Hey, I'm just like you as far as the planning things go so I'll try to help you out as much as I can. If I don't hit something specifically, you can always send me a message with another question.
Hubby and I took the mommy and daddy bootcamp class through ACS. It was a few weeks worth of classes and was really informative especially about having a baby in your community. Near the end, we did have a class on breathing and birthing positions but it wasn't in depth. Just the basics but it was still good.
Since you're 13 wks, if you haven't already been to your first pre-natal appt. get prepared. If you're recommended to a German doctor off post, just know they do things really different. Not in a bad way, just in a European way. They don't care about modesty as much as Americans do and so most of the time, they don't give you anything to cover up with i.e. a gown. It took me a couple of visits but I soon got used to having just my t-shirt and socks as the only things I wore during exams. I learned quickly to wear long shirts on those days. From my experience and those around me, you get an ultrasound every time you go in which is pretty cool. The first 6 or 7 months you go in 1x a month, the 8th month 2x a month, and the last month usually 1x a week until you deliver. Depending on how your pregnancy goes, this could all change.
My doctor spoke very good English and was very nice. Anytime I had questions or problems, he answered them. Even if I called in. The nurses/secretaries also spoke English well and helped out greatly. They mostly did the work like taking urine and blood samples, giving shots, or things like that. The doctor gave the examination and talked.
I took my husband to maybe half of my appts. After the second one, he wasn't so excited 'cause he expected more baby to be there every time, lol.
As far as the hospital goes, you'll have to get in touch with Tri-care at the clinic. They'll let you know which hospitals in your area are the ones Americans usually deliver at. The liaisons that work there give the tours so you'll set that up with them. Ours gave a tour once a week. They'll show you the ins and outs of the hospital, the delivery rooms, the maternity ward, all the important places. It's good to take hubby on that tour if he can make it. Mine didn't go, so as I was in labor, I had to give directions going through the hospital and trying not to make too much noise as we went up to the delivery ward, lol. Craziness! Now our liaison told us we didn't have to pre-register because there was no need but when I went in to deliver, the hospital made my husband go down and do it then. It only took about 20 min but that didn't make me a very happy camper at all. I highly recommend doing it before hand.
Since the same doctor that does all of your appts will not be the same one that delivers you, I was a bit worried because it wasn't like I could talk a birth plan with anyone. For most German hospitals, mid-wives and nurses are the ones that are with you during labor. The doctor only came in when my son was almost out. The liaison gave me the recommendation of
who she thought the best mid-wife was there and I was lucky enough to get her when I went in that day. They spoke very good English and were very helpful.
There were several types of delivery rooms at the hospital I delivered in. I was in the one with a jacuzzi but my L&D went so fast, I didn't have time for that. Not sure what you're birth plan or how natural you want to go, but I've been told German women see it as a rite of passage to have their babies with little to no medicine if at all possible. My mid-wife asked me when I first went in what I wanted to do as far as pain medication went and I told her let's try something light before we get to the heavy duty stuff. My plan was to only ask for what I needed and near the end, I NEEDED it! However, my mid-wife just kept telling me that I was doing okay and to keep pushing, lol. She said she gave me something through my IV but if she indeed did, it didn't help one bit. My hubby said the bag only said oxygenated water. From the time I hit the delivery room until I delivered was only 2 and a half hours but it was long enough. I transitioned so fast I really didn't have time for any strong pain medicine or an epidural. Which I know they do give because other friends of mine have gotten them. I attribute my fast delivery to working out and being active all during my pregnancy.
The stay in the hospital was nice. They keep you in there alot longer than in the states. I delivered early Thursday evening and they released us Sunday afternoon. The accomodations were nice. I shared a room with an Italian lady that didn't speak a lick of English but she was nice! We just smiled and gestured. You can sometimes request a private room depending on how full they are. Check with Tri-care because sometimes they make you pay extra for that. You get 3 meals a day but these are typical German meals. I usually ate breakfast but I would have hubby bring me the other two. I wasn't to keen on what they were serving 'cause it just different and I am picky.
They let the baby stay with you most of the time unless they need to check their vitals or take blood. Anytime you want to put the baby in the nursery so you can rest, walk around, shower, eat, etc. you can. They'll bring them to you when they're ready to eat.
Like another poster said, they don't really bathe the babies so I had hubby bring me baby soap and a washcloth and I wiped him down the 2nd day to get all the residue off. Make sure to also bring all of your tolietries. You'll have a toilet and sink in your room but usually somewhere in the hallway you'll have showers you can use. Oh yeah, they didn't give me a gown to deliver in so I ended up wearing my own big t-shirt which was fine 'cause please believe, that will be the last thing you're worried about. I packed a couple pair of comfortable jogging pants, t-shirts and slippers to wear around the hospital. They do give you all the disposable underwear and heavy duty pads you can ask for so you don't have to worry about that.
Overall my whole experience was wonderful. I'd do it all over again in a heartbeat. I'm a roll with the punches kinda girl so I was up for the adventure and unexpected. I'm pregnant now but not sure we'll still be in Germany for this baby to be born. I would say my best way to combat any of the unknowns was to read. I spent countless hours on the internet and bought a couple of baby books that I really liked. They were 2 I had never heard of but they did wonders for me. I pretty much knew everything about everything there is to know about being pregnant and having a baby and being informed really helped me through the whole process especially being overseas and not near any family.