My 2 Year Old Is Terrified to Have Bowel Movements, Help Please!

I'm not sure what to do, but I don't think holding him on the toilet by force is the right thing. Put on a diaper and let him go when he wants. Give him some Myralax(stool softener), if the pedi says ok, and he will have no choice because they can't hold it in while taking it.

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Hi A.,
I just went through the same thing with my almost 2yr old. After pinning her pediatrician against a wall, he finally gave a referral to go to a Digestive Health pediatrician. Problem solved!!!!! My daughter is healed. That dr's name is:
Dr. Argao - ###-###-####(he just opened a Plano office).

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When my daughter was little like your son, had problems going to the bath room, I gave her just fruit, juice, childrens spinach etc. and still very hard bowl movements, and took her to Dr. and he said her last intestines were secreting too much water, that she didn't need a laxative, but that colace drops would help the last intestine not to secrete too much water, and that did the trick. No more problems, and she didn't need to stay on the colace indefinately either. I think you can get this without a prescription, but otherwise, I think I'd try ad different Dr. if I were you, if he still keeps having the problem.

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IT never hurts to get asecond oppinion, listen to what YOUR gut is telling you.

Good luck, I would give your son some Fiber one granola bars they always help my kids go poop... he may ust need more fiber to help get it all moving.

HTH
A. J

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YES! Definately get a second opinion from a different Dr.
That is not normal. Try apple juice, apples, pears, and see if there are some children's gentle overnight stoole softners.
Apple juice has always helped my kids. They drink it and it tastes a lot better than prune juice. Also, try the baby food plums - it is like plum pudding, and that might help as well.
Good luck!

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-we gave my son prune juice and a small bit of Essential Balance Jr. (or a fish oil supp might work better for your son, depending on what he eats) & did our best to ensure he got all the liquid he would take; this routine might help your little guy keep his stool soft naturally

-do you let your son see you go poo? i know it's kinda silly to say, but my son thinks it's fun to mimic his mama and daddy on the pot (we even get him to grunt and make noises to make it fun for him -- what a boy -- sheesh! but my preference is offering him a toy magazine, he likes to read on the potty too)

-another thing to consider might be a more natural position for elimination -- squatting. i'll just give you the terms "nature's platform" and let you do your own googling on that one...;D

HTH!!

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My daughter went through the same thing. And for 2 YEARS! they could not find a out what the problem was. She gained so much weight because it just kept backing up in her. Although she would have bowel movements. I took her to several different doctors over the 2 years and no one can find anything wrong. Finally I took her to a stomach specialist and she diagnosed her right away. She has a condition called Chronic Constipation and she will be on medication for the rest of her life. Please take the baby to a stomach specialist and if you can let me know how you make out.

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My youngest had the same problems. The pediatrician put him on Miralax (sp?) to help soften his stools. But the thing that worked the best (we did this in conjunction with the stool softener). We went to the comic book store (my son is a HUGE superhero fan) and we bought a TON of inexpensive comics for the bathroom. Every time that he had to go, my husband or I would sit with him in the bathroom and read comics to him so that he would stay calm. Eventually the BM would come out on it's own. After a few months, he stopped associating having a BM with pain.

We still have issues every once in a while. We have to vigilant and make sure that he has lots of raw veggies and fruit in his diet. And I have a great recipe that a friend gave me for pumpkin flax seed whole wheat muffins. We affectionately refer to them as "poopy" muffins. Feel free to email me off list and I'll send the recipe to you.

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I have two friends whose son's did not have regular bowel movements (sometimes not going for 10 days). Their doctors said to give less milk, bananna's, and some breads. Give him plenty of fiber, fruit, prune juice and water. It probably does hurt him when he is potting does he tend to cry when he goes in his diaper? If not then don't worry about potty training right now try to get him on a regular schedule of pooping. Then potty train later. If you don't see any changes in his popping more regular I would consult a Chiropractor they are great at helping with the issues.

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my 18 month old only goes if i give him suppositories or enemas. his stool is always very soft. he just has a problem getting it out for some reason and its painful for him as well.. i've never been told why, he is prone to consipation though because of his syndrome. we have seen his pediatrician because of this on many occasions along with his GI dr. we have tried miralax and are now trying fruit- eze.. i will let you know how it goes!

sorry, dont have any words of wisdom because i have yet to figure it out.. just wanted you to know that you arent alone!

