Miscarriage Advice - Greeley,CO

I'm sorry you went through this but am happy you sound like you are doing relatively well.

I don't remember how long I bled after my miscarriage. We waited 4 months before trying again. Partially because I wasn't ready yet & partially planning the due date b/c I was going back to work. We didn't have kids yet & were wanting to get started so that was the main reason for not waiting longer. We were successful. We got pregnant every time we tried.

I suffered a few miscarriages myself. The 1st one happened at around 6 weeks so it was very early on. I bled for about 2 weeks after it happened. I got pregnant with my daughter in February after suffering the loss in January so no I didn't wait the recommended amount of time. The 2nd one was a later loss, at about 16 weeks and I did bleed off and on for close to a month that time but I do believe that was from how late in the pregnancy the loss occurred. It was over a year before I tried to get pregnant this time around but that was due to a myriad of personal factors and not medical ones.

I'm so sorry you have to go through this but know that whenever you're ready, both physically and emotionally, you can begin trying. Wish you the best.

I'm sorry you have to go through this.

The bleeding was around a week. Should be typical with a regular delivery. As for waiting to try again, physically I would wait until after your follow up dr. appt. and/or your next cycle. So 4 - 6 weeks.

As for being emotionally ready, that is a different story. For me it took a few months, and then I just felt like being held. Each person is different. Even your hubby will be different. That was hard for me to understand that hubby was ready to move on before I was.

In the end, I ended up pregnant about 4m after the miscarriage. I was completely stressed through the whole pregnancy, but was able to carry to term.

If people are offended that you hadn't told them about the pregnancy, just play it off. My hubby had gone and told the world when we found out, but then told no one when we lost it. It was very odd for me when friends would come up congratulating me. By that time I was pregnant again, so I played it off. For the after pregnancy, we didn't tell anyone except for the grandparents, and swore them to secrecy, until after the 1st trimester. We had a big family birthday party coming up then, and timed the announcement with that.

Hugs.
M.

I miscarried years ago, then went on to have two healthy boys. I'd already had two healthy girls. After I miscarried, didn't need a D&C, I was advised to wait until after a normal period only because it made dating easier. And that's what happened, I had a normal period, then was pregnant the next month. I told everyone when I got pregnant after the miscarriage, because I realized how sad I was, and how much support I got when I miscarried. That was only because my co-workers had known I was pregnant. Also, it isn't until you miscarry that you find out how many people around you have miscarried. I remember how I felt after miscarrying and appreciated the support. If after I got pregnant, I then miscarried again, how could I keep my feelings a secret? People want to know why you are so sad, grumpy, etc. I didn't want to go through saying I was pregnant, and then that I had miscarried all in the same breath.
Best of luck to you in the future!

I just bled a lot for about two days --I was 8 weeks. My OB told me to wait three months before trying again.

Keep in mind that something like 1 in 4 pregnancies results in a miscarriage. They are very, very common, we just don't talk about them much.

I am sorry for your loss.

I've had two miscarriages. I bled for 2 weeks with one miscarriage and a week with the other. The one where I bled alot I was almsot 9 weeks pregnant. The other I was only about 5 weeks pg (so more a chemical pregnancy).

I had one period after the 9 week miscarriage and then ovulated and conceived my son who is now 4 yrs old. I did ovulate 5 days later than I usually do.

It all works out in the end. Hang in there!

First let me say I am so sorry for your loss. It's a very hard thing to go through. I had my miscarriage at 13 weeks. I had to have a D&C. I had really bad blood clots after and actually had to have another D&C a week later to get all of the blood clots out. After my section D&C I think I bled about 2 weeks. My Dr said to wait to try again until I had at least two cycles. I really wasn't really to try again until a year later. I had two kids at the time and now have a beautiful baby boy who is 7 months. Time does heal your pain.
I wouldn't worry about others being hurt they didn't know you were pregnant. I think they will understand.
A friend of mine recently told me about a site her friend started after she lost her baby. Maybe reading other stories may help you in this hard time, or you can even share you story. http://facesofloss.blogspot.com/
Angel Mommy hugs to you :)

I just went through 2 miscarriages back to back. I had one on May 31st, bled for 7 days, went a week without bleeding, had some spotting, and got pregnant again at the 2 week mark on June 13th. I lost that one at 6 weeks too and bled for 6 days, and now I'm spotting again 17 days later. We WERE told to wait through one cycle, but got a surprise. He found that I have a virus that I was going through that caused it and were told now to wait 6 months.
I'm so sorry that you lost your baby. I pray that God gives you a new blessing soon. :)

I am sorry for your loss.
After my miscarriage I bled for about 3 weeks, and then had some spotting until my hormones worked themselves out. I took the herb vitex, also known as chaste tree berry, to assist in balancing my hormones and it worked great. It took me about 3 months to totally get my body and hormones back in balance. We didn't start trying to get pregnant right away afterwards because I just wasn't ready, and because I wanted to make sure I didn't miscarry again because of low progesterone or any other type of hormone imbalance. I miscarried in the middle of January, and I got pregnant at the end of May on our very first try. I now have a beautiful 2 1/2 year old in addition to his older brother, who is 6. My oldest also helped me get through the loss involved with the miscarriage.

