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More Help with Reading

I have a daughter who is 10, and she has trouble reading. She likes to read, she likes books, but she struggles. She does well in every other subject, and is social at school and other activities. We had her tested to see if there was any other issues, and there weren't...the Dr. said she doesn't have the basic phonetic principles down, but becuase she is so bright, she has great comprehension. She has used all the "context clues" that they have taught, but she never learned phonics. What are some ways that we can incorporate basic phonics for a 10 year old? She doesn't want to do baby lessons, she wants to read big books! The more she tries, the more frustrated she gets. She was not interested in learning her letters at an early age like my other children...she was very active. I gave her all the same educational toys, videos and books as the other children...she just didn't want to do it. Her kindergarten teacher said she was fine becuase she was very bright with a huge vocabulary. By first grade, she was labeled a non-reader and they refused to teach her phonics. I did by the "hooked on phonics" series (against the reading specialists wishes) and have had her play school with her younger brother to help...but that only works some of the time...any advice?

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Thank you for all the wonderful responses. We have had her tested for dyslexia and the Dr. assured us that is not the issue. The issue is that the school didn't teach her phonics. My older son went to school already knowing how to read, but he cooperated when it came to learning! Since she didn't learn her letters until kindergarten, she was already "behind". Her first grade teacher was getting her Masters, so she was "up on all the new techniques" and didn't do ANY phonics. Since my daughter was just learning, she resorted to guessing. Now, we are having to do basics, even though she has moved well beyond the first readers. Her comprehension is incredible for her reading speed. We have had tutors, but the just reinforce what the school is doing in reading recovery...which still isn't phonics. She doesn't want to do what we want her to do, because we don't "know anything"...we are only her parents! I am a HUGE reader and I would read all day every day if I had the time! My husband is not a reader, and he struggled through school in reading as well. I just don't want her to go through life thinking she is a failure becuase she is not a good reader.

Thanks for all the advice, and any other ideas on incorporating phonics in her life without a lot of stress would be much appreciated!

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Get her books on tape and have her read along with them. Those books with albums at the time helped me as a child by hearing and reading at the same time.

My kids are much younger and just learning their alphabet right now, but we use www.starfall.com . I know there are higher levels of reading on the website, we've just never had a need for them yet. Maybe this site would be helpful to her for more practice?

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R.-
I'm so sorry to hear about your daughter struggling with reading. I work with the special education department at my school and one of the things that we like to use with our kiddos that are slightly below their peers, in regards to reading, is to go to www.starfall.com. It's a great interactive computer site that has many fun activities related to reading. Maybe than your daughter will enjoy these simpler activities more?!
Best of luck!
-A.

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my advice is since she loves to read, go to the library and encourage her to read...the phonics will come, especially if you ask her to read the story to you...be patient...she will get it! Just remind her to slow down when she reads so she gets the whole story...you can even tell her you need her help in making sure you say the phonics correctly...what child doesn't like thinking they are smarter than their parents at something! good luck! I am sure she will learn her phonics with your help!

My daughter recently went through the same sort of thing. We ended up taking stories with Bratz, or Hannah Montana, which were mostly pictures, (kind of like a comic, with real pictures rather than drawings) with words coming out like a screenplay. Because she was so familiar with the subject matter, as a huge fan of both, she was able to figure out the words a lot easier, than trying to read phonetically. She used to try to actually memorize words rather than break them down to read. It was frustrating. She responded very well to things on the internet, mostly game related, but if it got her reading, I didn't care. It mostly boiled down to practicing every night, I'd read with her for a half an hour, she had to read for 15 then I would finish up. She also got a tutor through school. She's 9 now, but is reading at her proper level now.
Good Luck, I hope this has helped a little!
L.

Hi R.,

I am so sorry to hear of her struggle! How are are things going now? I am with Usborne Books and we have a selection of books dedicated to learning Phonics. On the back cover of the books,there is a chart showing each word used and explaining its purpose. Also, we have 3 books that might also be helpful. Improve Grammer, Punctuation and Spelling. Ages 10 and up, they include enteraining quizzes and puzzles for extra practice.

Please let me know if I can help further!
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S.

Get her books on tape and have her read along with them. Those books with albums at the time helped me as a child by hearing and reading at the same time.

I'm not sure how much it would help but check if her school or any schools in your district are Reading First schools. It is a program to help k-3 readers but they have specialized coaches that might help. Or you could see if there is a Kuman center in your area they are very reputable. Hope this helps.

I may have a little different take than any of the responses I have read, because I home school my children.
If I had took the advice of school personnell, teachers and "trained professionals" my NOW 16 yr old (college attending, straight A making) son would have been on Ritalin since age 7. My 15 yr old daughter would not be one year ahead of her peers and my 11 yr old would probably be labeled with ADD or ADHD!
Ok, that said, I guess I should give advice because that is what this is about, but my best advice, is to go with your gut!! I went to college to become a special education teacher and did all BUT my student teaching. When I was in the public school system (my children were in K and 2nd grade) I saw many children who just needed some extra attention. By the time they got home from school, they were frustrated and often emberassed because of the way they were treated. I didn't see this just at one school but at several and in different parts of the state.
Yes, I am a HUGE advocate for homeschooling and will help ANYONE who truly wants to teach their children outside the public school system.
Your child is READING! Is your child LEARNING? Who says HOW FAST she must read? Who has a right to label her?
School is often about competition and reaching some standard that is usually not a measurable thing and is not related to success in life.
Ok, so enough of my rambling (I could go on and on and often do)but seriously, take a look at your child and determine really why you are concerned, what your gut tells you about her, and that will help with the answers. She WANTS to READ!! She is READING!! What crime is it if she needs help in her reading as she reads the BIG BOOKS??? I still mispronounce words and turn things around, but I actually read faster than anyone I know. That doesn't make me dyslexic!! And what is that anyway?? (I know what it means technically-studied it in college-but what DIFFERENCE does it make to label someone. DO WHAT WORKS FOR YOUR CHILD!)
If you have questions about home schooling or about my advice, feel free to e-mail me.

My oldest daughter who just turned 9 over the summer has had problems with reading as well. I requested that she be tested at school for any learning issues. Because she was bright enough but was having problems she qualified for extra help through the school. The school has so many days to test, so many days to have a meeting, and so many days to complete a learning plan for your child. My oldest child gets extra time on the MAP she goes to a special reading teacher for a set number of hours each week. We started this last year at her old school and saw a tiny bit of improvement. We moved during the summer to a much better school and have seen great improvements in just a few months. You have to have great teachers and get communication! You may also consider a tutor for after school. A lot of times you can contact the school and there maybe a teacher who is looking to do some parttime work. What is great about that is they can just meet right after school. GOOD luck to you.
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