S.G. asks from San Antonio, TX on March 25, 2008
My Daughter Would Rather Play with Me than Other kids...is That Normal?
My almost 4 year old never asks to play with other kids in the neighborhood and seems perfectly content just playing with me and her younger sibling. I watch other children her age playing together, asking if a friend can come over and holding hands in groups....but she doesn't join in and will just stand by herself. I encourage her to join in and we're around kids all the time (playgroups in large and small sizes), but she doesn't show much interest, but chooses to do her own thing. I don't know if I'm making a big deal out of nothing, but I feel hurt inside that she is left out because she is not exerting herself. Any suggestions/input??
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K.B. answers from Houston on March 25, 2008
Hi S.-
Most likely your daughter is perfectly fine and she is just more comfortable with you and her sister and will make friends in her own time. I don't want to worry you or scare you but I'm going to share with you our story so that you can get help if it's warranted.
Our son (now 6) also did not socialize with other children when he was 3-4 years old. He was enrolled in a pre-K program and had a lot of difficulty separating from me in the morning. It got better over time however he was always playing by himself and never with others. For almost a year I told myself he was just shy and that he would outgrow it in his own time. When it didn't seem to be getting any better, that along with a few other things led us to a developmental pediatrician who diagnosed our son with Asperger's Syndrome, a mild form of autism. Again I'm not trying to worry you but I think it's worth reading about and seeing if there are any other signs present in your daughter other than the delay in social skills so that you can get help for her if it's necessary. For a good description go to Webmd.com and search for Aspergers. It will provide a good description and you can see if it fits your daughter or not.
Good luck with everything and feel free to send me a note if you have any questions.
Best Wishes,
K.
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D.M. answers from Houston on March 26, 2008
HI S.,
YOUR DAUGHTER IS PERFECTLY FINE. ALL OF MY 3 WOULD RATHER PLAY WITH EACH OTHER OR ME THAN OTHER KIDS. I THINK ITS BECAUSE WE STAY AT HOME AND THAT IS THIER COMFORT ZONE. I WOULD NOT WORRY AT ALL.
HAVE A GREAT DAY!
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U. answers from San Antonio on June 14, 2008
normal. enjoy it while it lasts and show her that she is welcome with you all the time. This will change and it will break your heart.
I sincerely regret pushing my daughter to play with others. I miss her so much now and I wonder what it made her feel like then.
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S.G. answers from Houston on April 08, 2008
Suggestion:Play with your daughter with the other children?
I along with the other moms think she is normal.Thank goodness for your other child
Best Wishes
S.
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