Looking back I am grateful that my two boys are as far apart in age as they are. If we hadn't lost the baby I think my oldest would have adjusted to the new baby far less easily. He was more ready to be the big brother when his baby brother was born then he would've been. I also got to enjoy my oldest longer and allow him to be the baby until he had naturally outgrown it, rather than forcing him to grow up before he was totally ready. And of course, if we hadn't miscarried I wouldn't have my youngest.

So, bottom line, while an awful experience, I believe that my miscarriage was for the best as well, and I had no trouble at all getting pregnant again when we felt the time was right.

Sending you good healing thoughts. Good luck with your future family!
J.

I don't remember some of the technicalities, like how long I bled (I had to have a D&C) or how long until I tried again. What did help us was that we planted a tree in honor of our little one (I was 10 weeks). Best of luck to you and I am sorry for your loss.

I had a natural miscarriage in March 2009. I think I bled for about 1.5 months (but it was more like spotting for half a month). My doctor said that there was no medical reason to wait to TTC but that dating a pregnancy would be easier if I waited until I had at least one period. I conceived in July (I do not have 28 day cycles) and now have a sweet almost 4 month old baby girl. Good luck!

Hello everybody, I am new here my best friend recommended your site and it is fantastic! I also had a miscarriage two weeks ago, I was 9 weeks along and it came as a shock. I bled/spotted for 12 days and had these bad cramps for a total of 5 days.

I was in the same dilemma as you, we did'nt tell many that we were pregnant and everybody has been great and understanding. This has been my second MC in 3 months and I have not had a baby yet. I am very worried I have to admit!

I was in the same situation as you a few years ago. Had one daughter who was almost 2 yrs old, and miscarried in an attempt for a second child when I was roughly 8 weeks along. Other than my husband, no one knew I was pregnant. For me, telling people I was pregnant was difficult no matter the circumstance....especially work people. In fact, I didn't tell anyone at work about my daughter until I was already 5 mos along and couldn't hide it any longer. I don't think you should feel bad about the fact that you did not tell people you were pregnant... it seems standard practice nowadays not to share until you've at least passed the 3-4 mos mark. In terms of bleeding, I don't recall how long it lasted, but I don't think it was more than a day or so. I noticed spotting on the last day of our vacation and went in to the dr the next day when I got home and within 2 hrs of leaving the office miscarried completely. I don't recall bleeding much more after that. We were told by the dr that there was nothing to prevent us from trying again immediately, so we did. And, literally, the next month I got pregnant again. We now have a healthy and very rambunctious 3 year old boy!

I don't remeber how long i bled seems like a month or so. we didn't start trying again it just happened and yes I was sucsessful I now have a happy healthy 2 year old boy. tell family and friends you didn't want to tell you were pregnant until you were 3 months along in case you miscarried you wouldn't have to explain why you aren't pregnant anymore. I heard alot I thought you were pregnant? I also waited till the miscarriage phase had passed before I told I was pregnant again.

most people won't be offended you didn't tell and will feel worse you miscarried than you didn't tell. they will understand. especially if you didn't know. make sure you are clear of any and all infections before you try again. I lost mine due to a uti and bladder infection. if you start hating pregnant girls that is normal for a while it will pass. dont feel bad about it. its part of the healing cycle. the wondering what ifs are normal to what would the baby have looked like? was it a boy or girl? these will go through your head. if you just need to talk mail me in private. sorry for your loss it will get easier.

I experienced a miscarriage when I was about 4 1/2 months along and it is indeed a very painful experience. You have the right attitude to remember that something was wrong with the baby.

As far as bleeding for me, I actually went through labor and delivered the baby so I bled for about 2 weeks (only heavily for 2 or 3 days). I was pregnant again 2 months later. I really didn't intend to be pregnant again that soon, it just happened. I have heard that your body is all prepared and ready for pregnancy after a miscarriage so sometimes you become pregnant pretty quick right after. You may want to check with your doc.

As far as your family not knowing you were pregnant, I am pretty sure they will all understand. It is not unusual for couples to wait to tell others for this very reason. I say if you need to talk to people about it to help you through it, then so be it.

Good luck, it will get better as time passes.