T.W. asks from Bethlehem, PA on May 18, 2009
Mother of the Bride Gifts
Hi Everyone!
My sister is getting married at the end of this month. Unfortunately, she is not very appreciative of EVERYTHING my mom has done for her throughout this whole thing. So, I wanted to get my mom something to show that her efforts were noticed and appreciated. Does anyone have any ideas? She is not into spas or jewelry which makes this so hard! :)
Thanks everyone!
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I just want to thank everyone for the great ideas... I really appreciate it. Just to clarify... I am not trying to "one up" my sister. Throughout her whole life she has been unappreciative of everything my parents have done for us. When she got engaged she told us that she prefers his family to her own. My mom is absolutely amazing and I can't sit back and wacth her be neglected while my sister praises her soon to be MIL.
But again, thank you everyone for the great ideas... I think I may do a combination of a few of them!
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J.M. answers from Philadelphia on May 19, 2009
How about finding a neighboring Tea store. And go for high tea. In the Souderton area there is one called Tilly Mints. A great place. Open wed- sat. It is on the web. Spending time is much better than a gift.
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L.T. answers from Pittsburgh on May 18, 2009
What if you take her out to dinner or to a show?
A.P. answers from Pittsburgh on May 19, 2009
I like the dinner and show idea. If you have a little more $ in your budget maybe a weekend or night getaway to somewhere nice around you...not sure where you live but 2 good central places in PA are Nemacolin Woodlands and Bedford Springs. You could even do Seven Springs. If you are more eastern you could do the shore. Or just a nice B&B in a pretty town. You and her could go together or she could go with your father. This would give her some much needed relaxation.
J.M. answers from Philadelphia on May 19, 2009
How about finding a neighboring Tea store. And go for high tea. In the Souderton area there is one called Tilly Mints. A great place. Open wed- sat. It is on the web. Spending time is much better than a gift.
E.N. answers from Philadelphia on May 25, 2009
Dear T.:
If you know the plays, concerts or operas that she likes, buy tickets for your mom and you to go and possibly lunch or dinner. It's really a nice surprize, especially when the concerts only come to your area once a year.
Have a wonderful time at the wedding!!
K.M. answers from Reading on May 18, 2009
K.K. answers from Erie on May 19, 2009
I have to ask, is this the relationship you have always had with your sister and your mom?
I understand that your sister isn't being appreciative of your mom. If you want to do something nice for your mom, that is one thing, but in my opinon (which i know you didn't ask for) a mother of the bride gift should come from the bride.
When you give your mom a gift of appreciation for all she's done for your sister, it sounds like you are trying to "one up" your sister and rub it in that sis is unappreciative.
If you haven't considered it from that point of view you might want to take a second and do that. Obviously I have no idea what your sister or your mom is like, and i do think it is sweet of you to think of your mom and taking her out to be pampered after all the fuss is over is a great idea, but calling it a Mother of the bride gift sounds a little power-struggle-ish to me.
You know best though how your gesture will go over, so if i'm totally off the mark, please excuse me and forget i said anything.
I hope you enjoy your sister's celebration.
T.C. answers from Philadelphia on May 19, 2009
Is she into stationary? What about very fine personalized stationary? Or if she is a beach person, a bag (like from Land's End or Pottery Barn) that is personalized and filled with beach knick-knacks? Check out Etsy.com. They usually have some really, really neat & unique gift ideas on there.
Good luck!
T. :)
K.L. answers from Erie on May 19, 2009
What about a nice framed photo of your family? The plus to this is that it is a very personal gift (and one she can keep for years). The minus - if you choose to use a large group photo from the wedding - is that it wouldn't be complete to give to her at wedding time. Of course, you could buy and wrap a nice frame with a cute note that the photo is coming later.
It is too bad that your sister doesn't appreciate your mom, but I hope she learns from your example rather than thinking that you are trying to compete with her or show her up . . .
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