousness is normal. Those who aren't nervous are usually too ignorant to be nervous. Marriage is a huge change. However, feeling so nervous you're almost panicking indicates a bigger problem. Please find a counselor (your church may have a recommendation, or ask around, or even try the yellow pages). You need to see a counselor yourself, and then also as a couple. Premarital counseling is very important, especially on your second marriage.