A.B. asks from Hutto, TX on May 05, 2008
Meet and Greet Shower After Baby Is Here
Everyone was so helpful with my last question I thought I would ask another. My sisters and 2 close friends really wanted to have a shower for our family now that we are expecting a baby boy (our first was a girl). Due to Mother's Day, family birthdays and a c-section date of the 20th it is not going to happen before hand so they have decide to have a ‘meet and greet’ (everyone can just come and go during the time frame set and finger foods will be served) shower after the baby is a couple weeks old. They have asked me if I want to have it at my house or at my in-laws. I can see the advantage to my in-laws house because I would not have to get my house cleaned up before or after but if we go over there I would have to transport stuff for a newborn and my daughter. On the other hand if we have it at our house I would have to clean up before and after but everything would be there-no moving stuff! And if it is at our house the baby will have his crib to sleep in, I am sure that is what he would do most of the time anyway, and my daughter would have her own things to play with and keep her busy while we visited. Well, I think I just answered my own question but any other thoughts would be appreciated.
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I talked with my sister who seems to be heading up everything and she did not mind at all. I gave her the reasons and being that she is a RN she agreed and said she did not even look at it that way. My husband is working on getting both the new baby's room done (we are painting it) and getting the pictures hung in both his room and our daughter's room so she can show off too. Thanks for all your thoughts!
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D.L. answers from Austin on May 06, 2008
My son was born on the day we were to have his shower.. a little early so we postponed it and did what you mentioned. Believe me family and friends will volunteer to clean before and after for you. For us it worked wonderful and when everyone left I had a cleand house. Good luck
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C.B. answers from Odessa on May 06, 2008
Hi A.!
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S.T. answers from Houston on May 06, 2008
I have had 4 c-sections and I don't want any visitors for a couple of months after the baby is born. So you might want to do it at your inlaws. Just take a bag of toys for your daughter or ask your mother in law to have some things there for her to play with. You could get things over there in stages, like drop off a diaper bag full of extra clothes, toys, diapers ect that stays at her house for when y'all visit.
Do you have an infant carrier car seat? He'll probably sleep in that the whole time. Babies don't mind sleeping in their carseat at all.
Make sure your trunk is cleaned out (husband's job) and bring home everything you can, but leave larger items you don't need right now with inlaws to pick up next time.
S., mom to four girls ages 13 months to 5 years.
J.M. answers from San Antonio on May 07, 2008
We had a "Big Sister Tea" - we said - a brand new baby for you to see, come to my house, meet my new sister and play with ME! Emily invites you to a Big Sister Tea! That way my older daughter got some attention...We had tea and cookies, we had tea bags that said "Look what we added to our "brewed" or look what we "brewed" with her name and birthdate. It was fun, it was at our house and come and go...
M.H. answers from Houston on May 05, 2008
Maybe its just me but, I would stay put. Let me tell you, people DO NOT CARE what your house looks like. They just want to see you and the baby. I'm sure that if you asked your sisters and close friends, they would be more than willing to help you straighten up before and after the event. If you have the relationship with these gals as I do my own sister and friends, they will be more than willing to do it for you. Just be honest with 'em. (especially your sisters) Simply say, I need help cleaning up before guests arrive. Then stick to the basics. Clean kitchen, bathrooms and general visiting area. The rest of it surely can be thrown behind closed doors! After all, thats why the doors are there!!!
Thats just what I think.
M. :)
P.S. Like I always say...as long as youve got a full roll of TP in the bathroom...ita all good!!!
S.V. answers from Houston on May 05, 2008
I would definitely have it at your house. This way, your baby can sleep where he's comfortable and used to and you can excuse yourself when you need to. If you have it at the in-laws, you're obligated to stick around until everyones gone. And I'm not saying that you'd want to leave and get out of there as fast as you can, there's just something about being comfortable in your own place...it's your turf, it's your comfort zone.
And moving all the stuff from one place to another with two children will be hard work.
As far as cleaning, don't worry about enlisting some help to clean up before and after the party. You've got a newborn, I'd bet your family would be eager to help and your friends too!
COngratulations on your newest addition to your family!
J.J. answers from Corpus Christi on May 06, 2008
Why not tell them you'd love to have it at your place (and give them all the reasons you gave us), BUT with a newborn and recovering from a c-section, you just wouldn't be able to do all the cleaning before and after. Chances are, they'll volunteer to do the cleaning for you, and then you'll even get a clean house out of it! They've been thoughtful enough to offer to do this and to give you the choice of location, so I'm sure they'd love to help you out as well.
J.D. answers from Austin on May 06, 2008
I agree that you should have the shower at your house so you don't have to pack everything up to take to your in-laws.
Tell your sisters and friends that you need their help to get your house cleaned up before and after the party though. Not only will you have your hands full with your two little ones, but you will also be recovering from a c-section. I had a c-section with my son and I know it's really had to get around for awhile, much less clean your house for a baby shower.
Good luck and congratulations!!
J.S. answers from San Antonio on May 06, 2008
I would actually do it at the in-laws house. You shouldn't have to stress about how your house looks when your baby is new. Let the baby sleep in his car seat and you can just enjoy yourself with your friends and family.
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