My 1St Grader

Unfortunately, it is normal, and normal isn't good. The public school style of teaching and learning only works for a very very small percentage of kids. Your daughter CAN'T learn that way. You are harming her/letting her be harmed by trying to fit her into a system that goes against the way God made her. You need to rethink what education is and how your daughter learns and then look into how you can help her to learn.

There are as many ways to educate as there are types of children, so spend a little time and look into it! You are her teacher (you taught her to walk, talk, brush her teeth, and eat with a fork--you are her teacher), and you are her mother--the only one who loves her as a mother should.

Here are some ideas to look at:

Private School
Charter School
Montessori
Charlotte Mason
Unschooling
A Beka
Sonlight
Classical Education
Eclectic
Mary Pride
Ambleside Online
...the list goes on and on.

Let me know if you have any questions, believe me, I know what it's like to go see a teacher who's chatting with other teachers while the kids watch a movie I wouldn't let in my house! I know what it's like to be overburdened with worksheets, only to be bawled out for sloppy writing. Public School really stinks, on the whole, although it has it's place, and there are some good things about it. I will never deal with it again, myself...

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Um - 3 things.

1. Get your daughter's ears and eyes checked by a professional.

2. Switch teachers.

3. Ask for a referral to an educational psychologist from your pedi if your daughter doesn't show some serious improvement within 6 weeks.

You should also plan for a repeat in First grade.

S.

I'm in Iowa Park - I haven't had any trouble yet, but should we not be able to switch from an inept teacher - or find that the educational system just isn't working for us, I will either do Online Public School through Connections Academy, a Charter school (Bright Ideas), or Homeschool.

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My daughter would cry and fuss over her homework. Finally, her teacher in 2nd grade (this went on for two years) gave me a test to see if she was ADHD. I worked with her for hours a night and on the weekends. I finally decided that it was torture for a 7 year old to have hours of homework a night. I went to the doctor, and got her on Conserta. The lowest dose, 18mg has changed her life. (25 dollars a month on insurance) If you are against this, ask yourself.. would you deny her insulin if she had diabetes? Nobody is perfect. Take care of her now so that she can get the reading basics, they stop reading testing in 3rd grade and you don't want this to hurt her self esteem. I know what I am talking about. Good Luck

L.

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My advice to any parent is please don't jump the teacher before you have looked at all sides of the issue.

My daughter had the same issue. She seemed to have tons of homework in 1st grade. I had a conference with her teacher and found out that my daughter had plenty of time to do the work in class, but didn't. The teacher allowed her to take it home to finish it which appeared to be lots of homework.

Her teacher and I worked together on a time management reward system that seemed to work. If she completed her work in class, she got "tickets" to cash in at the end of the week. All of the sudden the piles of homework disasppeared.

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Fight for your daughter and her right to learn. It will only get harder if she gets behind. Find out if she is being pulled out for reading. Does she need dyslexia testing, speak to the school counselor about your options. Is the teacher teaching or forcing the kids to try to learn in chaos. It is your right to know and your job to find out. We've had terrible trouble with spelling words especially, since the first grade. My oldest is now in 5th and has tested dyslexic. None of the teacheres suggested testing her in 1st, 2nd, 3rd, or even 4th. They just let her struggle and left me wringing my hands. Finally I insisted on testing and sure enough there is a real problem. Sometimes the teachers are just tooooo 'busy' to stop and notice. Fight for your kid. She has the right to learn and it is the teachers job to teach her in a way that she can learn and your job to make sure that it happens.

Good luck to you!!
J.
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IC

Homework everyday for a first grader is excessive. I'm almost certain her behavior is because she is overwhelmed. Is it actual homework she's doing or is it material she's not finishing in class? It might be possible that the teacher does not have a handle on the class and sends home the work that should have been done during class time. That could explain the reason she doesn't understand, the teacher is not effectively explaining the concepts.

I have a first grader too, so if he were in this situation I would do 2 things.

1. Make an appointment for yourself & her separately with the school counselor. You need to relate the behaviors you've observed and what has happened when you've talked to the teacher. And for your daughter, she might be more willing to open up and talk to someone who's not Mom & Dad. Once the counselor has seen both points of view, she should be able to determine what the real problem is. It might be as simple as switching teachers.

2. I would speak to the principal about your concerns about the teacher and the amount of homework she receives. Try running a copy of the weeks worth of homework so you have actual proof. The principal may not agree with you - I find a lot of educators give you that "it's not our fault, they need to know this for the TAKS" excuse. At least this way, you've gone on record with your concerns.

Here's some food for thought. As I mentioned before, my son is a first grader, like you, he's my first of 3. I had him enrolled at Timber Creek Elementary in Flower Mound for Kindergarten. The year he started, the school had gone from an Exemplary rating to an Acceptable rating. I noticed that in Kindergarten - 5 & 6 year olds had homework due every Friday and as an advanced reader, he had to read a book each week and write a couple of sentences describing it. In mid-year, we moved to Plano and he attended Hedgecoxe Elementary. The new school was rated Exemplary and there was only the occasional homework work sheet. So I guess my point is that his old school was probably trying to compensate for their low rating by starting a rigorous curriculum for the youngest students so that by the time they reach 3rd grade & start TAKS, they can perform well.

