Negative First Grade Teacher

Kimmie G. -Get a grip. I'm sure you have not had a child at every public school in the entire United States and therefore cannot rightly make the statements you did about female teachers. It was very offensive. I am a former public school teacher where the school was run by the most caring people I have ever met in my life.

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Oh my word. Let me just say that I homeschool my kids and DO NOT share the same opinions as Kimmie G. I know several teachers and they are the kindest and compassionate people I know!!! What a terrible assumption to make!

And on to your question......Since you have already talked to the teacher, I would go to the principle. There is ALWAYS something positive to be said about kids. Even if they are a handful! People make a choice to see something positive or not. Make it clear that you are concerned whether or not she will be fair with your son when she cannot find something positive to say.
Some people are routinely negative and they need to be held accountable to see the positive, especially when they work around kids!!!
Hugs!

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First of all, have you spent any time in your son's class? I volunteered for two straight years in both son's 1st grade classes. O.M.G. It's a madhouse. The teacher was great and a very positive, christian person. (I know this because we ended up becoming friends after she left to have a baby) Anyway, 1st grade is a very hard grade to teach. I personally think teachers should get paid about 5 times more money than they do, for what they put up with. Take the most energetic, hyperactive kid and multiply it by 15. Once one or two get going, they all feed off of each other. I'm not saying 1st grade kids are bad, I'm just saying they are almost all very hyper at that age. You already know your son has a short attention span and is easily distracted. You know that because you see him do it at home? In a much more controlled environment? What do you think it's like at school with all the other kids doing the same thing? I agree with you, that the teacher should really say as many positive things about a student as negative (unless there's really a behavior issue there, or the student has a particularly bad day-hitting another child, etc.) But, at the end of the day, when the teacher is probably doing these notes in the notebooks...try to imagine her being able to say really positive things as her brain is trying to shut-down form the stimulation overload. LOL! I'd give it more time, to see if she can come up with stuff in the weeks to come. It could also have been that the librarian made a comment to her about how well your son listened and she wanted you to know that.

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If your intuition says this is bad for your son, listen to it. My son had the very best kindergarten teacher. Then his first grade teacher made his life miserable that year. I had so much guilt for not having him moved to another class. Of course, he is ok, but there was absolutely no reason for us to have spent a year being stressed out.
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I would give it another week and check the additional journal comments.
A great teacher can make such a difference. My son's kinder teacher was "over it" and I feel, ready to retire...no or bad communication skills with parents, unorganized, cold. Happily, my son's 1st grade teacher is awesome! What a difference.
I think you did thew right thing by pointing out that all of the comments were negative. Keep explaining that you need to reinforce the positive and acknowledge the negative with your child and that you appreciate BOTH types of feedback.
And you can continue to include positive comments about your son's evening behavior as well. That's a good thing.
Best wishes.

Last year my oldest son was in first and his teacher was real nice at open house but after school started she was NASTY to the whole class and she was rude to them and my son would come home telling me how he did not want to go back to school again and that his teacher made a few kids cry in class.
We had to do the same thing with the folder and notes back and forth and they got graded on a color scale everyday.

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Blue ment GREAT.

Green ment YOU HAD A WARNING.

Yellow ment YOU ARE IN TROUBLE AND A NOTE WILL GO HOME.

Red ment YOU HAD TO GO SEE THE PRINCIPAL AND THAT THEY WERE CALLING HOME.

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When the teacher was nasty to my son and he would tell us and I would call her right away and I would say that _______ is very upset and he told us how class went today and we need to sit down tomorrow morning before school starts and have a parent/teacher conf. I also made it clear that my husband and I would be there together.
In the meeting she would try to make our son look like a big trouble maker and we knew that was not true.
We made it clear that he is to be treated well, with kindness and respect. We said to her that she would not allow him to talk to her without being respectful and that is how he needs to be treated.
It took THREE parent/teacher conf.'s for her to finally understand that she needed to lay off of my son.
My son would tell us that she still treats the whole class bad but she would not treat him bad.

Needless to say, last year was a rough year for us with that teacher.

This year, we are homeschooling. = )

I wish you the best of luck with this and thank God the school year is almost over.

God Bless.

I am SOOOO with you on this one! My daughter is in the 3rd grade. She had the same teacher for 1st and 2nd grade and she did great! She loved her teacher and so did I! This year though, she is not doing so well and I completely think that it has alot to do with the way her teacher interacts with her.
My daughter also has attention/daydreaming issues and I think some teachers just don't have the time or patience to deal with it. It's an unfortunate side-effect of having to send them to public school. Most teachers are wonderful, and unappreciated, but some are just not meant for that role.
If his teacher can't handle the situation and understand your concers, I would speak to the priciple and see if some understanding can be found there. He's so young to be told nothing but negative all the time!

I would write in your sons journal, for the next day, for the teacher to see it. Don't allow her to bully your son around.

I think you did an awesome thing reminding the teacher that the notebooks are for good feedback and not just for criticism. She tried today even if you may not think it was good enough. Maybe she got good feedback from the media person.

My kids school have these things called "golden tickets". It's basically just a strip of goldenrod paper that has a space for student name, teacher, date and then check off boxes and comment lines. The purpose of a golden ticket is to recognize when kids do something right and to affirm that. If they get more than 5 golden tickets in a month, then they get a little award from the principal (a donated gift cert from McDonalds)
They give the tickets when someone is caught being courteous, responsible or a leader, etc.

Some examples are they helped a friend or they encouraged someone in class or maybe the teacher noticed that a child held the door for everyone going into the lunch room and was okay being last in line. My kid thrives on it and he makes me keep every golden ticket he's had since first grade.

I also encourage you to be a good encourager to his teacher. If he is in a special class then she has special concerns as an educator and probably does deal with problems more than progress. I suggest you send her a thankyou note that she responded so quickly to your request for positive feedback in the journals.

Having raised a daughter through the public school system, I feel your pain. Not that these things can't happen in a private school either, but it just all feels unfair. On the same token, there are some great teachers out there, I remember them myself!

K - 2, I had the most wonderful nurturing teachers. I felt like I was learning and enjoyed school. When I got to 3 - 5, I hated school because my teacher all seemed too annoyed for us. I was paddled many of time and if you were caught day dreaming a chalk filled eraser was thrown at your head while the teacher belittled you for not knowing an answer or keeping up. Of course, these were the days when all this was allowed. But really, a chalk filled eraser...chalk dust in the lungs can cause cancer. With all that, I can remember feeling jealous because someone else got the teacher I really wanted. I did the worse in those classes that I hated the teachers.

Back to my daughter, I was told my daughter didn't listen, she was crawling under tables, disruptive, the whole bit. My discoveries over the summer is that she had a lazy eye. The doctor asked if I had such complaints in school and I was amazed she knew. It turns out, the eye tires from going from the small lined paper to the chalk board and then because they can no longer see, they can no longer concentrate...then the attention goes. We did 24 weeks of eye therapy and she got a pair of glasses. She turned out to be normal. Tadaaaaa!

Sometimes the problem is not right up front, nor what they think.

You have to be careful not to fight with these type teachers too much because they can tend to take it out on your children. Your child is there with them all day and you are not. Be careful with your replies to them and your tone, yet stand up for what you believe in.

Would you consider homeschooling?

We are somewhat "accidental homeschoolers" (one child since third grade) and absolutely love it.

I never thought I would have the time or patience to homeschool but, for us (two boys), it is 1000% better than traditional school.

Schools have become very boy-hostile imho (and we were paying for private school!).