V. asks from Saint Charles, MO on June 28, 2007
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My husband and I are having trouble making a decision on a name for our baby girl (she's arriving July 3rd). We do know her middle name will be Ruth (after my husbands grandmother). Here comes the hard part. We like the name Whitney Ruth and we also like Tori Ruth (she's going to be born on my grandfathers b-day and his name was Victor...that's where we got Tori). My husband suggested we name her Victoria Ruth and call her Tori......but I was also named after him (Victoria Lee)and I go by V.. We just wondered if it was inappropriate for her to have the same first name as myself, even though she will go by Tori. Any suggestions are welcomed. Thanks so much.
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T.J. answers from Peoria on June 29, 2007
I think naming her Victoria Ruth and calling her Tori is a great idea. I know of lots of families that name their children after them but maybe shorten it to something else, saves on confusion when you're out and about. Good luck!
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C.D. answers from St. Louis on July 02, 2007
I have heard of girls named after their mothers...even one who added Jr. after her name (?). I think the biggest problem is confusion, but if you have different nicknames, you avoid the problems when she's older and people call your house etc. and people are forced to refer to "old" and "young" or "big" and "little" (which only works for so long). I think it's really nice to be named after your mother...why is it ok for guys and not for women?
M. answers from Bloomington on June 28, 2007
I think it is totally fine for a daughter to be named after her mother. Why has that been traditionally reserved for men anyway? I do think it can get confusing to have two people in the same family with the same name but the fact that you would have two different nicknames would clear that issue up. I would think that she would feel connected to you and your grandfather by being given that name and honored that you would want to share your name with her. Hope that helps- good luck!
E.R. answers from St. Louis on June 29, 2007
I don't think it is inappropriate at all for the 2 of you to share a first name, but have different nicknames. Look at the show "Gilmore Gilrs". They were both named Loralai, but the daughter went by Rory.
I think it is cute.
J.H. answers from St. Louis on June 29, 2007
I don't find it odd at all to name a child the same name as her mother. I know several people who have done this, and I even considered it myself. Plus, like you pointed out, you will go by different names. I like it. As far as deciding which name to go with, maybe you should wait until you meet her. My husbadn and I had three names picked out for our son, and knew his middle name like you do, we couldn;t decide which name we liked best so we waited until he was born and one of the names just sort of "felt" best for him at the time, so that how he became Ryan Joseph and not Luke or Jonathan. :o)
L.W. answers from St. Louis on June 29, 2007
We name our sons after their fathers all the time. I say if you like it - go for it!
Congrats!
T.J. answers from Peoria on June 29, 2007
I think naming her Victoria Ruth and calling her Tori is a great idea. I know of lots of families that name their children after them but maybe shorten it to something else, saves on confusion when you're out and about. Good luck!
B.O. answers from St. Louis on June 28, 2007
I love it. I think you should name her Victoria, that way, she is named after several people. Good luck!
J.S. answers from Memphis on June 29, 2007
If you really like the name, use it! My husband's name is Mike, so is his Dads. His family has always called him Michael. I'm the only one who uses Mike, except at family gatherings. Then it's always Michael. The same name thing has never been an issue. They even work in the same office and, again, it's never been an issue. It should be less of an issue with you two, since you are going by different names!
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