I am a grandmother who has a 1 week old grandson, my first grandchild. I have caused considerable disention in my son's home because I believe as you do and cannot get my daughter-in-law to listen to me. I have found a wonderful schedule of information and spacing of the vaccines on www.tacanow.com - look under Vaccines then "the new DAN protocol. The DAN website offers a lot of information too "defeat autism now" (google it), but I could not find a pediatric doctor listed under the DAN doctor's listings. There a Dr. Rao, listed in Plano that specializes in allergies, asthma and innoculations, but I cannot get 'mom' to make an appointment. It would be wonderful if we could get him to lecture to expectant mothers.
My daughter-in-law's belief system is that her doctor is trained and educated to know what is best. So, it follows that I don't know what's best. I've seen my grandbaby once since he was born because I'm giving 'mom' some cooldown time. My concern is that she will continue on the "trust the doctor only" path and the baby will get shots he doesn't need. He had the completely unnecessary Hep B vaccine when he was one day old because of the perceived 'control issue' between us.
I tried to educate both parents before the baby was born, and they seemed to understand and be in agreement about waiting and spacing and not getting the shots that are not necessary, but since his birth, it has been a big issue. I understand that the doctor hasn't studied the side effects and he does't know any better and would never intentionally harm that baby, but my daughter-in-law will only listen to the doc. My son is just trying to keep peace in the home, and has decided because of that to "just take our chances". I'm heart broken and upset that somehow I have pushed too hard and made it (in her mind) a competition when all I want is for them to have a happy home and a healthy baby.
Who first mentioned to you about the vaccine danger issues? Do you have anyone in your acquaintence that has learning disabilities or autism?
I would appreciate any advise you can give me about how to get 'mom' to understand.
Also, if you look in the school system's website you can usually find a statement about opting out of the vaccines either because of religion or because of conscience (I think I'm saying that right.) Usually the information is directing you to get a form from the state of Texas and turn it into your school. Look on the Allen ISD website and follow some links to the parent education. A friend told me about that and then I found it in Carrollton's. You have to look pretty hard because it's buried, but the info is in both of those school district's websites. It's probably in your's too.
Follow the 'parent education or information path'
You're on the right track.