I just wondered if anyone has read the nanny books, Nanny 911 or Super Nanny? I'm curious as to what age groups they are geared toward. I have a 21 mo. old son and need some discipline ideas. Some of the things I'm doing are working but very little. He's one of those that knows he is doing something wrong and will look right at you while he does it, then when you start toward him, he runs (and throws what he has if he has grabbed something like the phone.) I don't think he would understand time outs yet and I'm not fond of spankings all the time. I don't want to spend my whole day yelling or stressed to my limit either. So, if any of you could tell me about these books or give me ideas for discipline I would appreciate it. Thanks, Shannon
PS. I've tried distraction too but that didn't work. As soon as I remove him from one thing he runs to something else he shouldn't have. He's a fast little booger!
I haven't gotten any books yet but I did try giving him his first time out. He did seem to get it! He wouldn't stay out of a cabinet under the fish tank. Since the time out, he hasn't been into it again. That was about 5 days ago. YEAH! Thanks to everyone for sharing their opinions and experience with me. I really appreciate it. Shannon G.
I highly recommend Becoming the Parent You Want to Be. Imo, it's more gentle and based on connection than the Nanny ideas. It's also more effective, imo. It was my lifesaver- there are some fabulous concrete suggestions in the discipline section.
I love both Dare to Discipline and also Parenting with Love and Logic. I read them both through periodically to keep up my practice! I am a huge reader when it comes to finding ways to better myself both as a person in general and a mother. These are good ones!
I haven't read the nanny books but we used 1-2-3 Magic (book or video) and started around the same age as your son. Worked well for us. Good luck!
Your son has hit the terrific twos early. Mine did, too. I think if he knows he is doing something wrong he willprobably understand time out. When my son was that small I sat him down right where he was and did time out there so he would make the association between what he was doing and why he was sitting. He cried, so he definitely got that from my stern voice and the fact that I wouldn't let him get up he was in trouble.
I would sit him down right there, or if he ran take him back to the "scene of the crime", put what ever he was touching in front of him within his reach, and sit him down while you give him a very stern, "NO, don't touch it." While he is sitting there, keep sitting him down and every time he goes for what he wasn't supposed to touch say again, "No, don't touch it." When his two minutes are over, stand him in front of view, look him in the eye, hold up what he isn't supposed to touch and say, "Leave this alone, or you will have to sit down." Put the object away, give him a hug and something he can touch and walk away.
I think if you did it this way, he would definitely understand.
