Needing Good "Sex Talk" Material

Are you sure he's referring to "sex" as a verb? My daughter asked me what sex was after reading a form I was filling out (though I didn't realize she had read it). I asked her why she wanted to know and she said "because that paper said 'sex...M or F' on it." So I was able to explain to her that each person has a sex which means if they are a boy or girl.

The best advice that was given to me was to answer truthfully and give them just enough to satisfy them. Your son may not care to know the details of what sex is and may just want to know that sex is were babies come from. True - not detailed and it may be enough to satisfy him for now. You know your son best and will be the perfect judge as to just how much he wants to know. Better from you with your perspective on how you want him to view sex than someone elses. You may want to open with where he heard the term as well and have discussions on the appropriateness of using the term. Good luck - this is always a hard subject.
-L.

Here are some FABULOUS books all by Robie Harris. The last one is for older kids.

It's So Amazing!: A Book about Eggs, Sperm, Birth, Babies, and Families

It's Not the Stork: A Book About Girls, Boys, Babies, Bodies, Families and Friends

It's Perfectly Normal: Changing Bodies, Growing Up, Sex, and Sexual Health

Dear H.,
Go to gfi.com. (Growing Families International) They have a curriculum especially for that topic. It uses an approach that they can understand. It also has many other topics for growing kids. L. J

Oprah had a great episode on not too long ago about that... Here's a link to a guide on how to talk to your kids at different ages about sex: http://media.oprah.com/lberman/talking-to-kids-about-sex-...

Hi H.,

I haven't tried this, but yesterday I saw a commercial on the tv for a website. It is sponsored by the government and the commercial said it is supposed to help parents talk to their kids about sex, drugs, alcohol....you know, all the fun topics. Anyway, I believe the website was parents.org. Good luck! My kids are 3.5 and 1.5 years old so I have a while before I will be making the same posting.:)

Asking him what he knows is a good start. After that I would stick with very simplified facts, but talk to him like an adult.

An example: "Sex is something very personal and special and private between two people(or between a man and a woman after they are married). When two people (or the couple) love and care for each other and want to show it in a very special way(or when they have decided to have a baby) they have sex. It involves a lot of hugging and kissing and a few other things you don't need to worry about right now."

You can be as liberal or as conservative about it as you feel comfortable. I showed both options. Hope it makes sense.

Good luck.