My Boyfriend Is the Best Man......

unless you have someone to hang with the whole time, it's going to feel like a waste of time for you to be there. first off, i think you should ask these same questions of your boyfriend. maybe he has a solution. maybe the bride and groom can arrange for you to meet some of their guests before the wedding and make sure you have a seat with them. let your boyfriend ask the bride and groom permission for you to go to the rehearsal dinner. some people can be quite picky about who attends. and find out what the appropriate dress for each occasion is so you avoid feeling more conspicuous.

I would contact the wedding planner or the groom and ask him to give you an idea of what is going to be happening and how they would like you to be involved. I would be quick to let them know that it is all about them and you are just wanting to know what to expect so that everything goes off without a hitch. I would bet that they have a very good idea. My advice would be to be up beat and friendly, but go out of your way to ensure them that you aren't trying to insert yourself into any situation that they aren't prepared to have you in. By being upfront and positive will make everyone feel much more comfortable, you included. Remember this is their wedding and there are times when there just isn't enough room to ensure that everyone is taken care of. I would try to be very gracious if they aren't planning on including you as much as you would like and smile through it. It will mean alot to everyone and leave good feelings in the long run. As far as being bored at the wedding...there are always children that need extra attention and this is a wonderful chance to meet people as well. If you get overly uncomfortable have a plan with your boyfriend to be able to leave early and meet back up with him when he is ready to leave. Good Luck!!!

YOu shouldn't go to the dinner unless you are invited. You should be fine at the reception, if he is your boyfriends best friend, then you should know at least a few of the people there. Also, there is no reason why you should have to stay for the whole reception either.

When we got married, my sweetheart's best man was awesome! His wife came to the wedding and she sat one the grooms side (he was part of the wedding party--carrying the ring, you know). She stayed for awhile after and then went on her way. It was totally her choice and we just love her, but she didn't want to sit around and we didn't blame her. It is totally up to you what you want to do during the reception. I have taken off for awhile at one where I didn't know many folks and came back around the end to go home with my honey, and another time they had dancing so I danced my feet off while he greeted guests. It's all about your attitude and what you you want to make of it. You don't have a specific role, so don't expect anyone to entertain you or feel bad when you feel like the furniture--you are a guest.

Nah Stay home for the dinner rehersal dinner, He will be busy during the reception for a short time. After the reception, Then you both can sit at a table together. Ask if you can take a friend with you so she can keep you company while he is busy with the wedding. And make sure you have fun. Weddings our so romantic. Who knows you might get the bauque.

How old are you? I'm assuming you're an adult with interpersonal skills. Have your boyfriend introduce you to people. If he's too busy doing best man responsibilities --- introduce yourself to people as the best man's best girl. Sit w/ someone you connect w/. More than likely, there will be another significant other who is also "lost puppy." Whatever you do, don't create problems for your boyfriend, which would create problems for the groom. Don't be nervous. See this as an opportunity to have fun --- good food, good drinks, new friends, dancing, romance, etc. Also, you're going to make an impression on your boyfriend's best friend. What kind of impression do you want to make? Lost puppy? Or independent woman? The choice is yours. I've been there done that. I know how you feel. I opted for the independent woman and had a blast. You may surprise yourself. Have fun!

It is nerve wracking to be in that situation! I really think there's nothing to worry about. Are you sure you won't know anyone there? Maybe you could take a good friend of your own... that way you'll have someone to sit with if your boyfriend is busy. You may not get to sit with him at the reception if there is a head table that the wedding party is supposed to sit at, but otherwise it would be just fine to sit with him. If there is dancing then I'm sure your boyfriend will appreciate having you there. Even if it's uncomfortable just remember it's only one day.... you can do it! It is also pretty common to take a date to the rehearsal dinner, so if he asks you to go, just do it! You may meet people there and then feel better about going to the wedding. Good luck and don't worry! just have fun!

First off, you might want to find out if you are invited. Sometimes the couple does not allow guests to bring dates becuase they are trying to keep costs down.

Beyond that it is up to the bride and groom where you will sit and whom you sit with. Some of that will depend on how well they know you. I'm sure the people you sit with will be nice.

We did not allow people to bring dates to our wedding unless they were living together or engaged. My wedding party was mostly siblings so we had their spouses sit at the head table.

I had a horrible experience with a bridesmaid who forced me to invite her boyfriend of just a few months - I had never met him. Then she got pushy about inviting him to the rehearsal dinner and having him at the head table and eventually after a few other disputes I kicked her out of my wedding. She wasn't worth the trouble.

The day is about the bride and groom. This is your boyfriend's closest friend he needs to be available for the groom. Have a good time and be supportive of your boyfriend and don't make waves.

