What a great theme. I really dont think that you should spend too much on seperate goodies for each child. You could just try getting some unisex stuff like bubbles. first I will appologize this is so long, but I wanted to share with you some of the things from the "Strawberry Shortcake Theme Party" I have with my business. so here goes:
Pin the hat on Strawberry Shortcake - draw a picture of her on a sheet of butcher paper or cardboard with out her hat. Then cut out paper hats for each child to pin. Even better is to have each child decorate the hat with crayons.
Berry patch hunt - take green yarn and run it all over the backyard over and under things. place prizes treats or clues to find as they unravel the string. you can have either the cake be the final prize or something else. when setting up, atart where you want to end. So if it is the cake, having it end at a window or door is best and work you way back to where you will have them start the hunt from. this can also be done indoors too.
Stories - reading a book about Strawberry Shortcake at the end of the party can help mellow the kids out before leaving.
Fun food:
Berry sparklers - using Strawberries, or you can use other berries, just put on a tooth pick, Wash and pat dry. Then dip fruit in a mix of (8oz soft cream cheese, 4 tsp confectioner's sugar. 3 tbsp milk and 1 tsp vanilla extract mixed together until smooth and creamy). Then roll in colored sugar. Sugar can be found in store colored or you can mix 1/4 cup sugar with 2 drops food coloring.
Roll ups - ist tortillas and things like pb j or ham and cream cheese with a little lettuce. cut up into sections then spear with fun toothpicks to hold together.
Berry slushies - for 4 drinks you will need 12 ice cubes, 32 starberries, 1 cup frozen limeade concentrate and 1 cup water. blend and serve in clear glasses with a slice of lime on the rim of glass.
I hope this helps. let me know if you need any more ideas.
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