V.B. asks from Pompano Beach, FL on June 16, 2011
My 3 Year Old Needs Glasses
Hi Mamas,
I took my 3 year old to the eye doctor today because he was showing signs of not being able to see (squinting A LOT, standing RIGHT in front of the TV, and when you read him a book, he would have his face so close to the page, you couldn't see the words to read it to him). Needless to say, he is extremely nearsighted and is getting glasses. My question is, since he is only 3 years old, does he need to wear them any time he is awake? He just turned 3 a few weeks ago and it seems unrealistic to me that he could keep them on all day long, but if he needs them, then he will have to learn. Does anyone else have such a young child that is wearing glasses? I don't actually wear glasses, so I don't know a whole lot about it other than I know people (such as my husband) can't see without them. This whole question probably seems pretty obvious, but I just wanted to see if anyone could give me some insight. LIke, if he's playing outside riding his bike, etc. does he need to have them on? Again, just looking for some of your experiences. Thanks in advance for your time and advice.
If this is relevant at all, I think his prescription is something like -5 in one eye and -6 in the other (I'm told this is pretty bad, especially for a child his age).
So What Happened?™
Thanks for all of your responses. My insurance paid for everything (with a $25 copay) including the polycarbonite lenses and the transitions so that he can be outside and his eyes will be protected. They are wire frames, but not sure if they are the memory frames. The selection in his size was rather small because his face is so tiny. They just don't make much in his frame size. I'm sure we'll end up buying another pair out of pocket if something happens to these, so I'll keep these other suggestions in mind. You all made me feel much better about this. I was pretty sad about it since his prescription is so bad and it took me this long to get him checked out, but the bottom line is that he'll be able to see soon. Yay! Also, kids can be so cruel and I'm just hoping that he won't be teased endlessly. I think it will help to have them from a young age since there will be more curiosity than ridicule this young. Again, thanks so much. I'm just happy that he will be able to see now and I think he's going to be downright adorable in his glasses! :-)
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J.T. answers from College Station on June 17, 2011
Trust me, once he discovers that he can SEE with the glasses on, he will have no trouble keeping them on!
Yes, all the tine for all activities (except swimming, unless he doesn't put his head in the water) he will need them.
I recommend going with the memory metal frames. They last longer and can usually take all a kid can dish out. My oldest is terribly near sighted and we got him transition lenses so he wouldn't need sunglasses. They are expensive, so maybe not for his first pair. They also have frames especially for the littler kids that wrap around the ear, making it hard for them to take off.
There are lots of rules and regulations on kids glasses so things that you get charged for as an adult, they HAVE to include in kids glasses- like polycarbonate lenses ad such. Oh, and GET THE WARRANTY. It will save you a fortune in replacement costs.
Good Luck.
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B.W. answers from Minneapolis on June 18, 2011
My oldest son had glasses at age 5, and has done just fine with them. My daughter came home from Ukraine at 3 and got glasses two weeks later. We knew she needed them, she had crossed eyes and also has cerebral palsy, which often comes with farsightendess. She also has off the charts astigmatism. Anyway, at 3, being a non-english speaker and going right into glasses after coming home from Ukraine, she did just fine. Once she learned she could see, she was great with them.
Thats not saying we haven't had them adjusted a million times in the last 8 months. :) Be prepared for lens replacements, adjustments, and reminding him to push them up and wear them right. We did use one of the behind the head sports bands for a fe wmonths until she really got used to them.
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R.J. answers from Seattle on June 16, 2011
Absolutely. Otherwise it's like filling a pair of goggles up with water and walking around all day looking through water. I'm -5 in one eye (-4.75 in the other), and I can see BETTER underwater than I can without my contacts in. Just try it to see what it's like (of course, without goggles on). That level of blurry is what you're looking at.
Speaking of goggles...
They have a style of toddler glasses now that are rather like snow goggles or swim goggles. They're flexible framed and go all the way around their head (to stay on securely through rough and tumble play). Just google toddler glasses and you'll see the style pop up.
