Miscarriage and D&C, Scared and Nervous

I would continue to wait and get the blood work done for a few more weeks. If in a few weeks she still said that it wasn't a viable pregnancy... Then maybe go for the D&C. I'd be so scared about jumping the gun and possibly losing a baby that I wouldn't have otherwise lost.

personally id wait to see if my HCG levels went down or they stayed the same or went up. I would also see another dr and get a second opionion

I had a miscarriage earlier this year at 13weeks. My doctor said that when possible (as in no risk to your health) he encourages women to either go through a miscarriage naturally or hold off on a D&C. He said that each person needs to be sure of the decision they make or they will question themselves constantly. I had mine naturally. If I am being completely honest, I wish I had the D&C done. At 13 weeks, we were unprepared for what happened to me physically. That being said. I would hold off on the procedure until you are completely certain and comfortable with your choice. It's agonizing to think about, I know. I am sorry you are having to deal with this and I wish the best for you and your family.

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I had a D&C just over 2 months ago, when my baby was 12 weeks. We heard the heartbeat at 7 weeks, and my husband and I were so excited (this was our first) that everything looked great. I went to my OB for an ultrasound to kick off the second trimester, and they couldn't find a heartbeat. My OB said it had just happened within the past couple of days, because my baby was measuring 12 weeks. They looked at the ultrasound good and hard, but there was still no heartbeat. My OB gave me a choice to wait it out at home or to schedule a D&C. I chose to have the D&C because 1) I couldn't have handled waiting until my body miscarried, since I had a missed miscarriage and saw no symptoms at all, it could have been weeks before it happened 2) my OB told me that because the baby was measuring 12 weeks, it would be very hard for my body to naturally pass it, which possibly could result in a D&C anyway. I had the procedure the next day, and it wasn't bad. I don't remember anything, but it only took about 15 minutes. I was in the recovery room for a few hours before I could go home, and I bled for a day, then spotted for a week. But, after it was all over, I was happy with my choice. Even though this was our first baby and first miscarriage, our doctor had the tissue tested..it came back as a partial molar pregnancy and triploidy, so there was no way it was a viable pregnancy. BUT, I had to have my hcg levels checked every week for 6 weeks, and now once a month. It took a while to go back to normal, but we've also been told we can't try to conceive for at least 6-12 months to make sure there are no risks to me or our future baby. We are eagerly waiting to try again, and sometimes the days can't go quickly enough.

The last couple of months have been hard for me, but I'm glad we chose the route we did. Grieving is a long process, but you will be ok. I'm so sorry that you are going through this. I probably didn't help you make your decision, but I want you to know that it'll get better, you're not alone, and even though you've been trying for so long, it WILL HAPPEN, and we will be happy and healthy. I have that faith for you and me.

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I was 6 wks preggo at my doc appt. Other than my breasts being sore and a throbbing headache I felt fine. One morning about 3 wks later I went to the restroom and wiped and it was pink. I went to the doc immediately and she did a ultrasound and the baby measured 7 wks and should of been almost 11 wks and no heartbeat. I had no cramping, no serious bloodloss, nothing. I couldn't believe I was miscarrying. They gave me the options to let it happen naturally but it could take wks and it would painful and I would see the tissues. No thank u! I went in to the hospital, got hooked up to a iv, had a wonderful nap and I was ok. I really didn't cramp or nothing. The silver lining, 9 months afyer my surgery I gave birth to a fat little healthy girl! If it needs to be done, save yourself the pain love. Your in my prayers.

I've had 3 miscarriages...O. very early on & it was kind of like a period that was a little late....the other two, no heartbeat and It wasn't "happening" on it's own. I had D&Cs with both of them. I understand you wanting to "make sure" and you have every right to do so....
Just to let you know the D&C isn't a horrible thing...it won't be bad. You'll likely be under in a "twilight" state. Recovery (physically) is relatively quick and painless.
Hugs. I know this is REALLY hard. :( I'm sorry.

I had two miscarriages and never had a D&C. Both happened naturally at 12 weeks and at 6 weeks. I don't know why they recommend those unless there are complications. I'd wait it out. I'm so sorry for your loss. I wish you the best and will pray for you and your baby!!

So sorry you are going thru this. I have had 2 miscarriages, as well as 2 healthy pregnancies. My miscarriages happened so early, and I never had to do a d&c. I wanted my babies so bad, I would have hard time doing it if levels were going up. I would wait and see and maybe get 2nd opinion. If you are not 100% sure I would wait. I hope for the best for you.

I think you would regret the D&C at this point even if you're sure it's a miscarriage. If it happens naturally, you'll know for sure, but if you have the procedure you're leaving yourself open to questioning your decision.

I am so sorry. I have never had a miscarriage, but it took us ten years to conceive our first child. I never thought it would happen and had given up hope but she just turned one last month. There are not many things more painful than infertility. I pray that God would bless you with a family. Try not to lose heart.

I am so sorry. It's a tough decision. I think if it were me, I would probably lay in bed for a few weeks and just wait it out until you are absolutely certain. Maybe that's denial, maybe it's hopeful thinking, but at least you won't have regrets of not knowing. But, I really just don't know.