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Definitely find another Pediatrician if yours is not giving you any help. No body should have to go through that especially such a young child. My son had issues as well until I put him on MiraLax which was suggested by my pediatrician. I put it in his milk (you can use any liquid) every morning and was told to make sure and not miss a morning. The goal is for him to not fear having to go poopies. The Dr. assured me of no effects of the long term use. He also said after about 4-6 months skip a day occasionally but not the same time frame in between. Hope this helps. But no doubt, I wouldn't use your pediatrician ever! Hope your little guy finds relief!!!

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Hi A. - yes you need to take him to a pediatric gastroenterologist. They are trained for just exactly this. I can't remember what they call it but it is common in kiddos but they have different ways of handling it that regular pediatricians don't have. Look for a pediatric gastroenterologist. He will associate pain with potty for a while and you may have to wait to get this taken care of before you really start full force with the potty and they will advise you ways of that. My friend took her daughter to ours locally and they really helped her but it did take a while before she didn't associate pain with poop anymore. Now she is 4 and she is fine.

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I had the same problem with my youngest. We took him to the doctor and found out that he has anal fissars. Which are small tears in the muscle. I have them too and they are no fun. They do cause lots of pain during a bowel movement. I hope that the little guys feels better!

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Absolutely get a second opinion! You might even try a specialist. Like a Pediatric Gastroenterologist. Dr. Mark Miller is WONDERFUL but I'm not sure if he sees children. His number is ###-###-####. He saved my Papaw's life so we hold him in high regard in my household. Good luck and God Bless! Keep us all posted!

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A.-

I feel your pain!! We went through the exact same thing with my son and we have just recently resolved the problem...I think/hope!!! It took us many visits to the doctor and we got the same response as you. Potty training was a nightmare for us because our son was so dramatized by the very thought of going to the bathroom and having a hard BM that he would physically fight us when we took him. I know every child is different but here is what finally worked for us (BTW this was all OK'd with our doc first)

1-Fleet Enema for children. I know it's unpleasant but give him the fleet and put him in a diaper not underwear. This will "clean out any of the hard stool stuck in there) The reason for the diaper is so he doesn't associates the discomfort and unpleasantness of the enema process with going on the actual potty.

2- Miralax and Benefiber EVERY day. (Your doc can give you the correct dosage but we had to tweak the dosage a few times to get it just right)

3- Lot's of fiber rich foods and avoid things like cheese, milk etc.

4-Prizes for going #2 on the potty. We used a prize box filled with small little treats for him going.

I hope some of this info helps you!

Good luck!

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There is obviously something going on. I can't imagine that he is just "afraid". Although, I have never exprienced this before. I think that you are right to get a second opinion.

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We had a nightmare with one of my girls for almost a year. It took that long to get through to the pediatrician and get some real help. Talk to your pediatrician about using Miralax; it will help regulate your boy. He probably has constipation and the small amount that he goes is probably leakage around the blockage. It probably really hurts. Also make sure he is not getting diaper rash on his bottom; use Aquaphor on his bottom between movements. Miralax is available without a prescription but at that age you still want to talk to the dr before giving meds. It helped our daughter tremendously.

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This is a horrible cycle that could only get worse. The child holds it in until it comes out and really does hurt. So they are afraid the next time... again hold it in until it really does hurt. I have seen it in a daycare I've worked @ the parents choose to give the child (3 years old) an enima (I don't know if I spelled that right). My own son had the same issue. I choose to lessen the milk in his diet, add lots of apple juice & water and also I would make homemade pancakes with ground flaxseed. My son 's pediatrician also suggested massaging his tummy and bottom when he had the urge to go to 'help' it come out. (This takes a strong stomach and only a mothers love :) ) I would get a second opinion...

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I babysat for a lady and the little girl had the same problem she was terrified of having a bowel movement it always amde me want to cry! But we put her on phyllum husks or i guess another name for it is corn husks i didnt spell the first name right and cant remember hw its spelt... But its corn husks ground into a powder. Anyway she would ask for it if we did not give it to her b/c she knew it did not hurt then it makes it soft any way that what i would try,It worked for us

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My baby has had that issue since he was about 3-4 months old. he is now 11 months old. He has rectal fissures. Small tears in and around his rectum. I mix MIRALAX laxative in one bottle a day per our pediatrician. It makes there stool really soft so the tears can heal. Something to look into.

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We bought about 20 matchbox cars for my son (cost $20), put them in a bag up in our closet. He knew that each time he went poopy in the potty (in your case you could do the diaper) he got to choose 1 car. This was highly motivating. Maybe associating something positive with going poopy will help him.

Bless you and hang in there!

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I think holding him down while he is screaming can create more problems.

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