C.G. asks from Edmond, OK on September 29, 2008
Miscarriage - Edmond,OK
I am currently going through a miscarriage. The process started over a week ago and I am still experiencing it. On top of being very physically ill, I am very sad. Even though I was only 9 1/2 weeks pregnant, my family had already made the baby part of the family. We prayed for the new baby every night and my oldest daughter was always asking me when we would know if the baby was a boy or a girl. I have two other children and had no problems or complications with the other pregancies. I miss my baby and even though I know they are "very common" and are "not my fault", it was still my baby and in my womb was supposed to be the safest place for a baby to be. Instead, in my womb my baby died. I know my baby is in the arms of the LORD and with that I have peace, but my heart still mourns my babe that I will not birth and hold.
J.H. answers from Oklahoma City on September 30, 2008
I am sorry to hear that. Dont give up, there are several reasons that miscarriages happen. The best thing you can do is prepare your body to accept another - like taking prenatal vitamins, eating only healthy whole foods (cutting out everything processed and containing additives), healthy exercise, plenty of vitamin D and a low-stress environment. You are the one in charge of your baby's health and the better start he/she has will last for a lifetime. Because you were already pregnant, your body is in that mode, and should soon be ready for another. Talk to your doc to make sure everything's okay medically first. You'll get your baby back, good luck to you :}
D.B. answers from Oklahoma City on September 30, 2008
What you are feeling is normal. You will always miss this baby. This baby was a part of you. Don't let anyone tell you differently. You will go through the steps of mourning just as though the baby was full term and had lived outside the womb. I understand how you feel. I too lost a baby early in the pregnancy. Just know that you are not alone. There are a lot of people that share your experience and feelings. It is very helpful to talk about your experience and feelings with others that have been through a miscarriage. I feel and understand your grief over the loss of your dear baby.
S.T. answers from Oklahoma City on September 30, 2008
I totally understand what you are going through. I had a daughter when I also lost a baby to miscarriage at 9.5 weeks. I was mourning the idea that this baby was real to me; this baby who was due on Christmas Day, was going to be a wonderful addition to our family. I was expecting a perfectly healthy baby. Some people were so insensitive about our loss. We wanted more children and I had fears that I would never have any more children. (I did have two wonderful sons after this experience so these fears were ultimately unfounded.) Allow yourself to mourn and lean on God. That is what got me through. Don't let anyone tell you it isn't a big deal. It is and know that time and the love of God and your family will get you through. God bless,
A.C. answers from Oklahoma City on September 30, 2008
i am so sorry. my heart goes out to you, and so will my prayers. you are not alone.