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J.F. answers from Philadelphia on June 17, 2011
i think it depends on hwo bad their sight is. My daughter was 3 when she got glasses (almost 2 years ago) and she can see with and without them but is farsighted so her eye strains and turns in slightly when reading up close...thwy wouldn't have given her glasses if her eye didn't turn. During the summer, while playing in the pool she doesnt wear them but pretty much all of the time, although lately shes been asking for breaks......Glasses galore and lenscrafters and walmart allhave tons of kids frames,get him to pick a pair he loves and he'll be excited to wear them, and then once the excitement wears off he'll realize how much they help him to see and want to for that reason. I have to admit I have encouraged one or two mini glasses breaks during pic time...she looks cute with them but they tint outside (another easy way to get him to wear them get the ones that turn to sun glasses) so you can't get pics of her eyes with them on outside
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C.C. answers from San Francisco on June 16, 2011
My daughter got glasses at age 4. My advice is, buy several pairs at Walmart. Guaranteed he will lose/scratch them immediately, so it's best to have some backup pairs!
My daughter loves her glasses ("I just think it's so great to SEE things!" she says). She even wants to wear them to bed (I sneak in once she's asleep and take them off of her :). I can understand it - I wore glasses for a long time (and then got Lasik, hallelujah), and being without my glasses was hard. Your son will probably want to wear them all the time, and will forget he has them on.
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J.R. answers from Houston on June 17, 2011
My 3 year old too needed glasses and unfortunately is very near sighted as well...broke my heart but sure explained a lot the way she was getting close to everything to see it... Once she got the glasses she was very excited to see well and has no issue wearing them all the time. She hands them to us if she is going to play and feels that they may get damaged she is so careful with them. We do let her wear them in the pool but she takes them off to go under water although there are many of her swim instructors that wear them underwater as well. Many have asked how we got her to wear them all the time and the bottom line is she can't see without them.
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V.W. answers from Jacksonville on June 16, 2011
Yikes. Yes.
I had a friend years ago (we've lost touch since) that had a child that needed glasses at that age. They make a little strap they can use on them to help keep them on (like one of those sports straps). I think after they get used to them it will cease to be a big problem, particularly if his eyesight is as poor as his prescription says! He will not WANT to take them off, because he won't be able to see!
I have worn glasses for YEARS (since I was in 5th grade, and I probably should have had them a couple of years before that)... I'm in my 40's now. My prescription is around -4.0 (one eye is slightly worse, like -4.25 or something)... anyway... I cannot do much without my glasses. I have a very difficult time without them. If I am in the pool with the kids I feel at a disadvantage b/c I just can't see that well---no throwing the pool football at ME please!, lol I can SEE it, just not as clearly. And I can't see facial details, like expressions very well... so it isn't that you are blind per se. It's more that images are muddy so you can't make out exactly what they are. Depending on the object, some things you CAN'T see.. :(
Talk to his eye doctor about how often he should wear them. Especially in the beginning. I suspect though, that your little guy will enjoy them because he'll finally see what he's been missing all this time! :)
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C.W. answers from Indianapolis on June 17, 2011
Our daughter has had glasses since she was very young as well, she's now 10. She has worn them for everything and all day. She doesn't take them off to play or for sports or anything. If his sight is that bad he needs to be wearing them all the time. Taking them off and on all the time doesn't help their sight either nor does it help them to adjust to them. He needs to learn to wear them in every situation.
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R.L. answers from Houston on June 17, 2011
My sister wore glasses at that age and I don't remember it being that big of a problem. I think little kids with glasses are absolutely adorable! I think if you have him wear them most of the time he's awake, it will be fine. I would definitely have him wear them when playing outside, that way he can see what he is doing and is safer. Kids can make fun of other kids no matter what so I think you have the right idea to educate as you go, I'm sure it won't be an issue.
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R.Y. answers from New York on June 16, 2011
I don't wear glasses either but if his vision is that poor without the glasses I think he will see so much better he will wear them on his own. My dad is like that--he got glases as a kid (maybe 5 or 6ish) and always wears them. There is 1 picture of him with them off out of hundreds and in it he looks like he can't focus! Get sturdy frames, maybe with an elastic strap so he can still run around and be a kid. You might want a spare pair too or a repair/replacement plan for them.
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