dude, you've been married for 11 years and no MIL visit? you have nothing to worry about. especially if it'll be another 11 years. I'm totally jaded on this subject. I too have a very "loving" SIL...they like to put my hubby in the middle. I know the whole wanna make good impression...but she's HIS mama so ask HIM what he thinks needs to be done. Chances are if he's happy in his home, then it's not too farfetched to think that she will be comfy there too, or that it's similar to hers. then all you have to do is worry about holding your tounge. you have 4 kids...give them each a box and pack up stuff that's cluttering your main traffic areas...then hide the boxes in a closet/attic to go thru after the holiday barrage. that's what we do. as far as decorating...let the kids draw her welcome pictures....then they're authentic and cheap. oh girl, my heart goes out to you. msg me back, I'll keep thinking of simple easy fast cheap stuff...my main thought though is that: this is you and your family, don't work yourself soooo hard that you're tired or sick by the time she gets here...be proud of what you have and who yall are, skip the facades...she might not like those either. if ya can't please everyone...ya gotta please yourself...Dee dee dee dee...(remember Crosby, Stills, Nash song)and uh your hubby.