Also, in 1st grade right now, my son gets a short chapter book. He has 2 weeks to read it and a small packet of worksheets to turn in on Friday of the 2nd week. On occasion, he'll have the odd 1 page work sheet to finish during the week. That's it for homework. We pace him by having him read a couple of chapters a night the first week and when she's done a page or two of worksheet a night on the second week. A couple of times he has brought home some work that he didn't finish in class or he had to re-do due to messy handwriting, but it's rare.

I hope this helps a bit.

K.

I just had a few thoughts for you.
1. Immediately request parent/teacher conference meeting to discuss what may be going on. They have conference time daily.
2. Findout if your child is not completing work at school thus these are assignments being sent home to complete in addition to homework. I know for my son, this happens all the time. He has behavioral issues. However, I would think the teacher should've contacted you about that.
3. See if there are any learning concerns the teacher has for your child and her advice. Agree on a way you both can help your child for consistancy and mutual support
4. If after you try with the teacher and still feel her running of the class is the problem, request a meeting with the principal and counselor. The counselor can observe her class as well. If they are that out of hand all the time, they will not be able to shape up for the observation.
5. Maybe even consider breaks in between homework. For every 20-30 min of work, she can break off for 10-15min. But the amount of homework sounds extreme.

Good luck and tackle this issue before it gets too out of hand!

Wow, that sounds like a lot of homework for a first grader. First, talk to the teacher about all your concerns. She needs to know your child is crying about homework. If you think the teacher is not doing a good job, speak to the principal and other parents in the same class and ask their opinions. If your daughter continues this way, she will end up disliking school which is terrible. Be an advocate for your child. If you sense something is not right with either the teacher or if you suspect your child may have a learning disability, YOU need to take action. I don't know if you are in public or private, but if it is public, you can ask to have your child tested for learning disabilities free of charge.

S.,
Bless your heart, I would take the advice of the other mothers too. Talk to the teacher, and if you have too, make it after school when the other kids are gone and it's quiet. Also, make it fun to learn. Maybe even play "school" with her, let her be the teacher time to time and have her give you homework to do. I know they give kids a lot of homework compared to when we were kids. I don't think the schools do enough of physical exercises either, when I went we had recess 2-3 times a day plus PE every day. I think it was good because kids need to burn that energy to focus. Maybe that is something else you need to do with her, have her run around and play for 30 minutes before doing some of the homework, maybe she just full of energy and needs to burn it off. When my middle son was 3-4, I remember in the evening he would say, I have too much energy to burn lets go on a walk... We would take a walk every night practically. You have to make learning fun to her, be creative and make time. Maybe have a reward system like the other mother said with candy or stickers, buy a pack of those star and when she gets 10 or 20 take her to her favorite place, something she loves to do.
Good luck and God Bless!

Sometimes you have to make everything into a game when it comes to doing homework. Maybe you should get a bag of candy and everytime she gets the answer correct you should give her a treat or tell her after doing her homework she can have a piece of candy for doing good...Also always make everything sound exciting and fun always tell her she's going to do so good!Thats what may help her at home...Aslo i would schedule a conference with the teacher about what she could possibly do to make things more exciting or you could see what suggestions she may have anything to help her through this. Also if they have a tutoring program after school that maybe another suggestion for your child to get a more one on one with the teacher so she can get a feel of what may help without having all the other students in the class.Good Luck and best wishes!!

To start I would arrange a parent teacher conference. The teacher should have time for this and if not I would contact the principal. She should have some advice how to handle it. Also try letting her take a break with a snack prior to doing homework but dont wait untill close to bedtime. You can also try to make it fun. Make up a game and always give positive feedback about how smart she is.

As a teacher, I am appalled at that classroom management. Seek professional help for your child through the school, don't stop at the teacher, (but always start with him/her) ask for a meeting with counselors or principals or whatever. Please be careful to not be accusatory toward the teacher, but concerned for your child. Get help for your child so that she can have a positive attitude on school, learn to love learning, and become somewhat compliant regarding homework. You are the mom with the responsibility for how your child is schooled. So find out what the school can offer your child for a better learning environment as well as you knowing how to help your child learn.

In fairness to the teacher it is probably best to address your concerns during her conference time.

After your conference, if things are not getting better, try sending out feelers of others parents how their children in your daughter and other 1 grade classes are doing with their homework.

Lastly, try setting up a routine... Unfortunately homework will be constant and the load will only increase. Coming home, talking about the day, eating a snack, doing homework, then playtime... etc. Whatever works for your daughter... This is something she is going to have to do until she finishes school...

