honey, me and you would get along great, once again this is J. with the 4 year old twins and the almost 9 year old and i am also a single working mom in guilford college. My sons father married the girl he cheated on me with, so I had no choice but to let my son spend the weekends over there at first. She and I did not get along at all but I bit the bullet and did all in my power to befriend her and it worked, we are not best friends but we now have mutual respect. 2 years ago she had a baby with him and I helped her out a great deal even brought her and the baby home from the hospital, I helped her care for him the first couple of months because she had post partum, depression really bad. when He (Robby) was 3 months old he died of crib death. It completely crushed her and she changed towards me and my son, she even went as far as to tell my son she wished it had been him. I dont speak with her anymore than I have to now and I even had to give my son a cell phone just in case hes ever there with her alone, we are now in a bitter custody battle all because hi father is afraid that if hunter lives with me all the time he may have to pay child support. so they went behind my back and got emergency custody until october 2nd, my son comes to me every weekend, but its tearing my heart out so I had to bite the bullet again and befriend her so I could go to their house during the week to him. I am the best at turning enemies to friends, if you want to talk to me ever you can feel free email me at ____@____.com and ask for my number if not just remember to pray for her she obviously needs it. good luck hun.