My Son Wakes up During the Night So Many Time.

Give yourself a hug! Wow, surprised the Dr didn't tell you that infants that age MUST feed every 2-3 hours to stay hydrated. It's also a great chance for your baby to bond with you because along with nurishment he'll learn comfort and trust from you responding to his needs. Babies who are responded to quickly are less likely to cry and showing them to suck on their hands teaches them how to comfort themselves and go back to sleep on their own when not thirsty. Pacifiers only fall out of their mouths and you'll have to assist, instead of them being able to easily find their own hands. Give yourself another hug! This time is hard on Moms because our sleep pattern is interrupted and we get less of the much needed REM sleep. What you do is snuggle down and sleep when baby sleeps. Ignore dishes and cleaning during this time for your own mental health. My daughter is four months old today and she is now sleeping 4-5 hours during the night, needing fewer feedings because she is a more efficent eater and I play and talk with her in between naps during the daytime to help her slowly learn that night time is for sleeping and daytime is playtime. PLEASE don't ignore your frustration - your body knows it is tired. I am concerned that you will "crash" and fall into such a heavy sleep that you will possibly loose track of your son while he is sleeping next to you. Unless you feel ultra confident, a co-sleeper or bassinet next to where you sleep is a safe alternative. I say this out of appreciation for your situation. Lastly, the best thing I have ever done for myself is say, "enough!" and have a friend watch baby with a bottle of my milk when I passed out for a full four hours. I awoke feeling like a goddess ready to take on the world. Wink.

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I have a 14 month old son, and he woke up in the middle of the night until about a month ago. My pediatrician advised me to let him cry, but i didn't have the heart to do that, so he slept with me most of the time. But just try to nap as much as possible, It was really hard on me, especially being a single mother. i went back to work after 8 weeks so i tried to nap during lunch or whenever i had a chance. But just be patient, it gets easier.

I do believe it is quite common for a 3 month old not to sleep thru the night, especially if breastfeeding. I realize it's difficult on you as a parent, but hang in there. Our 13 month old son started sleeping thru the night around 5 months, yet still woke for a 3am feed, then again around 6am. About a month or so later, he dropped the 3am feed and slept until 6am. Longer sleep intervals do arrive, just be patient. I've spoken to many mothers who said their children didn't truly "sleep thru the night" until almost 4 or 5 years of age. Reason being, our children go thru developmental stages and well, waking up during the night is quite common...it's how we address the waking up at night (i.e. cry it out method, rock back to sleep, etc.). Our son currently goes to bed around 7:30pm and sleeps until 7am. He is a good sleeper and content in his crib, we lucked out. However, he has recently been experiencing some bedtime anxiety and yep, more teething, so waking up 2-3x per night is not uncommon when a child is going thru a stage. Sometimes he is able to put himself back to sleep and other times not. When all said and done, patience with sleep patterns and how we handle sleep disruption is key. As for the crying out method, it's not for everyone and well, for a 3 month old, seems a bit young to be using this method (in my opinion). We do let our son cry, but he's got 10 months on your lil' one. It's not easy to let them cry, but if we pick them up every time they cry, they will not learn how to soothe or work thru their own emotions. But again, your lil' one is still oh so very young...don't be afraid to pick him up. And before you know it, in just a few months you will be surprised how his sleep patterns will have changed and you will look back and say to yourself, "How did I ever make it thru this?" Well, that's what I experienced : ) Best wishes!

I just wanted to add that I have a 14 month old and he just started sleeping through the night consistently at 1 year. I didn't have the heart to let him cry it out so we would just go in there and pat his bum. 90% of the time he'd go back to sleep with this. Good luck and try to be patient. They sleep through the night in their own time, just like everything else :)

My son does the same thing.... There are many nights that he wakes up every 2-3 hours, sometimes he only sleeps for an hour and a half. Some babies out there are just sleepers and some are not. My son is not much of a sleeper. It's hard as a mother to not compare your child to other infants. And it's easy to get caught up in the "why won't my child do this" pattern, especially when we hear about friends kids that sleep through the night so early. You just have to trust that your child will do what's right for him when it's right for him. I have been in your shoes. I used to get so frustrated when I would have to get up more often than every two hours and think to myself "why won't my child sleep!??!" But then I changed my attitude and thought about the nights as my time alone with my adorable little baby to snuggle. It really helped!!! I still get frustrated at times, but the more I've relaxed the more he is relaxed and he's even slept a few 5 hours stretches latley. But just know that your childs waking patterns do seem very normal for this age.

I totally agree with the lady that suggested Baby Wise, I have three children, two of which were sleeping through the night by about 2 month, and the third is just about there as he is just now 2 months. Anyway I love this book and recommend it to everyone. If you get it there is a section about starting late, meaning starting there ideas not right away at birth. I do really like the book, but remember you know your child best.

Your son sounds perfectly NORMAL for a 3 month old. That's the problem with infants - they're exhausting. The only way you can get him to sleep through the night is wait until he's older, he's still too young and you SHOULD still be comforting and feeding him this often. I'm surprised a pediatrician is telling you to let a 3 month old cry. He's not a very good pediatrician.

You are going to get lots of advice from othe moms on this. I recently put a request in for the same thing. I am being told by everyone that it is a growthspurt and will be over soon. Hang in there and just go with your gut. You know what your child needs better than anyone.

My son nursed every 2 hours till he was 10months! Babies stomach's are only as big as their fist, they need to feed often, and the majority don't' sleep through the night at that age.

I would not recommend Babywise, Ezzo is not a Doctor, I think he's a Christian Minister or something of that sort... talking out his....! The American Academy Of Pediatrics is against his practices and calls them unsafe, you can google and find all kinds of articles that warn against him.. here's one:

http://www.ezzo.info/Aney/aneyaap.htm

Here is a great article published by Harvard that I like to refer to..

http://www.news.harvard.edu/gazette/1998/04.09/ChildrenNe...