My 5 Yr Old Is Peeing in Random Places Why and What Should I Do??? Help! :-(

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I asked a similar question a couple years back. My son had a few instances of weird behavior and then just stopped. He was reprimanded every time and made to help clean up what was appropriate for him to be able to do . Then it stopped. Good luck, it does suck while it is happening, but hopefully it is just a phase and it will stop soon.

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I have heard about some little boys doing that.
Who knows why.

But, it may be an emotion based thing/reason/cause.
Or maybe not.

Is this something new he is doing? Or has he always done this??

Try talking to your Pediatrician.

Rule out a urinary tract infection that could be causing pain when he pees, first. Tho' that still wouldn't excuse urinating on your niece. Ewww.
Punishment for this one was called for, IMHO

Mine is 15 now, but he went through a phase were peeing in the tub was fun - he liked to see "how far it would go". Outside was fun also. Oh, and once, that he admits to, he peed in the cat's litter box. I'm sure that confused heck out of the poor cats.

Talk with him, explain why random urination is not acceptable. Reiterate the "right" places to go - maybe let him try outside. That may give him the freedom he wants, but within limits - plus save your house and your niece.

Good Luck
God Bless

It sounds like you need to focus on his Impulse control. My daughter is very impulsive and often just does without thinking ahead a step to the logical consequences. She is almost 9 now and we have been able to contain it most of the time to what I would call a "normal" level but if she doesn't get enough sleep and if she gets to much sugar her impulsive behavior jumps up to a higher level. It has just become a part of every day to point out the logical consequences to situations in TV shows and books. I talk to her about her day and always ask questions, some being did you get in any trouble at school today, did you fight with any friends, did anyone cry in class today and why. It is a constant activity in our house, that being said, her impulsiveness also works in her favor she is HIGHLY imaginative and thirsts for information on everything!!! I remember one time she took a bite out of one of my window seal edges and when asked she didn't know why, she just wanted to know what the inside of the wall looked like??? Soooo, to channel it into something productive we got a library card and started getting books on all the things she had questions about so she has a productive way to find the answers to all the thoughts and ideas that are firing around her little brain. She has become an avid reader!! Good luck and I find if I get on my knees and talk to her not at her I get better results.

While you are figuring this behavior out, I think he should be the one cleaning up after himself. He can empty the trash can, wipe it out with a non-toxic cleanser; scrub the bathtub until his arm is tired... and I don't have a suggestion off the top of my head with regard to cleaning up your niece. That's a tough one. I think your immediate removal from the situation was appropriate, though I'm not sure grounding him is going to help. Maybe back to a reward system (sticker chart?) for *only* urinating in the toilet until he gains control of his impulses.

Ok, my son will be four next month and he is doing the exact same thing! Well no pee pee on any other person, but EVERYWHERE else. I have been asking him why and he doesn't know, like I am getting concerned about it being something medical, he has been potty trained and accident free for a good year now. I called my MIL bc she has 5 kids so she has been through pretty much everything, she said one of the girls did this and it was a bladder infection. So, I am calling the dr today, if no bladder infection then I am going to ask for his kidneys to be checked, I am not trying to be dramatic but I also don't want my son to fall out unconscious or something and I didn't take him to the dr soon enough, I mean if it were diabetes, that is life threatening if not caught early. If it isn't physical, then I think he might be dealing with anxiety or something and I will definitely be getting to the bottom of that. His dad and I have been asking him if he has met anyone new, has anybody touched his private etc, just casually not in any way to make him think he is in trouble. You know, you hate to think this but I really don't want to be a parent that ignored signs and finds out something happened to my kid at age 3 but I didn't know about it until he was 30, not on my watch please. So I feel you, I am very tired of cleaning up pee!! We are headed to the dr just as soon as they can take us, good luck!!

Oh man.....My kids did most of that except on their cousin. I just let them know that they can't pee just anywhere they want to. I do let them go outside and occasionaly make them go outside as we have one bathroom and four people in the house. They love that. I would have have spanked my kids too if they peed on their cousin for any reason. I would take him as other have said to his dr and make sure there is nothing wrong. To me even if there is something wrong he is old enough to understand where is and isn't appropriate.

Good Luck and God Bless!

Hey -
I think you should definitely check into a bladder infection. I have heard that causes strange behavior.

As another mom said, make him clean up after himself. But, the most important thing, I think, would be to encourage his exploration and set up some "safe" places for him to go to the bathroom (all of them outside). Maybe you could set up some cans for him to hit or a sand box. I know...kind of gross - but at least it would give him some focus. And, it would keep it in an area that you approve of. And, by having him clean up any areas that were not "approved", you would really be discouraging the behavior elsewhere.

Good luck!
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Oooooh, I can see why you're upset!

Since he is 5 and should be verbal enough to express himself I would sit down and talk to him calmly about his behavior. (Honestly, when he urinated in the trash can more than once I would have sat him down for a talk.) Tell him that you and daddy are very upset by what he's been doing, and let him know he will be apologizing to the parents of your niece.

Since you really need to know ask him why he's doing it. You say he has no explanation, but there has to be a reason. He may be only 5, but he needs to learn that he's accountable for his actions. If he insists he doesn't have a reason let him know he can go to his room and lay in bed (no playing with toys) until he can tell you. He obviously knows he's to use the toilet, so I'd be real curious as to why he now thinks it's OK to go in random places.

Regardless of his reasoning tell him that he is NOT to do this ever again, and that if he does he will have a consequence, say, going to his room alone and bed early, (if it happens towards evening,) no TV/video games the rest of the day, (if it happens in the morning or afternoon,) or whatever consequence you feel will make the biggest impression on him.

Hope this helps!