I think it is great that you continute to talk with him, even though he doesn't seem to talk back. Don't stop that. If you don't already, I would make it a priority that your entire family sit down and have dinner together every single night! Have them help too. Set the table, clean off the table, whatever it might be. However, if this is something new, I would reward them for it. Set up some sort of reward system (even for your 16 yr old). I think at that age, I would be annoyed if my parents introduced a new chore. This is a good way to force everyone to spend some time together (whether communicating or not). When I was 14-17, I was kind of the same way. I found my mom and step-dad, overbearing and could not relate to them. All they ever did was say "no" and never gave me a reason. They also didn't respect me. They loved me but just didn't treat kids with respect. We were just "kids" and they were the "boss." Looking back on it now, I kind of felt worthless. It sounds much more dramatic than it really was but my point is that I would avoid them and they certainly weren't the ones that I would go to talk or share my feelings. It doesn't sound like you are this way at all. However, I think some of this just comes with the age. When he matures a little, hopefully he will open up. In the mean time, don't stop what you are doing. Continue to show him the importance of family, even if it seems he doesn't care right now. He's in the midst of needing to be "cool" right now. I think it's even worse with boys. Good luck to you. I'm stressing so much over my 4 year old boy already and I can't believe the problems are going to getting even harder. UGH. Oh, one last thought...maybe you all can go camping together. The weather is nice and I bet boys would LOVE that! Take care of mom, build the fire and such. You can rent the equipment at various places.