If that's what her classroom looks like, I would definitly get her a new teacher. I am all for working out problems but some things are just non-negotiable ...at school our children are to be cared for and tought. If she lets her kids run around like mad and your daughter doesn't understand the assignment at hand then of course she would fall behind. I have a first grader, she has just as much homework as your daughter but I couldn't imagine her crying over it, she loves school! My kindergartner feels the same as well! Children deserve to have an enjoyable time at school. I would put her in another room and see if there are any improvements : ) good luck!

*I must add (after reading the post below mine), with Dyslexia, the student would still understand the task, they would just have a hard time doing the task (reading, writing, spelling, math, etc. ). Like, she would understand that she is supposed to write her spelling words three times each, but she would have trouble reading her words and re writing them. I was diagnosed with it when I was 9 and it is hard living with it, but you learn to manage.

That homework load is NOT appropriate for 1st grade! Go to the principal now and have a discussion. Move to a new teacher. Make the teacher accountable and have your daughter stay after school with her for 30 min to work on homework with her. Obviously there is a disconnect with this teacher.
That is ridiculous!!

I would talk to the teacher and ask if it seems like she knows the material. If it's just a homework issue, then I'd try to love and logic approach. Tell her she doesn't have to do her homework and let her deal with the consequences of that action. At my kids' school they have to sit out at recess if they don't do their work. Check with the teacher to make sure that there is a logical consequence for her not doing her homework and then let it play out. This only assumes that she does know the material (and that the homework battle isn't because she doesn't understand it and thus gets frustrated) and that there is no ADD issue or anything like that.

My first grader has definitely changed since going to public school. I have had conferences with the teacher; the principal and the guidance counselor. I would suggest that if the teacher has no control over the classroom, that you seek to have her changed to another class.

Good luck

J.

I also have a first grader that is not wanting to go to school or do homework and does not seem to be reading at the level I think he should be reading. I am at a loss too!! I would love to hear what advice you get. We are in Plano schools.

S.

Go visit the principal and give your concerns. I taught 1st grade for 13 years and can say that my students had about 15 mins of homework...tops...and that was not every night. She should not be getting homework over the weekends, etc. How ridiculous....this teacher is creating an environment that is going to turn these precious little ones AWAY from school instead of creating a love for school. You have a REAL concern and you need to let the principal know what is going on.....Good luck.

Give her things that are fun to do AFTER she has done her work. Do her home work with her, ex if she does 2 you'll help her with one of her problems. I'm sorry, but things will get better. My son did the same thing and now he is reading a lot better.

I have a 14 yr old and I am a substitute teacher in elementary school.

First of all, after reading these responses, I think it is wrong to automatically come down on the teacher. Yes, there are good and bad teachers and we have had our share as well. Are you saying that EVERYTIME you go to the her classroom the teacher is sitting and kids are running wild? I do know that students have specified time for centers and stations for the desk work, group work and computer work. As a substitute and volunteer, I have seen many students waste this time, therefore, the unfinished work results in work completion during recess and if not completed at that time, home work. There are some students who NEED the extra attention and time to review and complete assignments. Those students are identified and usually will get one on one or small group attention from the teacher.

The first graders where I sub don't have more than 1 page of homework and are asked to read.

I would FIRST speak with the teacher and let her know your concerns. See how she responds to you. Also, go observe the classroom when your daughter and teacher do not expect you. IF after a conference and observing you are not satisfied, I would go to the counselor and then step up. I would not make my first step over the teacher's head. She/he has a right to know how you feel about the class and what is going on.

Yes, it sounds like your daughter has a lot of homework. I agree with other posters that learning needs to be fun. Of course you need to be proactive with your daughter to ensure she gets a good education which involves any extra testing, tutoring, etc.

Best wishes.

S.,
As a former PreK teacher with FWISD for 15+ yrs, it
is so very disturbing to know the amount of homework your
1st grade daughter has been assigned. Not only is
the amount of work EXCESSIVE(especially for her age),
it is unfair and ridiculous!
If I were you, I would immediately schedule a parent-teacher
conference with your child's teacher and tell her you feel
the amount of homework is unrealistic. (No wonder your
daughter is acting out...It sounds like she is reacting to
undo stress & anxiety.) If the teacher does not HEAR what
you are saying, then definitely take it to the principal.
To be fair to the teacher, she needs to know that you are
concerned enough to talk to the principal if the amount of
homework continues to be the same.
I recently printed off an online article concerning excessive amount of homework. I was going to pass this info
on to my sister, a counselor at a private school, as this
issue can get out of hand at other schools as well. She,
you, I must be advocates for these children and speak up for
them on these issues when/if they arise.
I would be happy to fax or mail you a copy of this article
so you have some ammunition with you when you talk to the
teacher. Just let me know your fax # or mailing address.
Blessings,
C.
P.S. The title of the article is "Kids overworked? Join the less-homework revolution Fed-up parents are changing the way schools think-and you can, too"

Have a reward system. If your daughter completes her homework, she gets thirty minutes or however long of television. Take away other things she might like doing/having after school. If this does not work, have her tested for ADD. Talk to the principal of the school regarding the unruliness of your daughter's classroom. Good luck.