Names for Lost Baby

I am sorry for your loss, I have had 3 and I tend to refer to them all as Angel...which is gender neutral and at the same time reminds me they are always with me.

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Hi K..
I am so sorry for your loss.
If you knew they had been in the same amniotic sac and shared a placenta, that likely means they were identical and the precious angel you lost is a boy. But since the dr said there was no way of knowing, that leads me to believe they were in separate sacs/ with seperate placentas.
I think if you don't feel strongly about the sex of the child, something special is appropriate (like Angel as other moms have suggested) and maybe have no middle name.
I miscarried one at 12 weeks and one at 7 weeks and I never named them, but a friend lost one at 12 and named it Aiden because to her, that was unisex.
Dakota is also unisex, I don't remember seeing that suggested.
Lee is a good middle for either and doesn't have to be spelled Leigh as female.
Good luck and I wish you peace on your time of happiness and grieving.

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My heart goes out to you. I bet it is HARDER than you make it seem, and I applaud your search for the perfect name for your baby.
The first thing that popped into my mind was Angel. It may not be totally traditional as your other two children, but it can be used for either gender, is very popular in many cultures, and is very fitting in this situation.
Most of the other gender neutral names that I think of aren't totally traditional either, but they are popular now.... here are my initial thoughts...
Alex
Jessie
Riley
Ryan

Very traditional ones might be Chris or Pat, but that would be short for other names.

I hope you find peace and the perfect name!

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So sorry for your loss and I give you a lot of credit for being able to put this wonderful idea together. Stephen and Katherine are very lucky to have such a loving mommy. The only traditional gender neutral names that I can think of are Dana, Jamie, Lynn, Robin, Sunny, Jordan, Jesse, Taylor, and more recently Ashton, and Logan. Traditional names Aubrey, Stacy, Kelly, Kim and Tracy were neutral names but it depends on how you feel about them. As for a middle first thing that came to my mind was Love. I also like what another poster said about using Angel. What ever you choose I am sure that it will be perfect.
Good Luck and my God grant you continued strength

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Adrian, Ashley, Casey, Jude, Francis [one of the meanings of that name is "free"], Reese, Lee, Jamie and Jessie

I'm so sorry for your loss

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Sorry for the loss of one of your twins and congrats on Stephen. That must have been really hard for your family and I think it is a great idea to do something for your baby.

Alex, Riley, Michael are a couple I can think of right now. You may be able to google unisex names to come up with more. Maybe pick a name with a special meaning you and your family from older family names.

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I am sorry for your loss.. My daughter's name is Ryleigh, I have seen it spelled Riley for both boys and girls, also Jessie, Sidney, and Jordan are names I've known both boys and girls to have.

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Kai (K-eye) means "the ocean" and can be a girl or boy name. You could get a beautiful sea shell and plant it under a tree for him/her.

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I am sorry for your loss. I know what its like to lose a child at 20 weeks.

I'm glad to hear that you have a healthy boy!! May God grant him many happy and healthy years!!!

Can you ask your OB about the lost baby? There is sure to be a note of it on your son's birth certificate - a note that he was a twin and ended up being a single birth.

Tyler is a name that I've seen on both boys and girls
Taylor

These are the only names I can think of right now - sorry - caffeine hasn't kicked in yet!

My best to you - I'm sorry for your loss!

C.

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I am so sorry for your loss.

I like Casey and Jamie, both mentioned below. Jordan is also a good gender neutral name that is spelled the same way for boys and girls.
Morgan
Reese
Alex
Cory
Robin
Taylor
Terry

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I'm so sorry for your loss. Here are a few suggestions:

Taylor
Cameron
Avery
Ryan

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I'm so sorry for your terrible loss. I had 3 miscarriages, too early to tell the gender, but we also named them. It helps with the healing process. Here are some names that might work: Casey, Corey, Jackie, Jamie, Kerry, Christian, Loren, Ashton, Jessie, Kelly, Leslie, Adrian, Alex, Devon, Jordan, Robin, Micah, Randy, Riley, Taylor, Shawn, Cody, Rene'. God Bless.

