I am sorry for the loss...when my daughter was about that age (maybe a bit older) my grandfather passed and he adored her to no end. He had Alzehimers and couldn't (wouldn't) remember his sons but he remembered "his girl" lol ...anyway, I talked to my grandmother and I had a sitter for the actual funeral but afterwards at the house she was front and center and my grandmother wouldn't have had it any other way. I did take her to the visitation but her daddy left early with her b/c it was getting late and she was tired. My grandmother said having her there was a positive as everyone got to see "his girl" and she brought him happiness. If I had taken her to the funeral I would have sat to the side so that if she wandered to other graves/people I would be right there at her side looking at the pretty flowers.