My daughter is 9 and she has always hated to have her hair done! I tried everything from hair bands to braids to barrettes. What I started to do is ask her what I can do with her hair, when she was 4 I would ask her how many braids she wanted. SHe was conviced that with the right amount of braids she could just off the chair and fly! I also let her pick out her own hair ties etc. One other thing I noticed is that since I always wear my hair down she did not understand why I wanted to do her hair. I have had to start braiding my hair or wearing it up more. Just today she decided to get it cut into a short bob at the chin!