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I'm very sorry about your loss! I lost my first child to prematurity at 23.5 weeks, and we had a birth certificate because she was born alive. We named her the most meaningful, family-connected choices from our list so that she would always be connected to this family.

I've met a lot of loss moms over these six years, and in cases where gender wasn't possible to "know", I think the mother sometimes had strong feelings one way or the other. I would encourage you to just assign gender at this point if you had strong feelings and name accordingly, but if you really didn't have that feeling from your baby, the gender neutral name choices are good. It's easier at a memorial service or the future to say "him" or "her", but go with what you feel on that.

Jaime has always been a favorite of mine, or
Shawn
Shannon
Reese
Chris
And my middle name (and my living daughter's) is Lee, from my dad and all of the men before him in the family.

We also planted a tree on the date my daughter was due and volunteer for the March of Dimes in her honor. Our lives can be changed forever by these tiny people. Best wishes to you in your journey.

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I am so sorry to hear about your loss. And what you are planning is a beautiful thing. Have you thought of Chris, Gail, Lee, Drew, or how about just naming the baby something very different, like Star or Angel.

Good luck, I am praying for you

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Did you have a feeling on the gender? Could you pick a gender and go with that? I don't see any reason you could not pick a gender, name the child, and refer to the child as either he or she rather than "the baby". It may sound weird, but I think I would pick a gender, pick a name, and then you do not have the turmoil over finding a gender neutral name. This is such a trauma as it is, do not make it any more difficult on yourself. Another option would be to choose a name you really like, and refer to the child by the initials. Jonathon David/Jennifer Diane would simply be JD - you know what the initials stand for, but you don't have to reveal that. You could pick one gender name you like or two with the same initials, as I have demonstrated. Good luck, and I am so sorry you have this grief by congratulations on your happiness at the same time. God bless you.

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I am sorry to hear about your loss. I cannot think of any traditional gender neutral names. The names that come to mind are; Jessie Morgan, or Madison Quinn

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That is so sad for you, and so beautiful and sweet to do. Your healty little boy is lucky to have you. I was trying to think of names, but the suggestions that Heidi T. gave put the name Riley Jordan into my head and I couldn't come up with anything that sounded nicer.

Hugs to you in your sad time.

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oh my i am so sorry for your loss but happy to hear your other baby is healthy.

avery, ashley, adrian, andy, angel, alex , cameron, casey, cassidy, blaire, brent, corey, dana , dallas, devon, dyllan, erin, evan, harley, haiden, hayden, hunter, haley, jesse, jaden, joran, julian, jamie, jan, jude, kelly, kelsey, kendal, kennedy, kerry, lee, leselie, lane, lindsey, logan, morgan, madison,marley, micah, noel, paris, parker, perry , peytom, quinn, reegan, reese, riley, robin, reed, rene, sydney, scout, skye, skylar, stacey, sunny, sean, shane, sage, taylor, terry, tory, tyler, tony, tracey, whitney, winnie, zane..

hoefully i helped some and good luck

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In this day and age, where people name girl's with boy's names and vice versa, how about just switching your twin baby's name and calling the lost twin George Stephen?

Well I am going to assume it was a boy twin. Iwould name it like ryan Micheal or Ryan John or do a middle name from like one who is passed also like a great grandpa or someone your aware of. Ryan or there are others that can be used as mutual boy or girl names like Morgan Best wishes and just enjoy the other two they need there mom and things will get better but will take a while I will keep you in our prayers

You might want to use a family last name, perhaps your maiden name, for one of the names and a gender-neutral name for the other. I think this is a wonderful idea, and something to give Stephen and Katherine comfort down the road - a bit more of an identity for their lost sibling. Is there an elderly or deceased family member whose name you could use?

