J.B. asks from Randleman, NC on April 16, 2008
Making First Born Child Feel Special.
I am working on a project for a friend's first born child (7 yr old girl). She is feeling a little left out since her new baby sister came into the world. Her mom will say to the new baby "oh you're so cute..." and the 7yr old will ask "Mommy am I still cute?" I am in need of a quote for a shadow box that she can look at & know she is still loved & very special to her mommy & daddy. Any ideas? Thanks so much!
So What Happened?™
Thank you so much for all your great advice. The box turned out sooo cute. My friend cried when she saw it & she said her daughter sleeps with it next to her bed every night. Thanks so much!
V.G. answers from Knoxville on April 17, 2008
She needs to know she is a BIG SISTER now, and it is very important to her little sister, and her mom and dad. Being a big sister is fun because she gets to read and teach her little sister how to play games and many other things she already knows how to do.
B.L. answers from Memphis on April 17, 2008
Well I think you have some good responses here but I just want to say......you are a very special friend and I think it's great you are doing this project for the older daughter. This is something that she will never forget!
A.F. answers from Knoxville on April 17, 2008
i went to quoteland.com and looked up a quote that applies to all children.
"The child must know that he is a miracle, that since the beginning of the world there hasn't been, and until the end of the world there will not be, another child like him." ~Pablo Casals
hope this helps!!
D.W. answers from Fayetteville on April 17, 2008
J., I don't have any advice for you on this topic, but I just wanted to commed you for being such a thoughtful friend. Whatever you do, that little girl will probably remember it for the rest of her life. I was 8 years old when my mom had my brother, her first child with my stepdad. One of the ladies from church brought a coloring book and markers for my sister and me the first time she stopped by to see the new baby. That small present and attention meant the world to me, even though I didn't fully understand it at the time. I still remember it, her name, everything about it to this day, and I have not seen her or spoken to her in probably 20 years. Even now, when I see a new baby, I make it a point to talk to the older child and ask him/her about the new sibling instead of simply ignoring the older child and cooing over the newborn. Your children (including your stepson and future children) are so lucky to have such a thoughful mom!
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T.C. answers from Nashville on April 17, 2008
There is a great book called "the room in my heart" IT is a great story about a Mother and a Father who have seperate rooms in their heart for each child! My children loved the book. For quotes check out
www.bartleby.com or www.quotationspage.com
I use these with my scrapbooking. Other quotes to try:
You have the face of an angel with your beautiful smile. No one can resist those eyes-What undeniable style!-Linda Price
I look into your eyes and see the greatest miracle given to me. You are the joy of everyday-your smile guides my way.-Shelley Howington
All the dreams I prayed you'd be
Are all the things you are
You were once my little girl
And now my shining star.
Precious jewel, you glow, you shine, reflecting all the good things in the world. Maya Angelou
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D.B. answers from Charlotte on April 16, 2008
I don't have any artistic abilities, so I can't help with the shadow box, but I thought I'd tell you what happened with my son which you can pass along to your friend. We hadn't been back from the hospital but about a week, and I had the baby pictures out on the bed to put in an album during his nap. My 27 month old picked up one of the older albums and started looking at the pictures. I looked over and said to him, "See how little you were then, just like your brother!" He thought he was looking at his baby brother's pictures. I said, "No, this is you. See how much we loved and took care of you? See how special you are to us? And you still are, even though you don't need for us to carry you around anymore." He must have studied those pictures for a half hour. I could tell it made a difference, and it also staved off what I could tell was a little jealousy.
Have fun with the project!
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A.B. answers from Asheville on April 17, 2008
I like your friend have just brought home a new born he is 3 weeks old, and he has a sister that is 7 1/2. Luckily I have not had a problem like the one you have described, and I am not artistic either but this is just a thought. You could put something like God loves you just as much as He loves your baby sister. We have tried to let our daughter know everyway possible that we still and will always love her.
She also needs to know that her sister loves her too. For example we let our daughter make her brother a build a bear to give him at the hospital. Like wise I went and made a build a bear for her from him. They got their bears at the same time the day he was born. My daughter sleeps with this bear most evry night. Also I try to let her help me as much as she can with taking care of her brother, I think this helps.
L.C. answers from Raleigh on April 16, 2008
Sorry I do not have a quote to tell you,but was thinking if you can offer to watch the baby so mom can go and have one on one time with 7 years old (doing something the little girl likes) that might be the best gift. Just a thought.
D.M. answers from Johnson City on April 17, 2008
That is a great idea Maybe you could use something like " You'll Alway Be My Baby" or something along those lines.
A.B. answers from Charlotte on April 17, 2008
I'm sure the child and mom will appreciate whatever you come up with. :-)
Is there a story your friend has told you about her 7 yr old? Something short and sweet about having their first child? "You are our first born....."
If nothing else, and if her name is short and fits inside of your shadow box, you could always do the thing where ea letter of her name is the beginning of an adjective describing her.
P.N. answers from Rocky Mount on April 19, 2008
First off, you are an amazing friend.
Secondly, check quoteland.com. I get a lot of good quotes from there.