Some background: I have a job that sucks, and at times I have gotten very beat up mentally at work. My husband's world is pretty consistent and he doesn't go up and down the way I do. I get into funks, I get down, I feel defeated and without hope for change. It effects me at home- my husband asks me to leave it behind but mentally I can't shut it of.
What I need from my husband is to give me the space and comfort to get through this. When he doesn't respect those "desires" it is easy to get frustrated with him. I have never wanted to see other people or anything of that sort but it is definately an issue where I question why he can't understand/respect my wishes. Depression/Anxiety do run in my family and he sounds like he deals with issues as I do- so getting him to try to go to a doctor for treatment would be good.
Have you been to marriage counseling for this or other issues? Do you have date nights? Does he have a hobby or something that could take his mind off of the issues? Could you go for family bike rides or walks after dinner? I would much rather have him get me engaged in some sort of other activity than to tell me to let stuf go because I know that isn't how I should be. It is just way too hard to shut some things off.