Shelby, Chris, Sam, Pat

I wouldn't worry about the spelling. The most important is that you know you gave the baby a name and to remember the baby that has a name.

This takes great courage on your part.

I am so sorry for your loss.

Many blessings.

I am so sorry for your loss and I hope that in time you will find some peace, I really do!

I have a book of baby names and I looked up the "Unisex Names." they had listed: Chris, Tracy, Taylor, Nicky, Shelly, Casey, Leslie, Avery, Stockard, and Devon.

I don't know if any of these names help you, but I thought I would give you the list. Also, go with your gut instinct. It sounds like your baby was a little protector over the other twin.

Good luck!

I would suggest your maiden name as a middle name. That way there is meaning and gender does not matter.

I see your sons name is Stephen, perhaps there is a gender neutral name that might start with the same letter?

Stacy is both a boy and girl name
Sam, Shannon, Sky?

or of course...there is always the name Angel

I'm so sorry for your loss - that must be very difficult for you.

A friend of a friend had a loss at the same gestation, and were unable to find out the gender ~ they named the baby Riley.

Hi K.,

I am sorry about your loss. I have never been through that and cannot imagine what you are going through.
What about your nationality or your husband's nationality to choose names? You could use one of each if you have more than one nationality between the two of you.

C.

To keep it total gender neutral Taylor Lynn.

I like the name Gabriel. I was going to name my son that, but I kept hearing it more for girls as well. For a middle name, maybe Spencer. For more unisex names, go to http://www.babynames.com/unisex-names/
Also, I don't have solid evidence to back this up, but a very knowledgeable friend of mine told me that almost all miscarriages are boys, as they are much weaker in utero.

I am so sorry for your loss, my the light on heaven shine on you and your family.

Kelly Rian (Ryan) could work for both genders
A couple of other names that come to mind are Dakota, Sam, Bobby.
Good Luck you will choice the right name.

Bless you

I am so sorry for your loss. What if you pick a name from each gender and one is the first name and the other the middle?

Thomas - not gender neutral but means "twin". My sister lost one of her twins and names the unborn one Tomos - the Welsh spelling of Thomas (she lives there). So sorry for your loss.

1st of all, I am so sorry for your loss and completely agree with naming and recognizing this child. I could only think of a few traditional sounding names that could be for a boy or girl, they may or may not help. Francis, Chris, Jamie, Sammy.
Good Luck,
C. H.

I'm very sorry for your loss; it must be heartwrenching. I have a couple of thoughts - perhaps you can find a combination in two of these:
Devon, Ashley, Riley, Casey, Dana, Cassidy, Darcy, Gael (Gail), Keagan, Alec, Andy, Kelly & Shea. I like Kelly Ashley or Dana Kelly. Good luck with your memoriam & be reminded that you'll always have a guardian angel!

I'm sorry for your loss. Some type of memorialization is a wonderful idea. A lot of times, I see markers with Our Little Angel, etc.
That said, I love Riley. I also really like Morgan.

Angel is gender neutral, and what could be more appropriate? And I like the idea of using your maiden name, or a familial name for the middle name.

My heart goes out to you for your loss. Blessings.

This is tough, traditional names are not usually gender neutral. But more then that its part of your grief process, having some closure. Maybe you should name it something less traditional, something that memorializes what he/she meant to you. Go with your gut feeling, even if it implies a gender.

Best wishes, so sorry for your loss!

I lost one and didnt know the sex either but I called it angel because it will always be my little lost angel. how about chance? what did you name the twin? maybe like kevin and devin or robert/rick. or barbara june/beverly may my grandma and her twins name the twin was dead at birth too. just a few ideas. I started to call mine chance because it was lost by chance. and I got pregnant by chance. or name it after a angel in the bible like michael.

Jamie is another gender neutral name.

maybe Francis Lee? that is very traditional and gender neutral?