C.W. asks from Newport Beach, CA on December 16, 2010
Maternity Leave - Newport Beach,CA
I work for a small company that does not have a formal maternity leave policy. My employers are really great and want to work with me to fashion a custom leave plan that works for me. Their main concern, they say, is that they don't want to lose me, so they are willing to do what it takes.
This is my first baby, so I don't really know how long I will need to take off from work. It's likely that I will need a C-section due to an inconveniently placed fibroid. My employers are willing to let me work from home full time or part time if I would like whenever I am ready to get back to work.
So my question is, how much time should I plan to take off from work completely?
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M.S. answers from San Francisco on December 16, 2010
I didn't read the other responses, but here in my opinion...
With my first, I went back at 6 weeks and it was MISERABLE! It was not enough time, in my opinion.
With my second, I stayed home for 8 weeks but I was working from home part-time from about 2 weeks. I thought working at home with a newborn was super EASY! (It was the toddler at home that made it more difficult).
I'd ask for 12 weeks before going back to work - if they say no then at least you tried. Show them you are willing to try to find a solution that works for everyone...
CONGRATULATIONS!
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M.M. answers from Dallas on December 16, 2010
You are so lucky to have such a great employer! 8-12 weeks is ideal although many only get 6 weeks. The question is, at what point do you plan to put the baby in daycare? Or do you plan to work from home permanently w/ the baby at home? I can tell you from experience, it is not easy to work from home with a baby in the house.
If you really get to pick w/ no ramifications, I would go with 12 weeks.
Congratulations!
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M.W. answers from Los Angeles on December 20, 2010
Plan for at least 12. You may be ready for work at home around 8/10 but don't rush it! That time is precious and will over before you know it. I know too many moms that were rushed back before they were ready and then wish they had that time back. Congrats!
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M.M. answers from Dallas on December 16, 2010
You are so lucky to have such a great employer! 8-12 weeks is ideal although many only get 6 weeks. The question is, at what point do you plan to put the baby in daycare? Or do you plan to work from home permanently w/ the baby at home? I can tell you from experience, it is not easy to work from home with a baby in the house.
If you really get to pick w/ no ramifications, I would go with 12 weeks.
Congratulations!
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A.K. answers from Minneapolis on December 16, 2010
Wow good for your company for being so supportive, that is awesome (and rare)!
My advice is to take at least 12 weeks off if possible. This is your time to bond with your child. You will never get that 12 weeks back, enjoy every moment of it.
As for working from home FT or PT, try to keep it as open as possible for yourself until you come back, having your first baby REALLY changes you and it's impossible to say NOW what you will want to do then.
Good luck!
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S.T. answers from New York on December 16, 2010
CA state guidelines relate to disability and provide a realistic idea of how long before you can return to work. For a c-section it's generally 8 weeks. But that doesn't mean you you won't want to work from home a little more often. Dont' be afraid to ask about flexible hours / days for the first few weeks / month / years. If you're a good worker and have a good work ethic they know you'll get your stuff done if you have to do it on Saturday at 6 AM or Monday at noon.
If at all possible, if your family needs your income and you need to work, try to work out flexible hours. Just open a dialoge with your boss. A lot will depend on your baby's personality. Some are good sleepers and really peaceful - others are not. If your baby sleeps well and is an easy going child then you won't NEED as much flesibilty -but you'll want it. On the other hand, if your baby is not a good sleeper you'll NEED the flexibility. Tell your boss you'd like to play it by ear - but that you are committed to your place of work and intend to retire from there in 35 years - whether you really do or not. ;o)
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J.P. answers from Boise on December 16, 2010
I had c-sections, and my disability covered 8 weeks for that. I couldn't afford to work any part time to get me back in the grove, so I went back to full time right away. FMLA would let me take 12 weeks, but the last 4 would have been unpaid. You may need to work with your husband to figure how long you can afford to be off, then you can decide if you want to work part time for a few weeks before going to full time.
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M.S. answers from San Francisco on December 16, 2010
I didn't read the other responses, but here in my opinion...
With my first, I went back at 6 weeks and it was MISERABLE! It was not enough time, in my opinion.
With my second, I stayed home for 8 weeks but I was working from home part-time from about 2 weeks. I thought working at home with a newborn was super EASY! (It was the toddler at home that made it more difficult).
I'd ask for 12 weeks before going back to work - if they say no then at least you tried. Show them you are willing to try to find a solution that works for everyone...
CONGRATULATIONS!
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K.P. answers from New York on December 16, 2010
Realistically, you will have pretty limited mobility (especially if you have stairs) for a solid month after a c-section. I would ask them for a "standard" disability leave... 6 weeks for natural, 8 for c-section during which time you are home healing and bonding.
After that if they are willing to let you work at home for another month... TAKE IT! The little one will be sleeping most of the time during those months and you will not regret the extra time at home.
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L.S. answers from Los Angeles on December 17, 2010
My goodness, how awesome! I had four months off after the birth of our daughter and it was soooooo wonderful. If your employer is willing to let you work from home say beginning 8 weeks after until four months or so, that would be absolutely ideal and allow for some really nice bonding with your new baby. I will tell you that once our daughter arrived on the scene, I completely rethought working full-time, I was just so attached and smitten with our new little creature that I had a very, very hard time going back to work. I think the night before I went back was the worst night of my life, I balled the entire time and almost didn't go back. My husband didn't know what to do with me, but those mommy hormones really got the best of me. I did go back, because I had promised that I would, but I immediately began looking for part-time work -- and found it. I worked 20 hours, four days a week for 5.5 years and have never regretted that decision for one second.
So that's my story ... everyone is different, but if you have such a wonderful work site and you are so inclined and can swing it financially, perhaps an altered work schedule going forward after your maternity leave might work for you :)
Good luck and congratulations!!
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S.T. answers from Washington DC on December 16, 2010
ask for 12, and get help if they can't give you that much but will let you work from home (working from home with a newborn is HARD!)
yay for your employer for being so supportive and flexible!
:) khairete
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