S.K. asks from Cleveland, OH on July 31, 2008
i was 14 wks preg and i just found out that i have a missed miscarriage. my dr wants me to wait through the weekend to see if my body will expell everything on it's own, otherwise i have to take the pills, or have a d&c. i'm so nervous and scared. can anyone share how you felt as you went through this?
D.K. answers from Indianapolis on August 02, 2008
My sister went through this several years ago. She did end up having to have the D & C. Everything went FINE!! She now has another son & no problems w/ pregnancy or delivery.
P.R. answers from Indianapolis on August 01, 2008
I have had 3 miscarriages. The first one they did nothing about because it was at about 8 weeks. The second one the doctor did a D&C in his office. An experience I would not recommend to anyone, I assure you. This one was at about 12 weeks. The third time I had spent 3 weeks on bedrest before I lost the baby. The last one was at 17 weeks. I went to the hospital and had the procedure done while I was there.
Maybe there were no pills to assist in the cleaning out of the tissue at that time. If there were none of my doctors recommended them.
I think, emotionally, it is hard enough to lose a baby without the doctor adding to the length of time we walk around scared and worried about the effects the loss is having on our bodies as well.
You don't need to be frightened. I know you are. I will pray for you S. and if I was close enough to hug you, shed a few tears with you, and let you talk through part of your fear I would do all of the above.
On the brighter side I had two healthy babies after wards with easy pregnancies.
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M.A. answers from Columbus on August 01, 2008
I know it is so hard. I had a missed miscarriage also. I found out I was pregnant at about 4 weeks after my honeymoon. Then at about 13 wks I started spotting just a little bit. I went to the doctor and they sent me for an ultrasound. The technician told me the baby was only the size of a 1o wk. I was devastated. Then I had to go back to the doctors right after. they asked if I wanted to wait it out for a few days or go ahead and schedule the D&C. I opted to get it done with. What was the need to wait for my body to expell it? Go through all that pain and for what?? I just wanted to get it over!! So I came back in the next day and got the d&c done. I was so very scared and sad. I was acctually depressed for a couple weeks. And then when it came time to try again I was so scared! I thought maybe I should just give up because I don't think I could go through this again. But fortunatley I did try again. Because now I have 3 beautiful girls. Ages 6, 4 and 2. So yes it is very hard to make it through. I am very sorry for your loss. But don't give up. Goodluck! But the healing took quite a while. Even once in a while I get sad and think I should have a 7 yr old.
A.W. answers from Columbus on August 01, 2008
It has been 4 years since my miscarriage, but I still remember it well. My body expelled everything on it's own. I hope you have the same result, because it is the least invasive option. Be prepared to stay near the bathroom when you start to expell, and have a supply of overnight strength maxis. You will most likely have cramps that may or may not be more intense than normal. Take pain relievers as necessary, but no more than the bottle states for the daily maximum.
I think that knowing it was coming made me less scared than if it would have happened without my expecting it. I was sad, and felt the loss very much. But I'm sure it would have been much worse, had I not known it was coming.
My thoughts and prayers are with you.
S.C. answers from Toledo on August 17, 2008
Hi S.. I had a miscarriage 4 years ago. I thought everything was ok until I went to the Dr. I chose to do a D&C. That was the hardest thing I ever had to do. But 10 months later I had a beautiful little baby boy. I believe that God has a plan for our lives. Remember, He won't give you more than you can handle. Good Luck
S.F. answers from Mansfield on August 04, 2008
I experienced a missed miscarriage last May when I went in for my 18 week appt. and there was no heartbeat. I was devastated and had the D&C the next day. The baby actually measured at 14 weeks, so I walked around with it dead inside me for a month. That was really traumatic for me to find out! Anyhow, now a little over a year later, I gave birth to healthy twin girls...and I have ALWAYS wanted twins!! So, God has a plan, it is just hard to see it at the time! (I wouldn't have picked this birth order though...the twins make #4 for me! My older kids are 2, 4, & 6!! =)) I hope things work out for you and you are so blessed...hang in there, I know it is so scary at the time. Good luck!
A.H. answers from Indianapolis on August 01, 2008
I'm am so sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage in January at 11 weeks. I opted for a d&c and the procedure went well. I did have some bleeding after the surgery for about 2 weeks and passed blood clots, which is very rare. I found out these complications only occur in less than 1% of people. I was out of work for about a month. The good that came from having the D&C was that the hospital put me in touch with a support group and also had a mass ceremony, which gave my husband and I some closure. If you have any question feel free to ask.
M.P. answers from Indianapolis on August 04, 2008
I have not gone through this personally but my girlfriend did. She said it was not at all painful physically, the only pain is emotionally since you have already form a bond & attachment to the little one. I am so sorry to hear that. I will definitely keep you in prayers.
G.H. answers from Cincinnati on August 01, 2008
I think misscarrying was probably one of the worst things I have ever gone through emotionally. I had the D&C . It was a simple out patient procedure and I advise doing it so you don't have to wait for it to "pass," which I hear is very painful.
Let me also suggest that you get counseling immediately. I did not do this and ended up having some serious issues for at least a year after. It's painful to lose a child, even at 14 weeks. Good luck to you.