I would have a hard time having a D&C without a definitive answer from my doctor saying that it is absolutely NOT a viable pregnancy. My inclination would be to let nature take it's course. That, or perhaps get another opinion about the viability of the pregnancy.

Best wishes to you.

Hello,
I'm very sorry for your loss and can empathize. I miscarried at 11 weeks and my doctor gave me the option of having a D&C, taking medication that would make the fetal tissue come out or have it come out on its own naturally. The latter didn't sound like a great option because I was working and didn't want to anything to happen there -- and frankly, I didn't want to draw out the utter despair that I was feeling. My doctor said that taking the medication could be very painful, so I chose the D&C and went in that night. I had to wear a pad afterward for a few days, but that was ok. Dealing with the "mommy hormones" was really the hardest part. On a sidenote, my SIL chose the medication to prompt the tissue to come out and she went through hell and wouldn't wish it on anyone. Very, very painful cramping and laid on the bathroom floor all night long. Just want to pass that info on to you in helping you make your decision. Peace and hugs to you.

Another vote for 'wait and see'.

I'm sorry you're going through this.

Sending you strength and fertile thoughts!

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oh sweetie, I feel for you. I had a miscarriage and D&C at 10 weeks.Medically it was no big thing. Hang in there and God bless.

I am not clear on what week you would be. I have heard of women not seeing the hear beat until after week 8 or 9, so that by itself wouldn't make me think it is a miscarriage. However, I would proabably trust her additional observations about the quality of things.

However, you should never feel bad for wanting a second opionon about the status of the pregnancy or about what course of action to take. Maybe see another OB? Don't feel bad about asking for what you need to feel at peace with your decision. Don't let yourself be rushed.

So sorry you are going through this.

Could you have your doctor do another ultrasound Friday prior to the D&C just to triple check? It sounds like a miscarriage, but with your numbers so high and not knowing for sure how many weeks you are, I think I would want another peek. So sorry you're going through this. No matter if you miscarry naturally or through D&C, it is never easy. I've done it both ways and it stinks. Your doctor may want you to wait 2-3 months before trying again, so don't think the D&C puts you in the clear right away to start trying. It's frustrating, but they usually want you to have 2-3 normal menstrual cycles before becoming pregnant again. Thinking of you!

If you are asking between a D&C or a natural miscarriage, I recommend a D&C. I've done both and I had to wait a lot longer after the natural miscarriage to start trying again. I had to do the blood tests to make sure HCG levels were all the way down and for some reason it took a while. As for whether this is a good pregnancy or not, only your doctor can tell you that. If you are not sure, maybe try another doctor. The sore back and lack of energy is probably a sign though. I am sorry it has been so hard and know some of your frustration. I hope it all works out. I find it so frustrating when people WANT to be parents but have trouble conceiving and there are people out there who shouldn't have kids but seem to have them so easily.

Oh, sweetie. I'm so sorry. When I miscarried, I waited a week to see if everything would pass naturally. When it didn't, I had a D&C.

My thought is that you should wait a week or so. If that's not too hard for you. If you are hopeful that you are still pregnant, and then you find that you have, indeed, miscarried, it may make it even worse for you, emotionally.

I'm just so sorry. I will say prayers for you.

If I were in your shoes with your numbers rising I think I would wait a little longer. I miscarried two years ago and ended up waiting over two weeks to convince a doctor to allow me to do a d&c since my body wasn't naturally taking care of it. My numbers did go down though. It was a relief to have the d&c done and not continue waiting. It was easier for me to get through the grieving process after the d&c. My heart breaks for you but I will also add that one month after my d&c we were pregnant again and ended up giving birth to a perfect healthy little girl. I wish you luck in your families journey!

I vote to wait and see. Although I don't know anyone personally that this happened to, I have read on other boards of women that were told they were miscarrying and to have a d&c to refuse it and then went on to have a perfectly healthy child. I don't this waiting a little longer to make sure that your dates aren't off will cause a problem. Maybe you can have some more blood tests or ultrasounds to double check.

I am so sorry that you have to go through this. I have had two and they are terrible. I haven't had a d&c but after my last one, I decided that if I had another miscarriage I most likely would (as long as we were absolutely sure that's what it was) because the waiting for it to start and trying to figure out if it was done was really hard.

If you are, you won't necessarily have to wait to try again. Recent research is indicating that there is no medical reason for waiting and that you are actually more likely to get pregnant again very soon afterwards. I was told by the nurse that I should wait 3 months. I told her that I wasn't waiting - I was 38 and worried that I was running out of time. She said to at least wait one cycle so I did and got pregnant immediately with my daughter.

I had a lot of lower back pain when I miscarried. No matter what I tried I could not get confortable. When I miscarried it took me over a month to do it naturally. I chose to do it that way so I could try again right away. If you have a d&C you have to wait for your body to heal from the surgery to try again. It's usually about 3 months. I was pregnant again within a few months. Good luck and I am truly sorry for your loss.