A.K. asks from Lumberton, TX on August 04, 2008
Need Advice for Placement of Teen
My 15-year old is out of control and I need to place her somewhere where someone can make her "get it". This summer she has completely lost her mind. I can't keep up with her, lose her for days, she steals from me, takes my car, etc. I've looked into the Wilderness Camps, but I'd like feedback from anyone who has any information on them.
S.B. answers from Houston on August 05, 2008
I am sorry to hear you are going through this. Is this something that counseling could help with? You might be able to get her some counseling and the counselor could help offer advise. Unfortunately, sometimes it takes a third party to step in and help the child understand that rules are for her benefit. I have a 12 yr old daughter and hope and pray that she doesn't fall into this behavior pattern. BUT, I know that sometimes it has to do with the people they are around. Remind her of two very important things:
1. Show me who your friends are and I'll show you who you are.
2. You are most like the top 5 people you hang around.
Have her write down the things she likes and dislikes about the people around her.....and I don't mean "She's pretty, she's nice, etc." I mean: Her mom let's her do whatever she wants, Her dad let's her take the car whenever she wants....etc.....this will give you some insight into what you are up against.....
R.S. answers from Houston on August 05, 2008
I myself am pretty new to Kingwood and I know of no camps. I'm just posting because I noticed no one else had and I wanted to let you know that you have my sympathy. I, too, have a 15 year old daughter. My used-to-be-angel has really had to be watched this last year. The lying has gotten so bad. She's always arguing with us. She doesn't steal or go away for days but I still feel I've lost control. I guess it's the age. I punish her by taking away her cell phone or MySpace time. Does that do anything for your daughter? My daughter hates it and will straighten up for a while. But the peer pressure is something else around here! There are some really bad girls in Kingwood.
E.L. answers from Houston on August 07, 2008
The Anasazi program in Arizona (and I think they have one in Idaho) is superb. One of my in-laws kids went through it and it was great. She needed to stay waaaaaay longer than anyone else they'd ever had and there was no extra charge. Even she says that it was exactly what she needed in her life (and she was a tough case). (And, incidentally, she was a teenager in Kingwood at the time the serious problems started! The family soon moved to Arizona and that's how they found out about Anasazi......one of my older sisters in law later worked for them (she had a degree in counseling or therapy or something) and she loved the program b/c she said it was a wonderful program but was very individualized so that every single teen could be reached and find their way to healing. I hope you look into it. Even if it doesn't say anything on the website about money, they *always* work with families so no one is refused due to money, so I hear.
K.K. answers from Houston on August 05, 2008
Call the Youth Services Center, ###-###-#### and ask for Community Youth Services (CYS)- they have a list of resources for places that take placements of teens from their parents. They also can refer you to the CYS worker for your school district - they deal with parent-child conflict like what you are dealing with - they are great resources for parents. Don't ask for CPS - (they are located in the same building) - you are not wanting to "give up" your child (which is considered child neglect) but "place" your child so she can get the help she needs. It may be hard to get her in somewhere, but CYS can help you deal with her until that happens or in the home if you decide or are unable to place her.
Good luck, you are not alone. There are also support groups for parents like you, ask CYS about that also.
K.C. answers from Houston on August 05, 2008
call the cops on her, once you get her in the system then you can see about boot camp. maybe you can google boot camps for teens but it is costly. it's easier to get them in once they are in the system.