I am a single mother of 3. I don’t usually respond to these, but I have been in the same spot you are. When a man tells you what he wants, he is telling you his truth. The truth of the matter is, he doesn’t want the same things as you. Right now, you miss him and you remain his friend hoping that he will change his mind, or hope you will endear yourself to him. Most likely, if he hasn’t been with someone and feels lonely, he’ll turn to you, and you’ll try to find some meaning in it. What he wants is someone who will focus on his needs and he doesn’t want to share that with your kids. That is why he is not interested in someone with kids. Please don’t take this the wrong way, but you need to look into yourself, and find out what it is in you that would keep you attracted to someone who doesn’t accept you fully. Being a single parent is exhausting and lonely. You want a connection to someone who makes you feel desirable and not just some ones mom. The problem is, he only likes a part of you and not the complete package. Please take some time and work on yourself (maybe counseling). The only reason you would hold to a man like this is because your self esteem is low. I’ve been there. I’ve lost a lot of precious time with my kids that I’ll never get back. I have plenty of regret. It’s not fun. I do have a great relationship with kids. But because of my neglect, they are not prepared for the world and show little motivation to move forward and my oldest (23) is still living with me and has a beautiful little girl (14 months). I’m hoping to help her not make the same mistakes. Ultimately, the most important thing is you children, and they deserve the best you can give them.