L.C. asks from Rock Springs, WY on March 14, 2009
My Daughter Is the Pokiest Puppy Ever!!
I need some ideas on how to get my daughter moving in the morning. She is in Kindergarten and every morning is a battle getting her to get ready on time. If I am not constantly reminding her to wash up, brush teeth, etc she forgets what she is supposed to be doing. If I don't go in every few minutes while she is showering she will just stand in the shower for a very long time. (I let her do it on her own time once and she was in there for 35 minutes before washing her hair!) I also have a one year old that I have to get ready in the morning so I need her to be more independant so I don't have to nag all the time. I have tried using a timer, I have tried reminding her first thing that we need to concentrate on getting ready. I don't know what else to do and it is driving me crazy, and I hate nagging every morning because it puts everyone in a bad mood. Help!
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M.H. answers from Salt Lake City on March 15, 2009
I don't know what to tell you. I have the same problem with my 9 year old daughter. She takes forever eating breakfast and she gets distracted doing anything. Anyone have any ideas?
E.J. answers from Boise on March 15, 2009
I am the mother of seven children and THE BEST thing I have found to help kids get ready for the day and then ready for bed in the evening quickly is a CD called "Children's Miracle Music". It seriously is a miracle! Google it!
H.F. answers from Pocatello on March 15, 2009
Here are some things that I do with my kids to get them ready faster in the mornings: Give her a bath or shower at night before bed rather than in the morning, you will save so much time. Lay out her outfit the night before. Fill her cereal bowl with dry cereal and put it on the table the night before, in the morning you just add the milk. Pack her lunch or whatever else she needs in her backpack the night before and place it right by the door so you can just grab it and go. Try and have everything together early so that you can take a couple of minutes for "cuddle time" before you have to leave, this will make the whole day better for both of you. Good luck, I hope that this helps!
J.W. answers from Pueblo on March 14, 2009
Does she have to shower in the morning? Showering in the evening may save time in the morning. Maybe a checklist so she knows how to do it and in what order? Laminate it so she can check each task off.
I know it sounds stupid, but does she know exactly what needs to be done on a daily basis before she goes to school? I have a hard time seeing the forest for the trees, if you will. I get overwhelmed if there are too many steps or too many tasks, and none of them get done. Just a thought!
V.G. answers from Pueblo on March 14, 2009
I was browsing for some advise myself and came across this link. There are several suggestions from parents who are in your shoes. I hope you find something that works for your daughter.
K.C. answers from Salt Lake City on March 15, 2009
K.G. answers from Denver on March 15, 2009
I am laughing just reading your post. I have a son who was late to everything until he joined the military and they fixed his "tardy" problem : ). We did make it to school on time until he was old enough to drive himself though. You have the right idea with the timer. Set the timer for when you plan on leaving the house and then be willing to stick to it. Let your daughter know in no uncertain terms that when the timer dings, you will put her in the car no matter what condition she is in. (Secretly pack a paper bag with some clothes, shoes, etc). Put her backpack in the car the night before. Then follow through with your promise! It only took my son 2 times of being dumped in the car in his underwear and having to finish dressing in the school parking lot to learn to be dressed before the timer dinged! But it only works if you are on time and have the other child ready. Good luck!
C.H. answers from Denver on March 15, 2009
Hi L.. I have advice which is too late for you, I'm sorry, but might help your readers. Two of my three daughters were naturally late sleepers -- they could go to 9:30 or 10:00 AM occasionally, so I enrolled them in afternoon kindergarten so as not to screw up their sleep cycles. It worked beautifully for us.
I suggest that if you're deciding between morning and afternoon kindergarten, figure out what time you'd have to wake up your child in the morning, let's say 7:30 AM. If your child naturally sleeps past 7:30 AM, then consider afternoon kindergarten. It's an easy decision if you don't have real schedule constraints (as opposed to personal preferences).
H.A. answers from Denver on March 15, 2009
Hi L., My daughter had the same problem. Then I read Parenting with Love and Logic and we got some great ideas on how to help. It took about a month before she did great everyday. I didn't like their original suggestion of just letting the child sleep and then missing school and having to stay in his/her room all day. But I do like their choices options and they suggest enforceable statements. So you can tell your daughter, would you like to shower for 10 minutes or 12 minutes, I will set your timer and then you can get out. If she doesn't wash herself in that amount of time, the shower still gets turned off when the timer goes. Or one that really works for us is would you like to eat first or get dressed first. My daughter likes to eat first. But then breakfast is only available for a certain time. I set the timer and then also say this is what time breakfast is over and this is what it looks like on the clock. Then I do the same thing for getting dressed. I even typed up a sheet with some pictures that have all the aspects of the morning on it... Get dressed, eat breakfast, make bed, brush teeth, brush hair, and make it to the bus on time. Another suggestion they have is to say my car is leaving at 7:45, you can get dressed before then or your clothes can go in the car in a bag. It is hard to get dressed in the car with a car seat, plus we catch the bus at the end of the street. So I just started saying we are walking out the door at 7:55, we would love if you would join us. There was about a week or so when she ran after her brother and me down the street and barely made the bus, but she made it. Her hair wasn't brushed, her teeth weren't brushed, and she hadn't eaten. It was a tough thing to do, but it really paid off in the long run and now she is much more responsible about getting ready on time. Also if she doesn't get ready by the timer then I can have an energy drain, which means she is draining my energy by taking too long to get ready so she will have to replenish it by doing chores or things for me around the house. It is hard at first and it feels like you are being mean by making her so uncomfortable, but it shifts the responsibility back to her and not you about getting ready. Also stop nagging. It only makes it worse. She is trying to get a reaction from you and it is working. If you take away all the anger and frustration, you put the control back onto yourself. Your daughter most likely already knows what to do. She's smart. You would expect your dog to listen the first time, so why do we as parents keep repeating ourselves to our kids. They know. So say it once and expect that it gets done. Use the timer, give her choices and be firm but loving. It may get worse for a bit, but I promise it will get better. And read Parenting with Love and Logic. It saved my life!
A.F. answers from Provo on March 15, 2009
This site has a fun way of waking up early in the morning and getting to bed on time. It was around $30. My kids love it and I love it. You get points if your job is done by time the music stops. After you get 100 points then your child gets a date night of their choice. I use it on the days that I'm in a hurry. You'll have to check it out. It's great!
R.S. answers from Denver on March 15, 2009
Have her shower at night. Also make her get dressed before breakfast, then brush teeth, hair, and wash face after breakfast right before leaving the house.
And unless your daugher has oily hair she doesn't need to wash her hair every day.
The key is routine...same routine regardless of the day of the week.