D.D. asks from Elkton, MD on March 08, 2007
My Daughter's Buddy
This is more of a story than a request
I purchased another miniture Schuanzer for my daughter when she was 6 mnths old. We named her Daisy and she was a little over 2 mnths old when we got her. I wanted my daughter to have her own little frind she could grow up with.
On March 4th 2007 Daisy was hit by a local pizza delivery driver in our neighbors driveway, the houses are close so it wasnt unusal for her to go to the neighbors. Daisy managed to climb 12 steps to the front door to let up know that something was wrong. At this point we didnt realize how bad she was injured. We thought by the injury she had on her face that she was attcked by a cat or raccoon, or a possum. We rushed her the to ER, nad that's when all of our lives were torn apart.
As we were there Daisy didnt seem like she was that injured she was moving around and doing normal dog things. We left her there for x-rays and treatmeant for what we thought was an animal attack. During the night we get a phone call stating that there is something on the xray that looks like trauma. We later found out throgh the examination that Daisy was ran over, we also found paint chips in her hair. Daisy needed surgery ASAP, but there was no promise she would survive the surgery. The whols time that we are going through this experience, I can only hear in my head, my 13 mnth old saying her name, now the fight is truley on to save Daisy not only for outr family sake, but for our daughter's. Daisy pulled through the surgery, she has a suffient amount of brusing internally, and she is still in critical condition. We have spent alomst 3000.00 to save Daisy, and we have no rights as a pet owner to contact the driver and ask for help with medical expence. There was no crime committed according to the law, so they cant help. we cant in turn go after the company b/c teh drivers sign a waiver. So at this point, Daisy is getting better day by day , and with lots of prayers and thoughts she may be able to come home Fri or Sat, our daughter hasnt been home since this happened for the fear of her realizing Daisy isnt here. You cant explain to a 13 mnth old that her little buddy was hit by a car and may not come home. I'm confused at this point of what to do next, there is still a possibilty that something could happen when we bring her home. How do I explain that to my daughter, b/c after all of this we can't afford at this time to replace her, if it comes to that.
I must say that wht i have wrote is in minor details to what damage our little Daisy has been through. I guess I'm asking for further infomation to help my daughter and my family cope with this tragedy and what rights to I truly have as pet parent.
I will keep an update on Daisy's progress.
So What Happened?™
Daisy is doing great , she went for her check up and there were no problems. She is back to normal and ready to play. Thanks again for all your support.
C.J. answers from Harrisburg on March 08, 2007
Hi D., my heart goes out to you and your family. Your daughter is going to figure things out. She is going to ask you questions in her own little mubbles. She is already asking for Daisy, she will continue to do so. For some time after Daisy comes home, I would allow a seperate area/room for Daisy to heal.Daisy is going to be sore, and not playful. Your daughter wont understand not to chase her,play with her,pick her up, ect....I on the other hand would contact the pizza place, and explain everything. Why not do a fundraiser to help you pay for Daisy recovery. The pizza delivery guy should know what happen, so he can be more aware of his surroundings. This happened in a neighborhood where children(Small ones) play, and he needs to look around him before he drives all over the place.If worst comes to worst, just explain to your daughter that Daisy's body stopped working and couldnt be fixed. Death happens to all living things-flowers,frogs,fishdogs,cats,and people.Make sure you tell her it is not her fault. I know she is only 13 months old, but she can understand to a point.
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D.L. answers from Washington DC on March 09, 2007
I'll keep Daisy and your family in my prayers. I know it can be hard trying to explain the absence of a furry friend.
B.F. answers from Tampa on March 09, 2007
I'm saddened to hear what had happened. I pray and hope that your dog will pull though. My mom had sort of the same thing just a few years ago in Illinois. Her rotweiler was hit by a 1 1/2 ton pick-up truck. The dog pulled through, but was in really bad condition. She was eventually laid to rest because of the unbearable pain and pressure she had. I hope she/he makes it. Are you sure there is nothing you can file or argue against between the driver or the pizza place? There should be justice for a family pet as well as any other person in the family. As far as advice to relate to your daughter, I honestly can't help there because I have no pets of my own nor children with me to overcome that sort of obstacle. Sorry. Good luck to you.
K.S. answers from Pittsburgh on March 09, 2007
Good Lord, D.! If I didn't already know better, I would have thought you were talking about your daughters father or another close family member passing and not the family pet! I mean losing a pet is sad and all but life is hard and it gets a hell of a lot harder for our little ones as they get older unfortunately. I say use this as a learning lesson for yourself and your family to learn how to appropriately deal with loss and hardships in a healthy way. I hope I am not coming across disregarding your loss of the dog, but there are a lot of familys that have to deal with so much worse as far as death is concerned. I just thought maybe you should keep that in mind and thank heaven you have a happy and healthy family that loves each other and keep your family focused on that.
D.C. answers from Harrisburg on March 09, 2007
I'm really sorry to hear about Daisy, as a pet owner I know thats hard I want to commend you for doing everything you can to save her.
I know that you see this as your daughter's little buddy and she probably is but your daughter at 13 months old is not going to notice that her dog isn't in the house. You really don't have to worry about explaining anything to her.
I have two cats that have been here since day one of my daughters life. She's 16 months old. They could leave tomorrow and she would never notice. I used to take care of a two year old and they had to put his pet down. His mom mentioned it to him the day it happened and by the next day it was like he never had a pet at all.
My point in all this is, your daughter isn't going to be aware that the dog isn't there, I know this is very painful for you but for her, its not even a blip on her radar. Its not that she doesn't care about the dog its just her memory for those sorts of things isnt developed.
Bring your daughter home. It'll make this stressful time easier.
J.H. answers from Lancaster on March 12, 2007
I am so sorry to hear about what happened to your precious pet, and I hope she is able to come home to finish her recovery!
Unfortunately, as a pet owner, there are very little rights in these kinds of circumstances! I was driving on a VERY foggy road late one night, and a white husky appeared out of NOWHERE. After slamming on the breaks I still hit the hind portion of the dog. I was petrified, so I immediately called the police. They arrived and told me there was nothing I could do for the dog, (who was still alive, but lying on the side of the road) but that the dog's owner would be responsible for the damage to my car!! Who could be that selfish?? To hold a family accountable for the damage, after they have nearly lost a pet?!? Unfortunatly it is the "owners" responsibility to keep the animals on their private property or on a leash! I'm sure there have been TOO MANY lawsuits concerning "unattended" pets- please keep little Daisy safe!! I wish you the best!!
S.B. answers from Albany on March 09, 2007
Hi D. - I'm so sorry to hear about Daisy and hope she gets better soon! That is extremely horrible and very sad that a person would hit a dog and run away. I'm surprised that isn't considered cruelty to animals. Did you call the local ASPCA to see if anything on your end could be done to have this person deal with this accident? Also, what about small claims court to have him/her help you with the cost?
As far as your daughter, I'm all about being honest even though she may not understand. I would sit my daughter down (if something God forbid happened to our doggie) and explain what happened. I guess though, it is easier sad than done....Either way, I wish you luck with all.
A.D. answers from Washington DC on March 10, 2007
I do feel bad for your situation. The truth of the matter is, you let your dog out and unattended. Your dog also was not on your property. The driver and his company are not liable at all for the accident.
A friend was out of town and had some one watching her 2 boxers. They some how got out and ran onto the street. Not only were both dogs injured but it caused a major accident. As the pet owner, she was responsible for all the damages to the cars and public properties.
It's a horrible lesson to learn at the expensive of your Daisy. What if Daisy wandered into the street and a driver swerved to miss her and hit a child. YOU would be at fault, not the driver.
I wish her well.