I've had many experiences w this situation. Usually you wind up sitting at the wedding near the front w the other bridesmaids/groomsmens' significant others. And the same w the reception. There is almost always another lonely girlfriend/boyfriend there to make small talk w too. Your boyfriend won't be spending a lot of time at the head table anyway, probably just to eat. :) Good luck~everything will work out :)

At my wedding my husbands Best man was is best friend and his girlfriend new no one except me at our wedding. Needless to say it was kind of uncomfortable for her, which made it uncomfortable fo him and his attention was more on her than anything else!! She was very clingy to him and actually pulled up a chair and sat by him at the head table during our reception. I was not impressed, but felt sorry for her. I guess my suggestion to you would be that if you don't know anyone and will feel uncomfortable to let him go solo to this wedding, however if you are comfortable being there and mingleing with people you don't know, than go!! But don't ruin the day for him or his friend!! Another suggestion, ask the bride (groom) if they need extra help with anything, you may be able to do some small tasks or take care of things which could take the pressure of the family so that they may enjoy the wedding and it will also give you something to do!
And one other thing, at a lot of weddings they have the best man dance with the maid if honor, Do not get jealous and cut in!!

i think that it would be wise to go to the rehersal dinner. this way you could be introduced to a few of the people before hand. plus then you will know what exactly is going to happen. and that might be a good time to offer you help in any way. you might be needed to help with millions of little details. i would say that the only time your boyfriend needs to be away fron you is when he eats dinner at the head table. most wedding that i have been to they only sit there for the quick dinner or toast. but be front and center when it's time to catch that bouquet (haha i forgot how to spell that) any way it is just a big huge party. if you show up early to the church then you could assist the bride in some way. sounds like these will be your circle of friends too. have fun

I'm getting married in August and my sister is my matron of honor. She has a boyfriend and he is not sitting at the bridal party table, although he is sitting with my family. If your boyfriend has family there, I would sit with them. If not, first make sure it's not assigned seating. Then I would sit anywhere and make small conversation with the people at your table, but it wouldn't be right to sit at the bridal party table. Her boyfreind is coming to the rehearsal dinner though, but I would have your boyfriend ask them if it is okay first. The reception dinner is a very short part of the party so make yourself comfortable, and have a great time, you may make some friends.

I would talk to your boyfriend about your concerns. Let him know that you really want him to have a good time and be there for his friend, but that you are a little nervous about the whole thing. If he knows, chances are that he will make an effort to include you. (Sometimes guys are just oblivious). Good luck. Just try and have fun.

When I have been in that position I have gone as his date to the rehersal dinner, and yes you sit by him! It doesn't mean you let him out of your site,because he has duties and obligations.
Give him lots of room, and make sure he knows that you are there for him to give him support, be the non-drinker and drive.

At the wedding you would sit on the grooms side, and by then you will probably have met a few people at the rehersal dinner and just sit somewhere, not too close to the front but maybe 1/2 way back.
Most of all have fun, be supportive, and your boyfriend should treat you as your date, ask him to introduce you to people and be attentive when there is time.
Sus

I would have your boyfriend ask the groom to ask the bride what she wants you to do. I would think that the bride should invite you specifically to the rehearsal dinner. I would also think that you can sit by your date at the wedding itself. Even the Best Man is allowed a date!

Every wedding is a little different, so you may just have to figure it out as you go along. During dinner, if you are your boyfriend's date, then you should sit next to him. But if he is busy with best man stuff, don't be shy and strike up a conversation with someone new. Weddings are a great place to people watch, so just enjoy the atmosphere and the food and don't worry about yourself. Nobody will be paying any attention to you, (sorry, but it's true) so there's no need to be self-consious or feel like a lost puppy. Stay by your boyfriend's side if you want, but don't be afraid to mingle by yourself. If you're really shy and that sounds awful, I am definitely not above taking a book and sticking myself in a corner whenever I feel awkward. Good luck! (And buy a new dress for yourself!)

I feel for you, when my H's best friend got married (many years ago) I was around 22 and pregnant with my 2nd child, it was the most miserable day of my life! I got completely left alone the whole time while he rode in the limo with his friend and the wedding party, sat at the main table and watched him get completely wasted and danced around like an idiot. I wasn't in the wedding party, so I wasn't allowed to sit at the main table. It was horrible and I had put it out of my mind until I read your post, it reminded me of that ridiculous day. All the guys acted like kids and they got so drunk it wasn't even funny. I wouldn't go if I could have done it over again!
By the way, that marriage didn't last anyway, they had 3 kids and then she ended up leaving him for a cook and moved to Las Vegas with the guy and left her kids, since then, it's been a terrible battle for those poor kids (what a nightmare!)

Just go with the flow. If it is feasible to sit with him then do so. If he has to stand up for his friend, just sit wherever on whomevers side you are there respresenting.
If he invites you to the rehearsal then go, typically it is for the wedding party. Don't stress, look at it as a way to get to know his friends and their families, be social, walk around with a smile and enjoy yourself.
Just smile and say hello to anyone that meets your glance and try not to look uncomfortable. You will probably have a blast, it is great you understand your boyfriend is there for his friend, he will probably not focus as much on you as normal, but don't take it personally!
Have fun!

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