Molar Pregnancy (Any Good News Will Help)

I am so sorry to hear about what you are going through. I haven't had any experience with a Molar Pregnancy, but here's my opinion...
Gather as much information on this as you can, seek a second opinion... then, if you don't feel like terminating the pregnancy is the right thing to do, DON'T! Your Doctor should respect your decision, and if he/she doesn't--get another Doctor.
Best of wishes, please let me know what happens. I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

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OK so my friend had a molar pregnancy. it was a full molar but there was another twin. So she had a normal healthy boy seperate from the molar pregnancy. There are rare instances of there being both and there being no complications to the living child.

I must say that molar pregnancies can also become cancerous and often cause preeclampsia so if you follow through be sure and keep up with all of your prenatal appointments and report any symptoms.

If your doctor pressures you and you feel the child is viable get a second or even third opinion. when your baby is a bit bigger you can get a clear ultrasound to really know the extent of any problems so maybe you can just hold off a few more weeks for that.

Good luck and I will pray for you.

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Hello-
I am so sorry to hear about everything you are going through. Even though I don't have any adivce for you I just wanted to let you know that you are in my prayers. I think when it comes down to it you are the only one who can make this decision. If you make it through the pregancy ok do you do you know what problems the baby could have? If those problems are something you are willing to handle then by all means have this baby. No one can be 100% sure on how this wil turn out and it sounds like you are already beating the odds. I wish I could tell you everything will be ok. Please let us know what the doctor says today. good luck with everything.

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Well I don't know anything about molar pregnancies either but I'm in agreement with the people that say don't let the doctors decide for you. I work with mom's fairly often who have been given bad diagnosis' of their babies and several have been urged by the doctors to terminate, as the babies wouldn't live past birth more than a few hours or days. The mom's I work with chose to give their baby as much of a chance as God felt they deserved- and that they would know nothing but love in their short lives. Never met one who wished they'd terminated and not had that few minutes with their baby. My own daughter died from a birth defect at 5 months old and her last two months were full of painful surgeries and procedures. Never once did I wish I chose not to have her. I thanked God every day for giving ME- an immature, undeserving mother- such a wonderful, beautiful, sweet baby girl. It's been 8 years and I still miss her and my heart is tortured sometimes with memories of her pain- but still not once have I wished I'd "terminated" her. Yes she experienced pain but she fought like mad and she knew how much she was loved.

Trust your heart and your gut. NEVER put 100% of your trust in any doctor. They're only humans who DON'T know everything, and sometimes mistakenly think they are God.

That's just my thoughts.

Wanted to add- one of my current clients who has a terminal diagnosis for her baby- was told with her older daughter that she would never eat and never grow and all these "nevers" and she should terminate- and her daughter is perfectly healthy.

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that really stinks. i hope everything went ok. i think if it comes down to you or the unborn child, you have to chose you hard as it is.

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I need to agree with what heather R said.
Get a second opinion. DO your research!!! As I see you already are.
God can decide the fate of this baby on his own. He doesnt need the intervention of Doctors.
If the baby is not going to live, you will miscarry. You then know there was nothing you could do.

If you are willing to let nature take its course and face what may come your way with a term pregnacy, then get yourself a different dr that is supportive of you.
Consider talkingn with a midwife if you are getting trouble from the Doctors.
I am sorry you have to go through this. I hope all works out for the best, and pleas keep us updated!

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I am so sorry to hear about your pregnancy. A molar pregnancy is really something that you don't want to mess with, It could invade your uterine tissue. I know that it's hard, but if I were you, I would terminate. Best wishes. S.

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Personally, I would go through with it as long as I was comfortable with it, and there is a chance that I would have a child that is alive. I would research it, get a second opinion and do whatever YOU decide and not the MD. It's your child. Good luck to you.

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well, i was going to write terminate but when i read Beth's respond i said well she said everything i was going to said so.
i am too a Licence Practical Nurse.
you said if you do have an abortion you couldnt leave with that so my question to you is: Are you willing to leave with a sick child for the rest of your life and see him/her being miserable all his/her life?????

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Ok, I don't know much about molar pregnancies, but I say follow your gut and if it says stay with it, do it! I have a friend who was pregnant with twins and the doctors told her one of the eggs didn't have a yolk (what ever that means) and that the other was a sist, not a baby. The pushed her for weeks to terminate...she is now the mother of perfectly healthy 5yr old twins because she, like you couldn't live with the 'what if'.
I wish you the best with whatever happens!
E.

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I have never experienced this, but WOW! Stick with what you believe...if you don't want to terminate, don't let anyone talk you into it. Doctors seem to jump to that option too quickly now-a-days.

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I had a molar pregnancy about 2 years ago..Unfortunately it did not make it. There was no heartbeat. I had no choice but to do a d&c. I think if I were in your position and there would of been a heartbeat, I would of proceeded with the pregnancy. I don't think I could of terminated it. Good luck with what you do. And I hope everything turns out for the good. Oh by the way I also had a ectopic pregnancy before that in the same year..actually just about 5 months apart. But now have a healthy 6 month old and am pregnant with #2..It will all work out..Take care!

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Oh My Gosh, I am so sorry to hear this. I had never heard of this before. So I only have support to offer. I really hope that all goes well with the baby. Maybe do as your Mom suggests and get another opinon. My thoughts and prayers are with all of you. I really do hope evrything goes well and you have a beautiful baby.
~K.

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Hello there,
Im sorry to say that I to dont really know much about the Molar Pregnancy, so I dont really have any advice. But I did just want to say like so many other moms said that you have to do whats in your heart! And whatever is meant to be will be! And trust in God that he is going to do what is best for you and your baby! I wish you all the best of luck. And know that my thoughts and prayers are with you! Please keep us posted with your progress! Take Care and Good Luck
M.

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My thoughts and prayers are there for you. It's such a scary feeling when something like that happens. I almost thought about terminating my pregnancy when I found out that the baby is missing part of his brain, but now chances are he could be more normal. phew! Molar pregnancies are iffy, I knew someone with one once, aand she ended up miscarrying. My advice is to do what's in your heart, and always remember that you can always start over with a clean slate and try again. :)

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Oh Linda I don't envy you. I have an 8 yr old and have suffered through a tubal pregnancy that ruptured and a miscarriage at 9 1/2 weeks. I support your decision to at least give this baby a chance. miracles happen and if this soul is meant to be with you at this time then I say let it happen but if it doesn't make it, at least you know in your heart you didn't give up hope. I hope for the best for you and your baby. Have faith!
C.

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