A.J. asks from Indialantic, FL on January 17, 2008
Mom Wondering If Anyone Else Felt Overly Anxious After the Birth of Their First
Hello to all...
Just gave birth to a beautiful healthy boy 3 weeks ago. Since then I've been struck with anxiety and just recently feelings of depression. I'm really hoping this is just the baby blues everyone talks about but am not sure. Am really worried about having to take an anti depressant. I'm walking with the baby everyday and taking vitamins... just trying to take care of myself until this passes... does amyone else know what I'm talking about? Almost like feeling like I'm in a fog or out of touch w/ reality.
Thank you in advance for your thoughts:)
So What Happened?™
Thank you to everyone for all their responses and support. Ty is 6 months now and I'm getting accustomed to my new role as a mom a little more everyday. I am taking some meds bit hopefully not for too much longer. Thx again to you all!!!
D.L. answers from Lakeland on January 22, 2008
The good news is you are normal. I too went through depression after giving birth to my son. You feel this huge amount of responsibilty has been laid on your lap and whats worse (in my case) I felt I may not be up to the job. I felt out of place, and awkward like all the other new moms at the park had it together and I didnt. In my case it did pass. I quit worring so much about all the what-ifs and I let go of the past completly..that is the hard part. Just let go of all the things that you miss since having a baby. And move forward. Depression is not a sin! your whole life has changed and I think for the better. My son has taught me sooo much about Life and he is a KID. Stay busy, and exercise that will help you the most. When your body is strong and in shape you will feel in control of this out of control situation.
R.E. answers from Jacksonville on January 18, 2008
Taking anti depressants in the short-term is not a big deal. What IS a big deal is having you emotions such as they are when help is available.
Talk to your OB.
R. answers from Tampa on January 17, 2008
My first baby I thought things were fine, but I heard that the sun starts shinning again and everything becomes clearer around 2 months. Sure enough exactly 2 months I felt like the lights came back on even though I didn't even realize they were off! My second one was not that way at all. I was tired, stressed, life did not look the same at all. Normally I am very positive and I just couldn't be positive. I lost patients with my 3 year old and would get so angry with him over nothing. I had urges to hit him that were so hard to control. I didn't feel that way towards the baby though, not sure why. I didn't want to go to the doctor and be put on medication either but knew my kids didn't deserve to suffer with me. I went and sure enough my Dr. put me on a anti depressant, a very small dose. What a difference it has made! So glad I didn't fight it!! It's not the end of the world and not necessarily permanent either. You should defiantly talk to your doctor. Most people don't like to talk about this for fear they will be viewed as a awful mother, not the case at all!!! I have found that 3 other friends are on the same medication as I am :) So don't fight it too much. Babies change us so much it's amazing, who knew a little tiny thing could do so much to change your body and emotions. Congratulations on the birth of your boy, motherhood is the best thing in the world!! You did a great thing about signing up on mamasource you will never be alone here!
C.K. answers from Orlando on January 18, 2008
Call your doctor. You might have PPD (post-partum depression).
Call your doctor, if you go undiagnosed it can get so much worse. This is a happy time, you should enjoy it.
I should know I went through it and it got bad.
B.K. answers from Tampa on January 18, 2008
Well, I had the same feelings after the birth of each of
my babie's, but after awhile, it passed..I think what it
is,is this: you get all sorts of attention before baby is
born, but after baby arrive, all the attention goes to the baby, and maybe it's a let down....add to that, your body's
going thru some differant change's now, so just try to let
it go, and before long, you'll over come this...and maybe
help if you could find something else to focus on besides
baby for awhile...good luck
D.W. answers from Tampa on January 18, 2008
Oh yes! I think the third and fourth week were especially bad for me. I think it may be a combination of little to no sleep and shear anxiety (and realization) of having a new baby! I worried about everything. Would I leave her somewhere by accident? What if I trip while I was holding her and she fell on the floor? What if she is not breathing when I go to check on her in her crib? What if, what if, what if! I cried everyday and a few times a day--then it just went away! I think I started feeling a bit more like myself around 7 weeks--which is when she started sleeping through the night. I am not sure, but I really think the lack of sleep had a lot to do with my depression and anxiety.
Do you have a doctor you can speak with? Or any chance you can get someone to watch your baby while you sleep?
Know you are not alone and this will really pass.
A.G. answers from Sarasota on July 14, 2008
yes what you are feeling i felt with my first child(my little princess when she wants to be). they say that it can take up to nine months for you to start to feel better but it took me a little over a yr. to final get back to my old self( just to find out that i'm pregnant again). the only thing that helped me get though was taking a little time for me even if it was five minutes of watching my fav show, taking a long bath, giving my daughter to family to watch while i went to the store things like that. it is very hard to let other people watch my child even though they had more expierenc than me but if you do a least something you like once a week than hopefully you'll start to feel a little bit better. i hope this works for you and best of luck :-)
A.F. answers from Tampa on January 18, 2008
i went through this with my daughter. it does pass. it took me about 2 months to get over it.
don't worry. relax - baby sleeps alot - so you sleep too. it helps....if you have someone to help you with the baby - take advantage of it. but know that it will pass.