November 06, 2007,
A.B. asks from Port Charlotte, FL on October 21, 2007
My 6 Month Old Wont Sleep Through the Night
i have a 6 month old son that wont sleep through the night. i try to keep him on a schedule as much as possable. he has slept an 8 or 9 hour streatch a few times but every night ks different. some nights he is up every 2 hours some every 4. even during the day he is different with naps. i am not sure what to do my daughter slept through the night right away. sometimes i can just give him his binky and he will fall back asleep but when i do that he is usually up a half an hour later. the only thing thhat realy gets him to sleep is nursing. any advice would be great.
A.N. answers from Tampa on October 25, 2007
K.T. answers from Sarasota on October 22, 2007
My kids were the same. My daughter slept and my son didn't. And he never would take a pacifier. I finally had to give in and bring him in to sleep with me so we could both get some solid sleep. He is now almost 18 months and is the better sleeper of the 2. My daughter is 4 and 1/2 yrs. 6 month old baby still have issues with being out of the womb...lol. Good luck!
J.C. answers from Orlando on October 22, 2007
Hi A., welcome to the club, LOL. I have a six month old boy that gets up a few times but not as much as before. What works for me, I feed him a bottle with a dash of cereal at about 12 midnight. He gets up at seven, sometimes six, but we get a nice stetch of time to sleep. I also read articles on the Internet that stated six month olds are too young for sleeping routines, that's what the article says. I had to research the child development of a six month old I learned a lot. Did I mention coffee is my best friend.LOL
It's just a faze it will fizzle out, just laugh A....
S.C. answers from Fort Myers on October 22, 2007
I had a similar problem with my little one (now 9 months). He was sleeping well when he was younger, but around 4 months started waking frequently during the night. I would nurse him back to sleep (it seemed to be the only thing that worked). Needless to say, he became a trained night feeder . . .couldn't fall back to sleep without it. So if he woke at all during the night, he would need to nurse. After taking him to the pediatrician to make sure he was OK (no ear infection, etc), we decided (with advice from the Dr.) to let him cry it out. I would make sure to put him to bed sleepy (but not asleep). I would nurse him right before bed, then wake him up just enough that he knew where he was going, put him in his crib, and walked away. It was extremely difficult to let him cry (we even bought a video monitor to make sure we could see him and that he was OK). I was assured that after 3 nights, he would learn to put himself back to sleep if he awoke in the night. After 3 very difficult nights he did it! He now consistently sleeps through the night (roughly 8pm-7am). It was a very difficult decision to make, but I am so glad that I did it! I hope this helps . . .good luck with your little one!
V.S. answers from Orlando on October 22, 2007
I know you said you are nursing, however, try pumping your milk into a bottle for him. Once you have the bottles set up add a tad bit of Rice cereal into his bottle. If the only thing that helps him go to sleep is nursing, then he isn't sleeping because he is hungry and he may not be getting enough milk to hold him over. If you are nursing and bottle feeding together, then it would be good for you to put some cereal into his bottle at nights. It worked wonders with both of my children. You really only need about a nipple full to start off depending on how many ounces he is drinking. The doctors may tell you not to, however, you know your child better than the doctors, so do what you feel is right for your child.
J.C. answers from Fort Myers on October 22, 2007
My 18 month old daughter had a tough time learning to sleep through the night. At six months my pediatrician said that she was getting plenty of food and should be able to do a longer stretch at night. The baby had ME trained. She recommended letting her cry it out. Easier said than done. I would make sure that nothing was actually wrong with her, but then have to just leave her to cry. Believe me, it was not easy. And I was always worried about her waking up my 3 year old. But that amazingly never happened even once. So many times I would give in and nurse her because that seemed to be the only way she would get back to sleep, then I resolved just not to do that. I started letting her go for 5-10 minute intervals, then longer. That still didn't work well. THen we found that she loves music, so we bought her a CD player and put in the same soothing CD every night on repeat the entire night. That was the miracle cure. It took a few more weeks, but she finally learned to put herself back to sleep. The whole process took about 3 months, but now I am SOOO glad I did it because she is now an excellent sleeper. For me, a couple of months of misery was much easier to take than several years. As my doctor said, you have to cut that feeding out at some point and it's much easier to do it while they're young.
B.R. answers from Orlando on October 22, 2007
In my experience, my son did not sleep through the night until almost 9 months. I so envied those parents that their child slept through the night within a few months. I believe it was, in my case, he needed more food than most. He was always a big eater. He was on formula. Hang in there.
C.E. answers from Tampa on October 22, 2007
It sounds like he's still hungry. I usually had to give them something solid to eat before they went to bed if this happened. You can give him rice cereal or maybe even some yogurt.
I also found that they sometimes cry and make sounds like they are awake or need you, but they will go back to sleep if you let them. All of my kids have done this where out of nowhere in the middle of the night or early morning they will start to cry and then after a few minutes, they go back to bed. It becomes like a circuit and if you get up with them and tend to them each time, it sticks...if you just let them cry for a bit they will usually go back to sleep. I usually gave it 5 minutes and sure enough, they'd fall right back to sleep if it was just a nightmare or them just having restless sleep. If they don't go back to sleep, I would go and take care of them. It's hard to let them cry like that, but so many times I'd go running in there only to find them making noise with their eyes shut and still looking liek they were sleeping...and I would wake them up by going in there when they would have gone back to sleep.
All 4 of my kids sleep through the night in their own beds. It has definitely been different with each one of them as far as when they slept through the night (all but 1 of them slept through the night in the first few months of being born) but they have ALL done this wake up and scream in the middle of the night routine.
Sometimes I would even make note of the time and see that it was happening every night/early AM at the EXACT same time like 3:15am or right at the same time...this is how you know it's just on autopilot and you shoud let them cry it out one or maybe 2 times and it will go away..it's amazing and works if you can refrain yourself. :) It's hard as a mom to do that, but you both need your sleep and it won't hurt him to cry a bit.
I also would give them chamomile tea in a bottle (warm) before bed sometimes...they like it sweetened with a natural sweetener like Stevia and it calms them down and gets them ready for bed.
I hope this helps!!
Amber 7, Aubrey 6, Aidan 2 1/2 & Aren 15mths
A.S. answers from Jacksonville on October 22, 2007
I feel your pain. My daughter who is now almost 7 years old never slept thur the night till she was about 3-1/2 years old. Still to this day she doesn't require much sleep. I wanted to pull out my hair as well. Some kids are like that. You might try changes in your daily/week, maybe that will help. Try not to let him take as many naps during the day. Good luck.
R.H. answers from Orlando on October 23, 2007
Get the books Babywise and Toddlerwise. I think they are right on target. Your son is going to have a hard time for a few days, but he has got to learn how to get back to sleep on his own.
K.G. answers from Jacksonville on October 22, 2007
My daughter started doing the same thing at 5 months. We found that it was the pacifier that was a big part of the problem. She would wake up, I'd put the paci back in her mouth, she's fall asleep, and it would fall right back out again, waking her up. It was a vicious cycle. We ditched the paci, which ended up being MUCH easier than I thought it would be, and that solved a big part of the problem.
I also highly recommend the book Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems by Dr. Richard Ferber. It took us less than a week to "Ferberize" our daughter and she has been a wonderful sleeper ever since! And Dr. Ferber's method is a lot kinder and gentler than rumor has it, too.